why does everything go wrong with me??

Question

not only did i loose my best friend this spring but, now i just came home early and saw my girlfriend in bed with a MAN!!! OUR BED!!! my job sucks, my family is always giving me crap.. so can anyone answere me this

WHY ME!!??!!

Answer 1

you have to accept life for wat it is - if you cry until morning no one will help you and thas the truth leave your love life and focus on your real life becuase lovers come and go - besides I am muc wurse than you - my dad isnt here with me and my cousins have their dads come home evry night but mines doesnt

Answer 2

It must be the hardest thing in the world not to think "Why me?"
There's nothing you've done to merit all of this. It's the same when you read of a mother who's dying of cancer - who's daughter gets knocked down by a car and then the dog dies from blood poisoning. What's it all about? What it's all about is taking control - but only when you're good and ready. And the moment will come without that much intervention by you. When you say you "lost" your best friend - I'm not sure whether she died or you fell out big style. As for your girlfriend in your bed with a guy....
maybe you need to talk and soon. As far as your job goes -
nothing is keeping you there - we are all masters/mistresses of our own destiny and thankfully we are free to do anything legal that we want to do at any time. There maybe consequences - but everything needs balancing up. Families are families. The only way to resolve things is by talking. Maybe now isn't the right time - but the moment will come. In the meantime - get some paper and write down all the things that make you feel good. Chances are that these things are already happening for you. But, understandably a few difficult moments have cast a shadow over all the positive aspects of your life. Just be patient. Life has a habit of putting things right - even though it doesn't seem like it right now. Be patient. Seize the moment - but only when it feels right to do so.

Answer 3

Sounds as if you need new friends. and give the girl friend the boot she isn't worth worrying about.. and throw the bed out too. i wouldn't sleep in something she had some other person in ..
the job part is easy.. while you are working the job that sucks. now that you don't have a girl friend you can go out and find a job that don't suck.. as for you family giving you crap.. don't know what that is about but tell them to but out of your life if they don't have anything nice to say..
as for your question why me? everyone goes through this and it must have been your turn.. or someone or something was telling you to move on.. your girl friend is no good. your best friend must not have been a good one.. and your job you can take care of on your own.. take it as for warning and move on to the better. it is only in your power to make things better.
your just being pushed into before you were ready..
good thing it is all happening at once. that way you don't have to wait for it . it all happened all at once for you..
good luck. think about something good and change your life for the better.

Answer 4

It's issues like these that make a person stronger. When you get over these obstacles, you will be more confident and ready to begin new things. Don't let yourself sink into the "why me?" mode. It will get your nowhere. Try to focus on changing the things you can in your life. There is nothing you can do now about the people who have wronged you. All you can do is make changes in the areas you have to power to do so - such as your current job. As for your family always giving you crap, I don't know what they're giving you crap for. So, I can't comment on that one. But, good luck.

"This too shall pass"

Answer 5

Life is a lesson, you learn it when you're through.
I think that everyone of us has to go through a certain amount of pain before we can learn enough about ourselves and others to enjoy whatever we're given.
Kick your girlfriend to the curb, find a new job, love your family now, because even though they are giving you crap now, they may not be here to give you crap tomorrow. Cherish them for being the ones who will always give a crap about you, even when no one else does. It may be that they give you crap, because they care about you. Maybe they don't have another way to show you.
Life is short.
MAKE it what you want it to be.
Good luck.

Answer 6

Hello Sara,

Sorry I have no answer to your question, I can empathise with how you feel when you wrote it.

All I can I tell you is that some people lives are tougher than others, some people will pretend to be a friend and just use you, true friends are hard to find 'this you know’. The only good thing about bad things is that you really find out who your real friends are.

I’m sorry you lost your friend early this year; I like to think that mine are still looking out for me, and that yours is close to you even now. (Especially now)

Hope this helps

CC

Answer 7

It sounds like life is overwhelming right now, it won't be that way forever. Try to separate the pieces of your life that you have some control over. For example, if your job isn't right, talk to your boss to open the lines of communication and set a goal to improve it. As far as your friends and family are concerned, you can't change their behavior. Try to find a common ground with your family and you'll be happier. Good luck!

Answer 8

It is just the way things go sometimes, try not to internalise everything, it isn't you it is things that have happened to you. Try to look for things that you do like in your life and build on those. Change what you can and try to live with the rest until you can change it, you don't have to put up with anything from your family either, just because they are family doesn't give them the right to be horrible.

Answer 9

1) friendship is like a flower and requires nourishment to grow. Pay more attention to your friend.

2) a relationship is like a flower and requires nourishment to grow.pay more attention to your girlfriend.

3)your job sucks because you're not paying attention, think how can i make my life easier and do those things.

4)your family gives you crap because you don't pay attention, people who pay attention defend themselves, when you are able to properly defend yourself people will think twice about giving you crap.

5)congratulations if you've read this part you were paying attention and your life is going to get better.

6)because you weren't paying attention, but thats history and now you can change yourself and let your quality of life improve.

Answer 10

So the cups half empty is it.You lost your friend,your girlfriend finally found out that she likes men,job sucks (find a new one).Family is bothering you (be careful with that,you only get one family and you may want that some day).Quit whining and get control of your life,fix whats broke and support what's not.Only you can make you happy.Change what you can accept what you cannot and try a man you might like it.

Answer 11

You need to do the Overcoming Ups and Downs in Life Course. Go to your nearest Church of Scientology. I think you have to donate around a hundred and twenty five bucks-but I did this course many years ago and it saved my life. YOU LEARN EXACTLY WHY YOU ARE ROLLERCOASTERING THROUGH LIFE AND HOW TO STOP IT. Best $$ I ever spent and it cost less than my Prada Shoes.