My best friend just told me she has feelings for girls. I know I am supposed to be accepting and all, but, frankly this freaks me out. We had PE together, sleepovers, etc. Was she checking me out all that time? Help!
2006-09-05 07:59:47 · 33 answers · asked by kaylie.grl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had that happen to me and I freaked too, so I know where you are coming from. The truth is that she might have been checking you out, and she might like you. She might feel that she can make a move on you because you know. It could also be that this ruins your friendship. (It did for me.)I would talk it out with her. She is your best friend and if you tow are willing to talk then you can ask her your questions yourself instead of guessing.
2006-09-05 08:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sleepovers with - and fantasies about - one of my friends in high school.
I also had sleepovers with - and NO fantasies about - a different friend in high school.
It's all about the individual relationship. Some of your own straight friends would never even be considered as possible lovers because they feel more like family.
Might be a good idea to just ask if she's attracted to you -- not if she's in love with you -- you'd probably know THAT by now...
This is where it gets weird - because if you find out she's not even a LITTLE attracted to you, you will no doubt ask "Why not?!?" And there you go...
But you ARE best friends, so you SHOULD be able to laugh about it -- and she's NEVER made a pass at you, so you have your own beliefs to deal with -- and how open is YOUR mind to the world?
Good Luck... :)
2006-09-05 08:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by fitpro11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what you think! Just because some girl decides she likes girls does not mean she will try to be checking out everyone or touching them or trying to kiss them. Like, honestly, I figured that I like girls too. But it's like the same thing as liking guys, just because you like guys, does not mean you're freaky into looking at them and trying to hook up with them (ahem- most of the time anyways!) You still get crushes and have ones that are absolutely JUST friends that you could NEVER think of that way. So don't be freaked out, it's kinda cool once you think about it.
2006-09-05 08:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by tem_in_a_box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be accepting of others but that doesn't mean you have to be accepting of their behavior. If someone told you they participate or engage in behavior that is against your morals or values... and wanted you to accept that about them would that be ok? It doesn't mean you should hate them or encourage their behavior. Let her know what you stand for and if you are uncomfortable with her choices she should know that too. If she's your friend she'll respect your feelings and still have respect for you as a friend. You both may need to move on.
2006-09-05 08:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, and my name is Mahnazi Shams. And I'm gonia help you. So, don't you worry. Don't think I'm gonia give you wrong advice, because this has happen to me too.
It's not what you think! Just because some girl decides she likes girls, does not mean she will try to be checking out everyone or touching them or trying to kiss them. Like, honestly, I figured that I like girls too. But it's like the same thing as liking guys, just because you like guys, does not mean you're freaky into looking at them and trying to hook up with them (most of the time anyways) You still get crushes and have ones that are absolutely JUST friends that you could NEVER think of that way. So don't be freaked out, it's kinda cool once you think about it.
So, don't forget. My name is Mahnazi Shams. So, don't you worry. Don't think I'm gonia give you wrong advice, because this has happen to me too.
2006-09-05 08:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mahnazi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok did she say she has feeling for u? if not y r u worrying. just because she is a lesbein doenst mean that she is attracted to u. she thinks of u as a best friend and has told u somthing that means a lot to her. u be a good best friend and hellp her through this difficult time. stop being selfish and be with her she needs u as a friend now more than any other time
2006-09-05 08:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down and ask if she have feelings for you and set her straight frankly if she's checkin you out then that's should be a compliment becuz u look that good to have not only boys lookin at you but girls too n be the friend you call urself u are to her and be there for her becuz she probably scared n confided in the only she feel she can trust and to betray that trust will really hurt her
2006-09-05 08:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see, this is why there are so many homo phobes. just because someone is gay, doesn't mean they are always checking out everyone of the same sex, no more than you check out every guy you meet. they are not perverts, they are gay, and that's just the way they are. for example, why do people think a gay guy teacher is going to attack all the little boys in his class? why don't they think that a heterosexual teacher is going to attack all the little girls? I tell you why, because people are ignorant and confuse gay with pervert. and by the way, I am not gay, just well informed and accepting of people's preferences.
2006-09-05 08:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue the friendship after making it clear that you do not share her feeling about girls. Perhaps you could gently tell her that you would have preferred to know about her preferences earlier, if that is indeed what you feel. If you feel distinctly uncomfortable about this relationship now, you could discuss it further with yourself, and come to a conclusion about the future of the relationship. Life sometimes throws surprises, and we just have to meet them as best we can.
2006-09-05 08:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by tirumalai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can accept her for who she is ...your friend... but not the false feelings that she's coming up with homosexuality and lesbianism are just not right i mean think about it anatonomicly a guy and a girl they fit together both like a puzzle and to make babies but other than this union of a man and a woman they don't fit not at all two guys or two girls help her out she mayb e going through tough times with family of guys, or just in general life support her but don't get too attached and touching it'll only make things worse to work thorugh but don't make her feel different because she trusted you enought to tell you how she feels just be her friend..
2006-09-05 08:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by purrplepuddding 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋