How do I approach the issue without starting a war?
2006-09-05 07:12:27 · 20 answers · asked by Brat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just speak to him if he gets upset then he is not the person you should be with.
2006-09-05 07:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you need to be in total control of this conversation if you are going to bring it up. May I suggest a quiet evening in public where there are not too many people, just so the war won't break out and approach the situation gently and real sensitive, if you can not do that, then just be blunt and wait for all hell to break loose.
2006-09-05 14:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ronika P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumping the guy always depends on how important the issues are.
If they are not major, try to talk to him no yelling! Or disrespecting.
let him know that that CANT and shouldn't be done nothing shoul be left in lies especially when you are involved evaluate the situation and consider your possibilities
I cannot advise to you anything else I dont know you or the relationship you and this guy have but use your best judgment and see whether it is worth talking to him. Communication is key to a successful relationship.
2006-09-05 14:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Social 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly if you are to start a conversation with him just act like nothing's happened. Then just start asking him what are his priorities in life. Tehn continue with your answers to that Q you made, saying out and clear that in order to feel that you can trust anyone or feel sure about being around s-one you need to be informed about any issues that ivolve you and that honesty is the best thing ever as u know where u stand... I guess take it from there but be sure u are ready to hear anything he has to say or ..not.
2006-09-05 14:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by FairyQueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There probably is no way to not start war. You need to lay how you feel about this out for him. He needs to understand that you won't put up with his crap. Depending on what he lied about, you might want to rethink the relationship. And if it does start a war- he threw the first stone by lying!
2006-09-05 14:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHEERS UP MY DEAR
Gather enough evidences about those issues...first....digest ur anger.....project urself living a happy life with him in the future besides those points....if u see it feasible,get ready and work hard to trap him(set a talk time after this,be cool,patient and calm at all time),request honest reply from him,do not conclude anything after this confrontations,withdraw for few days,weigth up ur relationship carefully from the beginning;happy and bad times,share ur pain with someone who has been in the same boatin the past...pray...answers should be there after this window period,be firm with any decision u come up with.GOOD LUCK
2006-09-05 14:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by val7uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men will start arguing as soon as they fine out you know. But just approach him in a clam tone and manner. And ask his about these issues. Remain you calm tone the whole why through. He can't argue with himself.
2006-09-05 14:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by volcano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there are wars that need to be fought. If your boyfriend lied to you, and you know with certainty that he lied to you, then you need to confront him. It is up to you whether you dump his two-faced, lying self now or whether you give him a second chance. Perhaps when he's lied to you a second time, you'll see he's not really good enough for you. There is someone who will cherish you, honour you, and be honest with you...as soon as you're ready to go find them.
2006-09-05 14:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calmly talk to him about it. You might want to go to a marriage counselor (they can be useful even if you're not married.) What did he lie to you about? If he refuses to talk about it calmly, denies that he did it, or continues to lie, you might be better off broken up. Tell him that you want to take a break. He might apologize, but unless he has a good excuse for his actions (and this is doubtful) you should consider it. Then you can see if you're happier alone.
2006-09-05 14:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bookgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just calmly bring it up. He probably will flip out because he has been caught lying though. Ask him why and what was he thinking when doing this.
2006-09-05 14:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋