2006-09-05 06:58:03 · 10 answers · asked by missindependentgrl12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont know the details of your situation, but I'll tell ya I know its not easy... I'm goin through the same thing, and I'm 23, I'm an adult, and I still feel really depressed at times...
My parents were one of those that stuck it out for the kids, so I was happy when my mom served my father... I thought it would be best for all of us, and it probably is.... Just that everyone is still living together, cuz its not finalized yet, and the situation has gotten a lot worse now, that everything is out in the open...
My mom and I went from a strained relationship to no relationship... In the past we would fight and argue but we'd always make up. Now we dont talk at all anymore... I dont like what shes doing to my family, and I dont think I can ever forgive her, nor would I want to... All she does is yell and scream in the hallway cursing out my father as well as the rest of his family including my grandmother, aunts, uncles... And worst of all she does this in front of my 16 year old sister and makes her believe half the lies she says about them.. Me and my sister used to have a good relationship, but now I'm afraid if i say the wrong thing, it will go back to my mom the wrong way...
Sometimes I feel guilty about not trying to make it work with my mom... As much as I hate her, she is still my mom... But then I think how could she do this to her family??? To a beautiful daughter that she gave birth to???? I dont get it....
Anyways, its too much to get into here, but I'd like to invite you and anyone else that reads this that has a myspace to join my group: http://groups.myspace.com/teensofdivorcedparents. It has my whole story on there with all the details... Post your story as well, and we can all help each other.
Take care,
Emily
2006-09-05 19:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why could you even think of which you're somebody responsible to your mothers and fathers divorce? it won't be able to be possible. it is so unhappy that they are getting a divorce, yet what became it like whilst they have been mutually. have been they unhappy? if so, i'm particular it affected you and your brothers and sisters. became it a depressing environment? Did they constantly combat? in the event that they have been unhappy, then attempt to inspect the staggering area. Is your mom satisfied now? Is your father satisfied now? you may desire to nonetheless appreciate the two mothers and fathers. you may desire to even have the potential to tell them the form you sense and how it fairly is affecting you without a controversy. no count what, that became their own own difficulty and in the event that they fell out of affection, then they made the main appropriate decision. it would desire to in no way be some thing responsible on you. Now get your self admire, delight and value and stay on the brink of the two mothers and fathers and your brothers and sisters. You sound like the clever one that would make everybody's existence extra suited. I choose you each and every and all of the best fortune. God Bless
2016-11-24 23:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by rigoberto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it. To both parents. See a counselor for a while.
Divorce is hard in kids. GOing from one intact home to two not so intact homes would screw anyone up.
Talk about it, message friends and family about it, find a support group about, many things help but don't keep the feelings bottled up.
2006-09-05 07:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to be cheerful? You have the same rights as your parents. You have the right to feel anger, hurt and disappointment. Don't hold in your feelings let them out. It is not your job to be the backbone of the family. Tell your parents what you feel. go to a school counselor and see if the can help you out. No matter what don't blame yourself for your parents problems.
2006-09-05 07:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not an easy thing to go through but you have to keep in mind that it is not your fault. If they were to stay together for you things could get ugly down the line i know this because i staid with my wife for 18 yrs longer than i should have for the kids sake it was a mistake. You should always remember that they both still love you very much.
2006-09-05 07:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by mcander01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By realizing that everyone will get through it, its not about you and if you don't like knowing whats going on nicely request that they don't involve you...lots of parents make this mistake, they think kids will feel better if they know whats up. You need to realize that your parents are just people and will make mistakes, they will make the wrong choices sometimes (although they may make them for the right reasons). Mostly though just know that thousands of people surive this everyday and your family will too IT WILL GET BETTER just hang in there!
2006-09-05 07:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin has the same problem! She is upset but everyday it gets better. Things may seem bad but i guess it is for the best. I know its tough but you will get through it. I am sure you will get to see them both and have fun with them even though things are differrent! Sorry to hear it! Good luck!
Shannon
but remember it is ok to feel sad sometimes!
2006-09-05 07:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the crap going on right now is adult stuff. You can't go around worrying about it. Concentrate on being a kid and getting a good education so when you grow up you can get out of the bull. Good luck.
2006-09-05 07:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's okay to be upset. don't think you have to act cheerful if you don't feel cheerful. just keep in mind it has nothing to do with you and they both still love you. just give yourself time. it's still fresh and it's a painful process. just talk when you're upset and need to get it off your chest. and try to find activities that keep your mind off things. hang out with your friends, write poetry, anything! if you still find yourself really upset ask your mom if you could see a family counselor to help you work out your pain.
2006-09-05 07:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your situation.
just put on a hpaay face and know that they both still love you.
2006-09-05 07:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋