What's it mean when someone is a great and wonderful friend, but they claim they want to be more than that? This guy and I have been great friends for about 8 months (not exactly sure how long, but pretty long), and he is always telling me how much he wants to see me, hug me, talk to me, hold me, and go for walks with me. I told him no for the longest time, and he understood that I wasn't looking for a relationship at the moment..and he was fine with it. Then suddenly he tells me I need to make a choice, to date him or just be friends. He knows that I like him...he's more sure of it than I....I tell him I'm not aloud to date, so either way I couldn't. (I'm almost 16) He said it's ok with him and he'll respect that. But ever since then I feel like I'm losing him, sometimes he ignores me (or is seems that way), and sometimes he freaks out and get mad at me for telling him I can't sneak out or something. Then he'll be really nice and understanding and totally awesome again. ??????????????
2006-09-05 08:15:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I CAN'T get him out of my head either. He's always in my mind. I don't know. I think he may just be getting inmpatient, it's the normal thing right? I'm really confused, because he ignores me now and doesn't really want to talk about things.
2006-09-05 08:21:05 · update #1
he just turned 18. =(
2006-09-05 08:27:29 · update #2
If he's your age then you should date him and see how it goes but dont sneak out the house for him and if he is older than you then keep away from him..he is bad news.
2006-09-05 08:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is freaking out on you because you wont disobey your parents and get yourself in to trouble with them? That's just wrong and sorry but you don't want or need friends like that!! He doesn't respect that or you or he wouldn't be pushing you to do things wrong. This is going to happen to you a lot unfortunately, there will be people that try to get you to do things that you know you shouldn't be doing. You might as well decide right now whether you are going to be yourself or be the puppet of other people. Trust me when you do get in trouble people like that won't be around to help you through it.
2006-09-05 15:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have heard this before......What does your head tell you? Your first instinct/feeling is usually right. A friend does not push you to make a decision. A friend is kind, caring and accepts what you offer. Be honest, be straight. If he can't handle and is a good guy then that is unfortunate but that is the way it is.
I know it's nice to have the attention and he's seems like a good guy......Tell him what you feel even if you are unsure but withdrawing from you, pushing you is not making you comfortable. Be fair, give respect.
IAMWOODY
2006-09-05 15:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by redflying36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here is a intsy bitsy tip, OK I have this friend who likes me more than a friend and I like him too but, anyway, He lives right across the street from me and at about 10:00 at night when he walks his dog he will come to my window (after my parents are asleep) He broke my window, torn the screen, and kissed me at the window!!! Then one night I was at my friends house and he didn't know I was gone and he came to my window and my mom seen him and she grounded me for 2 months!!! I hated it SO bad!!! I didn't talk to him the next day and he wasn't allowed at my window, in the yard, and I wasn't allowed to talk to him on the phone until I was ungrounded!!! SO HERE IS MY ADVICE: DON'T SNEAK OUT OR TALK TO HIM THROUGH YOUR WINDOW!
2006-09-05 15:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heis playing a game. He knows you won't just drop him because you guys have been friend for a while. I recommend you set some boundries and if he doesn't like them, just drop them. I was raised with nothing but guys and I know most the games they play. Don't worry about him if he gets all mad that just means he was playing you.You shouldn't worry about him that much, there are so many guys out there its not even funny. Good luck with you situation.
2006-09-05 15:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Izzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK girl, this person is who you should be away from, I'm afraid. He is not being honest with you as he is nice so as to get it his own way - that is to have you as a girlfriend! (run away from him girl).
He is pushing you toooooo much to trust or be a friend! In the future you will be able to find more worthy and truer friends than this!
how old is he again?
2006-09-05 15:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by FairyQueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering your age tell him that he needs to have a talk with your mom and dad if he really cares for you!! DON'T SNEAK OUT!! he needs to give you more respect-or find someone who will!!! Above all don't let him play mind games with you!!!!
2006-09-05 15:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes attempting to respect your decision, but failing at it.
2006-09-05 15:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋