his sister is already buying stuff we think i am al ready i don't wont to hurt his feelings please help
2006-09-05 07:49:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
your not ready!! Please please please, wait! Talk to you mom and see what she has to say. Make sure you tell her his mom says its okay. so they can talk about it.
Don't ruin your life you are soo young, you cant even drive yet how are you going to get the baby diapers and things like that without being dependant on someone else. Wait till you are married. Please...leave this boy.
2006-09-05 07:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please do NOT have a baby for the reason that you don't want to hurt your boyfriend's feelings. At 15, you are still a child as well, much too young to have a baby. It may seem like the right thing to do right now, but how will you support a child? Do you have hopes and dreams for yourself? Do you want to go to college or travel or pursue a career? All of these things can be done with a child, but are MUCH more difficult to attain. Becoming a mom is a HUGE decision. You will be a mom forever and your life will no longer be only yours to live. Will you be OK with having to stay at home with the baby while your boyfriend, his mom and his sister are off living their own lives? I think of all the people who I knew who had boyfriends/girlfriends at age 15. None of them are still together. There is a much bigger life out there than the one you are now living. Wait to have a baby until you are certain you are in a stable, loving, committed relationship that is financially secure to support a baby.
2006-09-05 15:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited til I was 28 and had twins, and I tell everyone that I'm soooo glad I waited til later in my life. You need to get out and live your life like a teenager should. You have a baby at this age adn you might as well kiss your young fun life goodbye. besides that fact, that the chances of you and your man staying together are very slim. Just stop and think about it and really think if your ready to be tied down to a baby already. Because once you have it, it's your to keep for the next 18 years.
If you already are, then I wish you good luck and I hope you didn't do it this young on purpose. But things do happen unexpectedly. and just remember, he might be ready, but he's not the one who has to carry it for the 9 months and feed it and change it and be with it for the next 18 years. Guys have it a lot easier then the women! Trust me!!! They will be gone and leave you holding the baby!
2006-09-05 15:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by nalerij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one situation where you have to say SCREW EVERYONE ELSE'S FEELINGS.
You are the one who is 16 years old and from the sound of your question, not ready to have a baby.
If you're not ready, don't. It's that simple.
I don't know why a mother would be pressuring her teenage child and his girlfriend to have a baby when they're not even legal adults themselves. That's so crazy!
Trust me when I say this : Hurt his feelings. He'll get over it and find another girl to have a baby with, but don't let that be you if that's not the life you want for yourself right now. You will be so tied up with responsibility that you may never get to finish school or hang out with your friends or do the hobbies you wish to pursue.
Also, if he's not planning to marry you, you could find yourself in the middle of an ugly custody battle. If this woman is so anxious for her boy to have a baby, how do you know that she won't try to declare you unfit and offer to raise the baby herself.
There is something very wrong with this pictuire.
Listen to your gut. It's trying to guide you in the right direction.
If he breaks up with you, so what. There are tons of other boys out there who will like you without trying to force you to have a baby against your will.
2006-09-05 15:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do Is to sit them down and tell them that you are not ready to be a mommy and that you want more things In life for yourself and a baby later on In life If you choose to have the baby later and that later on down the road when you are finished with school and you have choose a career that will help you and your b/f out with supporting a family then you will have a baby, If they can't understand this then maybe you need to think of new arrangements on where to live. If your b/f and his mother respected you they wouldn't be pressuring you to have a baby I think you need to go back home or stay with a Friend. I wish you the best and I hope that when you sit them down to talk about this that everything works out for you.
2006-09-05 14:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by twofroggiesand1princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get away from people who are adults and think that a sixteen year old is ready for a baby. This is the most absurd thing I have ever heard. If you can't stand up for yourself and act like a responsible adult then you have no business being a mom yet. I bet If you told your mom what they want she would help you get out of this situation real quick.
2006-09-05 14:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by brunette 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not do this if you are not ready. You need to be ready for your babies sake. Personally, I think you are too younge. Enjoy being younge. A baby is a lot of responsibility. And money. I'm 30 and just had my first. He's 10 months now. I'm so glad I enjoyed my younger years--just having fun--no worries. I'm still younge, even at 30. Don't rush it. Good luck.
2006-09-05 14:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not even 16 yet...how old is your b/f? You need to live a little more of your life before having a baby. I was 17 when I got pregnant with my son, who is four now but it's been tough trying to go to college and raising a baby and all that. Take some time to be young. Don't rush it.
2006-09-05 17:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriend and his mom freaking crazy!?!?!?!?!?! How stupid can they be? You are 16!! I had my first when I was 21, and I still wondered if I was ready. I had a baby brother when I was 17, that was enough for me to know that I surely didn't want a baby at that age. Babies are fun but they are only babies a little while and they are hard work. They consume all of your effort, energy, a life. If your bf or his mom think you need to have a baby at 16 you need to get out of that situation. You are just asking for trouble. This has nothing to do with how they feel about it. It's all about you!!!! You need to tell them exactly how you feel about the situation, be honest. They cannot make up your mind for you. If you are unsure about it, which it sounds like you aren't, then tell them. If your bf really loves you than he will respect you and your opinion, no matter what. If he can't, then get rid of him. He's not worth it. Besides, can he support you and that child financially and emotionally? Is he ready for the up all nighters with a sicky child? Can he handle your mood swings when the baby has been screaming it's lungs out for hours? Will he help out with diaper changes, feedings, baths? Does he have the patience for a baby. . .do you? It takes a lot of patience!!!
Go out, live life, go to school, hang out with friends, have fun. You are so young. finish high school, go to college. There is plenty of time for kids. I am absolutely not against children. I have two little angels of my own. I love them to death, but you have to be ready, both physically, emotionally, & psychologically to bring a baby into this world. It's a life you are creating, not a toy. If his mother wants a baby, she needs to have one herself. She doens't need to live vicariously through you. How selfish!!
I know you are not a kid anymore, but believe me you still have lot of growing up to do. I promise you are not ready to raise a kid yourself yet.
Wait, please!!! If your bf can't respect that, than move on, you don't need him or his crazy mother!!!!!!
2006-09-05 15:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do your parents feel about this? You're way too young to have a child. Is his mother going to financially support you, her son and your child? Or does she just support the "idea" of your having a baby? If she's going to support you financially, that will get old fast. Then what do you do? Babies are not toys. This is a serious responsibility you would be taking on.
2006-09-05 14:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is the easy part.....Raising it is the hard part...Please consider this first, that your boyfriend is probably wanting a baby with you because he is afraid that he may loose you otherwise. He is insecure. And what about school, friends, other boyfriends to date in your life..Do you want to be married at this age, and only be with one man for the next 50 years. Wait until you are older and have finished school and college. God will bring you the man of your dreams, marry you and truly love you. And then you can plan on having a family...Please make the right decision...Raising kids are difficult, even for older moms and dads..Dont let his mom and sister make this sound so easy. they are wrong...Live your young life for you, and keep yourself pure for you future love of your life.. he is out their.......
2006-09-05 15:52:52 · answer #11 · answered by Suzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋