2006-09-05 07:25:01 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
don't have a baby until you are married and graduated from high school
2006-09-05 07:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya you should wait. Your still a child, how are you going to raise a child now. Do you even have a job? Are you done with school? College?A car? Insurance? your own house? Are you positive that your babies dad is not going to leave you? If you answered yes to all those question go ahead, good luck on having a baby! If you answered no to 1 or many of those questions I suggest waiting! But it's up to you, Im 21 and I have all of those things and I dont even feel ready yet! Ive always wanted children young too, but only because it looks fun, I know being a mother is hard and a full time job. Try getting a full-time job first see how that feels. Children are expensive, needy. If you love kids as much as it seems you do just think if you do have a baby will it be happy! Possibly being on welfare, the county, never enough food toys etc. Don't be selfish, the right time will come along very soon. Don't rush your life have fun!
2006-09-05 07:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well there are some serious questions you have to answer.
Can you support this baby the way it needs to be supported?
Can you finish school and pay for day care for this baby?
Do you honestly think you can deal with a baby 24/7 for the next 5 years?
Can you drive to take your baby to the hospital if something is wrong?
Do you have the education to get a good job to support a baby?
So far, I'd think you'd answer no to most of those questions. Honey, you're WAY too young to have a baby right now. I know they're cute, they give out unconditional love, and everyone oohs and aahs over them. But they are also a LOT of work. I really hope you decide to wait several more years before thinking about this again. Finish school, go to college, get a good job and then think about having a baby. Believe me, you'll be glad you waited. I had my first child at 18 and boy do I wish I had waited a couple of more years. I'm 28 now and expecting my 3rd son in January. I'm a college graduate with a degree and able to get a good paying job and support not only myself, but my children as well. That is a sense of security that I've never had before.
2006-09-05 07:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should definitely wait.
Babies are a joy to be around but they also come with a ton of strings attached. You have to be prepared to be there for the baby at all times, provide for the baby both financially and emotionally as well as prepare for their future.
There are plenty of reasons to wait.
You are still young and you have PLENTY of time to have children. You should really take this time and enjoy your own youth because once it's gone, you can't get it back. You have some of the best times of your life ahead of you - love, college, fun jobs that you can just have to make shopping money.
At the least, I would say wait until you are out of high school. Education is very important in today's job market and you have to have at least a high school education to get even a mediocre job.
Things will be a lot easier for you as well if you wait until you are older because you may meet someone and want to get married and have children together with them and they can help share in the responsibility for caring for the baby.
Right now, babies are very nostalgic for you I'm sure. They're so sweet to hold and play with, but it is a 24 hour job and one that you can't give back or put on someone else.
Enjoy other people's babies and wait to have your own until you live your own childhood years to their fullest. You won't regret it, I promise.
2006-09-05 07:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you don't want to have a baby you want a play thing. don't ever, ever do that to a child.
get that notion out of your head soon as you can. find some new friends, get a hobby or two or three even.
babies aren't like that.. the fun is over almost as soon as you are pregnant, you won't have any time for yourself let alone quality time. a child is a living thing that will need alot of attention, care and work.
also speaking of work. you will need to get a real good job or two and find someone who can attend to the child's needs when you're working to keep the child fed and healthy.
to keep the child happy will take much effort, you must be happy yourself along with able to keep the child happy which is very hard work.
think longer on this topic.
you also must find someone who is willing to spend life with you and the child when this happens. at this age that isn't going to happen really. sooner or later the other half will break away then there's even more problems and worries that will take it's toll on you and the child.
it's not a game, it not a funride it's not a toy.
2006-09-05 07:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should get to the bottom of why you think having your underdeveloped pelvis crack apart during childbirth would be fun. Caring for an infants requires around the clock care day and night. Children cost money. Money that you don't have because you can't legally work. You have no education that would get you a real job needed to support a family.
If you have a child now, you will be poor and your children will be poor. Being poor is not fun. Babies are not dolls. They are living breathing human beings that deserve the best you can give them, not the bare mininum that you would be able to provide.
Why not aim to get good grades and get a collage scholarship?
When I was your age, a girl in my school got knocked up. She had 3 kids with a guy who decided he didn't want her. One child went blind because she didn't have proper nutrition. The mother, my friend, was young and poor. The blindness was totally avoidable.
Whatever you do , don't bring another fatherless child into the world. Something makes me think that you already know how that feels.
2006-09-05 07:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pam 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the best way to make your decision is to take a friend or family member's child for a whole week, if they trust you to do it for that long! Not a baby, but a child! It is a rude awakening. It is not fun, and they are only babies for a very short period of time! They grow up! You know you can not support one at this time, and there will not be a stable, loving two -parent influence present. Don't ruin your life, and that of a child, before giving yourself a chance to learn and grow. In a year, you will look back on this and see how foolish it would have been. Please think twice, and give yourself a chance in life!
2006-09-05 07:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU'RE TOO YOUNG!
If you have a baby now, your parents will end up supporting it, as they are still supporting you. Also, if you have a child this early in life, you're not likely to finish high school. Even if you manage that, you're very unlikely to go on to college, thus limiting what you can do with the rest of your life. You're better off waiting until you finish college before you have a baby. You'll be older, wiser and more likely to find the right guy by then.
2006-09-05 07:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you have any idea what having a baby changes??? EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE!!!! I would do a lot of thinking and research on having a baby and get advice from those who had children young or at all.. My advice is just to WAIT and wait as long as you possibly can, because you may as well forget about having a life of your own if you have a child especially if you're going to be the primary care giver. Who's going to support this child? You still have to go to school, and you'd barely have time for a job. Just think about it...
2006-09-05 07:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I could be all adult on you and say that your too young for a baby, but i'm not that much older than yourself. Even though you've been wanting one, please do relise this is a huge responsibilty. While all your friends are going out, celbrating their 18th birthday's and then their 21st birthday, you will be taking care of your child if you do have one.
Do you have a partner? If you don't, please don't think about getting pregnant to guy you barley know, just think you will always be linked to that guy and so make sure you know him and trust him completely.
Also i have to warn you that it is actually illegal for you to be having sex before the age of 16.
If you know someone that has a baby, ask if they need a babysitter, or volenteer at a baby hospital. This will give you a greater knowledge of what will be expected of you.
All I can ask is you take my warnings on board before you even think about taking this further and asking you not too. Don't ruin what is the best part of being a teenager. Enjoy it. There will be plently more time for you to have a baby.
2006-09-05 07:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A baby is a beautiful blessing, when the time is right. with a baby comes providing not only love and affection, but food, shelter clothes, education and guidence. I really empower you to realise that also with baby comes loss of free time. loss of sleep! You are a young woman with alot of oppurtunity now, if you had a baby now you would not be doing what is best for you or the child. I beg you to wait. You will be glad you did and so will baby. Babys need alot , i was a mother at 17, unplanned but still i went to night school, i worked long hard hours.. i had a hard road and i dont think as much as i tried then that i was the mother to him that i could have been now much later in life as i am with my other children. Please listen to reason, listen to me.. wait. please
2006-09-05 07:44:32 · answer #11 · answered by ANGELA29 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋