i slept with another man and it felt so right and good but i'm married and i know its so wrong but i cant get this man out of my head i havent felt this way about a mans touch in so long when i'm with my man i'm thinkng about him please help and let me know if i should continue sleeping with this man knowing it may turn into a relationship my husband has neglected my feelings for so long
2006-09-05 06:21:07 · 36 answers · asked by firered 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband has cheated on me every year we have been 2gether which is 7
2006-09-05 06:24:10 · update #1
You're with the wrong guy. Divorce him before you hurt him further. Sorry he neglected you, but there is never a good reason to cheat, only a good reason to leave. Cheating scars for life. Whether you stay with the guy you cheated with or not, you are obviously not in love with your husband and the two of you will only hurt each other further.
2006-09-05 06:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is usally where everyone starts shouting divorce b/c you aren't getting the same feelings with your husband today as you did when you were first dating. Now there's this man that does that for you. It's called lust or infatuation. What makes you think the new man is what your need? You're husband has provided you stability, a home, etc. What does the new guy have that they will freely give you like your husband has already done. So the quandry is your's to solve but remember this: The grass is always greener on the other side until you find that it's really a desert wasteland. Work it out with your husband. Right now, you've just complicated matters. The worst case scenario for you is you lose them both. Then who is the loser here?
2006-09-05 06:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right!
It's time for a heart to heart, if it is agreeable to sleep around then fine, (who cares but how fair is that to the man you're sleeping with?) If it is not get a divorce it doesn't sound like the two of you have a happy marrigae and never have so why stay? Do you not want to be happy with someone someday your husband is only holding you back, why stay in a realstionship just b/c of a piece of paper.
If this othe man makes you happy and the damage is already done from your husband cheating numorous times, tell your husband where you're at, you do have a right to be happy and chances are your husband is going to do it again anyway it's only a matter of time. It also sounds like you have given up and no one blames you (otherwise you wouldn't be where you are today!) So go on, be happy but be honest to all and fair, just b/c your husband has had affairs don't stoop to his level and sneak around, get out if that is what this marriage calls for!
2006-09-05 07:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to stop sleeping with this man. The more you sleep with him the more your feelings become involved and it isnt helping you at all! You need to sit down and talk to your husband and if that doesnt work consider counseling (if you want to work things out between you two) if this man knows that you are married then shame on him! you see, you cant go around hurting people thinking you will get away with it! Although, your husband may not know...God Knows! and you wont get away with what you are doing. Furthermore, where do you see this relationship going with you and this man? Know your worth and know what you deserve!SEX is a temporary thing but LOV E can last forever. SEX can NEVER and will NEVER overpower LOVE, its obvious that you love your husband, you married him. But if you dont love him anymore, let him go. Dont continue hurting yourself and him. If you think this man that you are sleeping with really cares then you are DEAD wrong...people only do what we allow and trust me honey a man is going to take what he can get and think nothing about it when its all said and done. He is NOT looking at you as marriage material and a lack of respect is lost for you...sounds harsh but its true! you can say its a sex thing or whatever you want but RESPECT is far more important then SEX. Love yourself, respect yourself, and most of all LOVE GOD! you are putting yourself through unneccasary stress and for what...SEX?!
2006-09-05 06:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rinah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just divorce your husband instead of continuing to sleep with the other man knowing that it may turn into a relationship. Don't have your husband and be sleeping with some else. It seems like you may even like this other man rather than your husband anyways. Break it off with your husband before anymore damage is done.
2006-09-05 06:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason the other man makes you feel special is because you say that your husband has neglected your feelings. I can understand that one. But forbidded fruit always tastes good for awhile, until you get caught. Is there any way you can discuss this (his neglecting you) with your hubby? If he really doesnt care about your feelings, divorce him. Just dont keep on doing what you are doing because someone (mainly you) is going to be hurt badly. Good luck.
Ok so he has cheated on you but 2 wrongs dont make it right.
2006-09-05 06:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Am Messing Around With A 54 Year Old Married Man And I Am 20 Years Old!!!!!
What Would You Do If You Was Me?
2006-09-08 04:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course its wrong! You are lusting after this man which makes you think there is no other touch like his. If you have been neglected by your husband for so long, thats probably why you think this other mans so great. Have you tried talking to your husband about your feelings?
2006-09-05 06:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by clm2675 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your desire to be with this man is because there is no emotional attachment. You have no committment to him. If your husband has been cheating and you didn't like it....then why would you stoop to the same. It all ends in death of a relationship. If you are done with working on your current then finish it off. If not, quit being a part of the problem.
2006-09-05 06:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by mac5doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change over time. lifes experiences to one point in time will attracted you to man #1 and you truly love him. then things happen and you drift apart and are attracted to man #2 because he is a better fit for you now but you still have feelings for man #1. you love them both but in different ways. man #1 is security and a friend where as man #2 is hot and sexy and a great lover. you may realize in a few months that man #2 is not a good fit and drop him but you should want to stay with man #1 forever because of the kids.
2006-09-05 06:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋