if you take your husbands money....?

Question

and use it to pay bills and buy food or things for your kids is this stealing.? whats your opinion? he doesnt klnow until its all spent that you took it

Answer 1

i dont think its stealing i think it is very good that you do that save your money to treat yourself lol you deserve it hope you feel better lol

Answer 2

I always take money from my bf's wallet to take care of things around the house. I always tell him however so he isnt thinking someone actually stole anything from him. He also has a checkbook so if he doesnt have cash on hand he can write a check, BUT he has to let me know that so i can balance the books. its a win-win situation in our house since everything is 50/50.

I say if you are taking it for basic needs, you can tell him after, or just ask up front. If you need it to waste, I say you should use your own money for that unless he gives you "waste" money.

We have our own set aside money so we usually dont have to use bill/supply money to waste- that way there is no arguing when he wants to go get a video game or i want to get my hair done.

We have kids therefore he knows that if i am taking something from him it usually always goes to wards the house or the kids, so he is never worried.

Answer 3

yeah, stealing. It probably makes him less likely to want to earn more. How would you feel if he took your money and bought beer? Convince him to buy food and bills and things for the kids first instead. Unless he is jerk, he would.

Answer 4

It's not "his money" and its sure as hell not stealing. It's half yours and just like the other answerer, I don't have to ask for it, he gives it to me and I take care of what needs to be done. As long as you can account for it, he shouldn't have a problem with it. Anything in a marriage is mines and ours, not his and hers. I wouldn't spend it all though, then he might be mad if you all don't have anymore coming for another week or two.

Answer 5

If your just taking his money and not telling him then thats not cool. Its disloyal and he wouldnt be able to trust you. If your going to take it just bring the receipts showing its for money and food. My husband has his account and I have mine but we both know that our kids and food are priority. On bills we might fuss but we know how much money we have in our accounts. Be honest with him..Dont do that to him.He is not an ATM. He is there to HELP you provide. Be respectful.

Answer 6

Once you are married, it's also your money, so no, it's not stealing. If you are spending it for food, utilities and needed items for the kids, it is DEFINITELY not stealing. You should be up front about the finances, both you and your spouse, so there are no surprises.

Answer 7

At least you are using it to buy necessities and not blowing it foolishly. If you or the kids need it, then its not stealing. If you go and spend it all on a new wardrobe for yourself, then I would call that stealing.

Answer 8

Since you're married everything of yours is his and everything of hid is yours. The two of you are supposed to act as one entity. Since you are using the money for the household and not being selfish, it's NOT stealing. It's running the house.

Answer 9

I don't take my husband's money, I earned it, besides its my paycheck for all the work i do here making a home. From being a lady in waiting to a maid, to a hooker, to a mother. He gets the wife thing for free. buy four get one free.

Answer 10

NO it's not stealing !!!!!
Tell him HE needs to pay all the bills, and do all the shopping for a month. THEN he'll know where all the money goes!!!!

Answer 11

I don't touch my husband's money and he doesn't touch mine. I like it that way. There's never any argument about who wants to buy what. If I want to go blow $500.00 on something, I just do...it's my money. Same with him though too. He can spend whatever he wants on whatever he wants and I couldn't care less...it is his money. We have no arguements about money unlike a lot of other people.