Maybe I was married for too long, but I just don't see how people can have "recreational" or "meaningless" sex....I don't know about anyone else but I wouldn't be able to go there with someone I didn't have some feeling for, then I wouldn't be able to stop myself from develpoing even more for that person. So in the recreational sex department I would always be the one to get hurt. No thanks...anyone else agree?
2006-09-05 08:08:00 · 24 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think it depends on what stage of life ur in when ur younger all u think about is sex but as u get older it seems to mean more. at least that was how it was 4 me
2006-09-05 08:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by canibus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's different for everyone... The range of "feelings" one person can develop for another is so wide that the "cut and dry" recreational sex and a deep meaningful attachment with a potential to get hurt are not by far the only options. Is having sex with a person you're so attracted to you can hardly stand it "meaningless"? I happen to think it's really cool - and one doesn't necessarily have to fall in love with every single person they're attracted to. I agree that the best and most memorable sex *is* infused with some kind of meaning, and yes, sometimes people get hurt in relationships; but the meaning can be anything, from "wow, she's hot" to "this is exciting" to "this person is great" to "I want to be with him for the rest of my life" and anywhere in between.
2006-09-05 15:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - sex feels great, and meeting a hot stranger and spending the night sounds exciting.
But waking up the next day, next to a stranger and probably hung over, is awful. AWKWARD - because one could have misunderstood the other's intentions. Someone could be hurt emotionally.
Even if not, what do you do? Go out for coffee? Share the morning? No, frequently it's less "friendly" than two folks sharing an elevator. You just get dressed and leave.
A very empty feeling, to be honest.
Like a lot of things, ok maybe when you're young.
But sad when you're older. Been there, done that.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-05 15:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that is how you feel, yes, and you should not let anyone tell you to change. Stick with your beliefs and be true to yourself!
Now, do I think recreational sex is possible for some people? Yes, certainly, for most men and many women. However, clearly, what's OK or possible for one person may not be OK or possible for another. There are all kinds of people, and the kind that you are is valid and normal.
2006-09-05 15:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Sex to me means emotions. I tried once to have sex with a person I just met and let me tell you it was so awkward. I did not like it at all. In my opinion in order to be comfortable with a person sexually, you have to know them, trust them and have a connection with them. Yes and you can get hurt easily this way. Even though I knew nothing was going to progress with this meaningless sexual experience I had, I got hurt and upset that this person did not call me the next day. I mean he eventually called, but for more sex, which I did not do... LOL. Never again.
2006-09-05 15:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While that's not my personal view, it is fine that you feel that way. Casual sex is not, and should not, be a societal norm. The important thing to know is what works for YOU. If casual sex isn't it, then don't go there!
Many of my friends who are post-divorce are having a hard time getting back into the dating scene because it seems so booty-oriented. But you just have to put your foot down and be okay with yourself.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-05 15:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Marion K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Meaningless sex is just a sad search for satisfaction that cannot be fulfilled in the long run. Life is about more than sex. Hopefully those who disagree will have their eyes opened to reality.
2006-09-05 15:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by ArbonneAdvertising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me sex has to mean more then lets just "get lucky" tonight. I respect myself to much just to jump in bed with just anyone. I want to have a relationship that means something for both of us. And think about it, if someone is having sex that easily with you...then think about how many others before you & for me I couldn't do it. There is such a tenderness & emotional journey to "making love" that is so special between two people that really love each other that you just can't explain unless you yourself have expirenced it before. So no I could not have "meaningful sex".
2006-09-05 15:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by alaskanborn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are stupid and this world is so full of sex. It's everywhere: on the tv in the papers, all over everything you see. All the new generations are being brainwashed into thinking that stuff is okay and it isn't. It's stupid but there is nothing you can do to stop it and its sad.
2006-09-05 15:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by tem_in_a_box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure lots of people agree with you. people that usually have meaningless sex have usually been hurt by someone so they dont want to get close to anyone and I'm sure they dont even enjoy it...they probably just feel used and cheap.
2006-09-05 15:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
up until recently i thought that it would never happen,much less ever work for me.now that i am older i tried it and it does fill the gap in my life.my new friend is in a very similar relationship as i, so our feelings for each other are purley animalistic in nature.
i was married at 18 so i was never a part of the late teens early twenties pick-ups
2006-09-05 15:16:18 · answer #11 · answered by desayunogratis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋