I was helping my new friend put his clothes away and i opened the draw to pack his boxers away and saw what looked like paper printed pictures. I was curious so i pulled the papers out and had a lil flip throught, to my discovery i found the most shocking nude pictures of his ex...AAGG not a good thing to see, but i took them and put them in my bag. This is where i'm confused as to what to do now. Do i give them back and ask questions? or, do i not mention anything and if he ask talk about it then? Please i hope someone can help me...
2006-09-05 08:21:07 · 13 answers · asked by Shocked 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well thank you for all the responses...i cant choose which one is better they all seem good. I did what i only knew to do, last nite i went back to his house and sat down and gave them back to him, explained how i found them and why i took them. He was more upset because he thought i was snooping through his things. He understood he asked if i showed them to anyone and i never did. I was confused but now he knows the truth and he can make up his mind from here. I know i did wrong but thank you everyone i feel better and i know because of my actions i lost a close friend to me, but like you all said how close was he to me if i could steal from him!!! MY BAD!!
2006-09-06 04:42:54 · update #1
put them back and do not say a word about them to anyone.
2006-09-05 08:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually quite common. People seem to take a lot of these kind of pictures while they are together, and if they are explicit, and this was an ex, I can understand why you'd be upset.
Here's the thing, though: You had no right to take them. In fact, you would be best served to put them back where you found them and don't mention it it all. If he's no longer with this person, and you're certain of that, then all this is going to do is lead to a big fight. He's going to want to know why you invaded his privacy like that, etc. etc.
Do you wish they didn't exist? Sure!! None of us want to picture our mates with someone else, but if they had a relationship, he wants a memento. Sad but true.
Keep this in mind: YOU are with him now. Enjoy that time together. Just don't take any dirty pictures, ok?
2006-09-05 15:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you take them?
That was weird to do? You stole from your new friend.
Rule #1) Don't be in a guy friends Boxer drawers (this is strange already)
Rule #2) Don't steal your friends stuff. I cant stand friends that steal
Rule #3) Either give the photos back, or stuff them into his drawer without him knowing, or burn/destroy them.
Rule #4) Follow rule #3, don't be a jerk and post them or show anyone else. Just either give them back, or destroy them.
Rule #5) Stop stealing from your friends, If you can't seek help.
2006-09-05 15:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by stingyguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have looked at the pictures in the first place as they werent yours to look at ...you shud have said when you saw them ...asked if you could look at them... much less put them in your bag ... i think you should own up and say what happened and explain why you did what you did ... and hope that he will take it in the right way.. and maybe talk to you about it ...but dont expect ...just hope ... and try not to let your curiosity get the better of you in future ....how would you feel if he had looked at things you have ..in a drawer .. not on open view ..i think an apology might be a good way to start ...
2006-09-05 15:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by she wolf. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, he probably just hasn't gotten around to throwing them out... unlike girls, men don't hold things from past relationships as near and dear to them, therefore are in no hurry to start pitching things. Don't get all offended just yet.... take them to him, be nice, don't jump to conclusions, ask if he's holding onto them for a reason or if you can pitch them. He'll say pitch 'em... (If he doesn't... you may consider getting rid of him)
2006-09-05 15:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are this guys 'friend', then you should have never taken anything that belongs to him in the first place. Additionally, you shouldn't have been looking through his stuff, even while you are helping (I use the term loosely here) him. Bad girl, shame, shame!!!
2006-09-05 15:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRust me just be honest and tell him whathappened down to u getting nervous and putting them in ur bag. Its your friend he should understand. Good luck
2006-09-05 15:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just your friend? hmmm if he's your boyfriend, I'd question him about it, but if he's just the friend, I wouldn't mention it... maybe try to put them back without him noticing? It might be nothing you need to worry about.
2006-09-05 15:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by tem_in_a_box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should not have took things that does not belong to you in the first place. now you can't be mad because you are a theif, i don't know about you but, if you are not his current gf, then you should put it back.
2006-09-05 15:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them back....I wouldn't ask a thing. However, it appears that you need to. So...do what you must to feel better about you!
2006-09-05 15:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋