iam 23 years old and my mum still treats me like a baby and the rest of my family treet me like crap and thay woulder why i suffer from dippreshion and know that iam moving on in my life and want to move my mum is pulling me back agen and thretning me if i move what do i do
2006-09-05 08:36:46 · 13 answers · asked by clairebare 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
May be it's because your mum loves you.and doesn't want to let go of you,my son is 27 this month he has gone off travelling for two years,but he is still my baby and always will be,your children always are until the day you die,but you need to be a mum to really understand,why not sit your mum down with a cuppa and have a good old fashioned talk,tell her how you feel,but also bear in mind that may be your mum is not well or has other important things on her mind,but please talk to her,no shouting just talk,good luck
2006-09-06 06:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I hate to say it, but you need to grow up and stop wallowing in self pity.
Ask yourself if there are genuine reasons why your family treat you badly.
Get a job (if you have not already) and go ahead with your plan to move out. Don't let your mum ruin your life - what is she threatening you with by the way.
Also, might I suggest that you enrol in some sort of evening class to learn how to spell - it will help you get on in life in relation to finding a job.
2006-09-05 15:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sally J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, but you didn't have the opportunity to go to school much did you?
She is probably worried that you will be a burden on her for the rest of her life and at the age of 23 you should be in your own home with a decent job and looking after yourself.
Should have paid more attention at school, honey.
2006-09-05 15:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should move and be nice but firm, but also stand on your own two feet, its no good acting like a baby and saying ...mum can you cook for me..... wash my clothes..... go the bank for me...... clean my room.etc etc and then moan when she mothers you in other ways. you need to treat your mother with respect and love but be firm in looking after your self and try and take an adult approach and maybe even do more for her to show her you have now grown up, but really if you want to get your own place and stand independent then you must talk to her and hopefully go with her blessing explaining that she is not losing you you are just ready to branch out and look after yourself the way mum has taught you.
2006-09-05 15:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by quornandwafflesagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most moms do this to their children, I use to complain about my mom doing it to me, the curfews, being nosy with my friends always giving her opinion towards something, I hated it, now that I have children she does the same thing but you know something, I am going to do the same to them, it's something about carrying a child for 9 months and wanting to protect them from every bit of the real world that you can. When your mom acts like that just kinda ignore her and change the subject. Telling her will just make her upset at you.
2006-09-05 15:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because at the end of the day u will always be your mums little gilrl. Just tell her that ur growing up and u need to stand on ur own 2 feet
2006-09-05 15:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 reasons for this to be taking place. Number one, you will always be her baby regardless of your age. Number two..You are not being assertive as an adult... You may find if you cajole her a bit when this subject comes up, she may see how unnecessary her action is. Learn to laugh about it and kid her a bit.
2006-09-05 16:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She treats you like a baby because you let her. Act like an adult, move out of the house and be a responsible person and she can't treat you like a kid anymore.
Get some therapy to deal with your depression, but you have control of your own life. Acting like a victim because of how people treat you, will only make them treat you like a baby longer, because you are acting like one.
2006-09-05 16:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mums do this as if u let them if ur still living at home move out and get on with ur life if u live out side of home you must tell ur mum how u feel if it sill doesn't change don't bother with them for a while and then they will see your point of view
2006-09-05 15:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by REBECCA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might see a therapist. They often have wonderful suggestions for how to deal with a dysfunctional family situation. And your mom is behaving in a dysfunctional manner.
2006-09-05 15:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋