How tough is a divorce when there are two young children involved?
2006-09-05 07:39:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From my own personal experience and a bit of speculation, it must be twice as difficult for you than it was for me. I suffered like no one will ever konw because I do not show emotions (but my daughter knew that I was suffering and this caused her to suffer FOR me).
Man, too often it is so easy for other guys to walk away from the responsibility and and love of their children but... I couldn't. I still love my daughter, now grown and married, but all the fun and good times and helping her with her homework and fussing with her... I taught her to roller skate and ride a bike... she was and still is the center of my universe but I missed so much by living apart and only getting to visit and have an alternate weekend where I'd have to have her back home "not one minuteafter 6pm." She and I were buddies when she was young.
Love your children and remember they do not have a fault in what we grown-ups do. Call them when you're going to be late and always call ahead of time if you're not going to be able to make a visitation so they won't be disappointed by your unexpected absence and can arrange other things. A lot of extra hugs will help them a long way, too.
2006-09-05 08:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very simple thing for you to do, but keep in mind that you will be paying out a chunk of you paycheck every week and driving back and forth a lot. It's not cheap. The kids will suffer the most. They get tossed back and forth and are in the middle of everything. You are a lot better off trying to save the marriage anyway you can. You two were crazy about each other before, find out why not now and cure it. Everybody wins and is happy to. Good luck to ya!!! GaryT
2006-09-05 14:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.... Divorce is tough enough for anyone.... Its worse when there are kids involved. Just be prepared for some late night talks with the kids to make sure BOTH parents let them know it is NOT their faults.
2006-09-05 14:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how the ex is acting and talking about the children.....
the woman claims they are best for the kids...not always the case.
most women hold the child over the men as control...that's wrong.
it is very hard when kids are involved...because they are brought into the problem involuntarily, they are made to choose and that's wrong, as parents we [most] do not mean for it to happen, but it is a fact.
talk when the kids are not around, do them the favor of not hearing it, they don't need to hear it.
they are innocent.
if you care that much then leave them where they are best, and see them as much as you can.
2006-09-05 14:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by transvainia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very tough, my parents got divorced when I was 21 and my brother was 19. It was hard on all of us and really split the family in 2. People were tking sides and it was one huge mess.
2006-09-05 14:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Michael R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children will never be as well adjusted as they would be with two parents in the home. Divorce will affect them in someway. The extent that they are affected won't be apparent until they are adolescents or young adults.
2006-09-05 14:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by otterdog92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unbelievably tough. . .I would avoid it at any cost, if possible. If not, set up a STRONG visitation agreement backed and OKd by the court and stick to it. Kids pay BIG TIME for their parents screw ups and generally rebel to the hilt as a result. It's worth it to stay together for the kids IF you can do it amicably (you don't have to agree on everything just be there for them)
2006-09-05 14:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Verrrrrry tough and killer on the children. Once you're through, you will wonder if what you put them through was all worth it in the end.
You are sacrificing their happiness for your own.
I divorced my first husband when my oldest was young. I am remarried and would not ever do that again - was very hard on her. I made my bed, I will lie in it!
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2006-09-05 14:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on IF BOTH of you can put your children FIRST and act like adults.
The court system ONLY works IF you two can be civil.
Divorce is hard enough on adults - make it as painless as possibel for those babies!
Good Luck - search out some father sites for supprot!
AND make sure you get 50/50 custody!~
2006-09-05 14:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, it plays havoc with them. I look back and can see that many of the hang-ups that I deal with as an adult are directly related to my parent's divorce.
Even when it doesn't seem so, kids learn by watching your example of how to conduct relationships.
2006-09-05 14:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋