I was over at my boyfriends house, we have been dating for 3 yrs. now, and his mom kept telling me, make sure you are sure about my son, because it seems like everytime he does or says something it upsets you, she kept saying to make sure i still wanted to marry him and put up with the way he is. after she said all that, i got out the house crying and i was upset with her what do you think. am i right or is she right???
2006-09-05 08:46:39 · 13 answers · asked by LoveBug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well you guys been dating for quite some time now and well if he does upset u once in a while do you guys make up after that?? or its always he says something to upset u? if that's the case than you might wanna rethink of marriage!!!
And if all she said is not correct than just ignore her dear.. in laws don't go away.. especially after you get married to him.. she will be around u... ignorance is the best weapon... telling u from experience i got one... i would have filed for divorce if it were for her but... its not her whom i have to spend the rest of my life with its my husband... as long as he is understanding that's all that matters to me... as for her... in one ear out the other!!!
Don't let her upset u at all... and don't let her talk to you in that way either.... otherwise she will walk all over you!! Be strong and hold your head high!! things that happen between you n your boyfriend has got nothing to do with her till you guys want to get her involved!!
2006-09-05 08:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he make you feel? Do you want to marry him? Are you always upset? If so, maybe you should reconsider marrying him. Sounds like to me the mother is either trying to tell you something (like she knows something he did wrong) and just does not want to betray her son by coming right out and telling you, or she does not want you to marry her son. How is your relationship with her? It all depends on if she is really looking out for your best interest. If she is appreciate it. If you dont think so, then just ignore it. Its your life and if you love this man, if he makes you happy and you think you want to spend the rest of your life with him, do so.
2006-09-05 08:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know who is wrong oir right--but i'd heed her advise. is she right---are you upset w/his behavior and actions. A lot of people overlook behavior/actions because they're in love. However, these behaviors come to haunt them. May be she is trying to prevent you or her son from making a mistake and being hurt. She wants you to be certain this is the best thing for both of you! No need to cry. If she doesn't have any cause for concern, ask her whether she is trying to talk you out of marrying her son!
2006-09-05 09:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does stuff that upsets you and you don't like the way he makes you feel DO NOT expect that he will change once you get married or that you can change him. Because it won't happen. Don't think you can change him!
2006-09-05 08:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by JENNIFER W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the whole situation and it's kind of hard to follow the way you write it.... Is she saying it to be mean to you or to bash her son... maybe she's trying to make him look bad in order to get him to move out. Or is it she's trying to be mean to you, what is her son telling her about you.. or maybe you're just being WAY too emotional... what do you think?
2006-09-05 08:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you get upset at the drop of a hat, and she's worried that her son's going to spend years, and years trying to keep you from having another emotional meltdown.
She's not worried about what you will have to put up with. She's worried about what her son and his family are going to have to put up with.
It's not that she's concerned about your doubts about him. They all have doubts about you. Turn off the waterworks and grow up.
2006-09-05 08:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by biiiiaaach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u mad i think, why r u caring other when other is not caring u, listen life is beautifula nd njoy them and live happlly, ya i know u not like this type of words from em but this is truth, guys always say that girls is like bus when one is gone another is come, like that guys is also that one go another is come, it also happen in india because in the ratio between girls and guys r very law, so consider in ur life and make happy ur life,
so bye and take care and full fill ur dreams.
2006-09-05 23:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by choudhary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother probably knows him better than anyone and knows what he is capable of. She may really like you and can't give you advice how she wants to without seeming like a bad mother. She is warning you in a subtle way. I would trust her and be more aware of his actions.
2006-09-05 08:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by I'm with Stupid. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like a smart mom. IF shes saying this make sure you can put up with him ,she may tiring to help you
2006-09-05 08:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by mawma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she right that every time he does or says smth it upsets you? if you get upset with him - i suggest you think about it more thoroughly
2006-09-05 08:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋