I've fallen really hard for this guy. Ever dreamt about that perfect someone to walk into your life? He is it. We have the best times together - there have been moments when he's come on to me but nothing got to far. We hang out all the time and when I see him I get those butterflies in my stomach like the first day I ever met him.
Here's the catch though - he is gay/bi. I am a woman.
Should I tell him how I feel? Either way we will still be friends but is there a possiblity for more than just friends?
2006-09-05 06:19:48 · 18 answers · asked by icreateidesign 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
See - I don't understand why people say "well if you do get together he will most likely cheat on you with a man." Well, man or woman it makes no difference who he cheats on me now does it - he would still be cheating.
... guess I just want to know what his heart is saying to him.
2006-09-05 06:31:17 · update #1
First, tell him how you feel--just that, not all the baggage of weighing the fads and fashions as we discuss here, just what you feel about him. Tell him what you would want of him--again, nothing more, what YOU feel and want. Forget this crowd or common perceptions. Just you talking to him, period.
Then, let it marinate for a while. He'll chew on it. He'll give you something to chew on too. Then get back, again, not too quickly, and tell him how you feel, how you really, deep down feel. What you really, honestly, would want of him if you could.
He'll tell you. But wait for it to work. One way or the other.
2006-09-05 06:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to end up getting hurt in the end. STAY CLEAR!! I highly doubt there is a possibility of more. And if there is than I have a feeling since he is "Bi" as he says he will ultimately cheat on you with a dude. Maybe not but I have seen that happen to several friends and ppl I know.
2006-09-05 13:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Leelee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For heaven's sake, Sweetness, tell him. The worst he'd say is "no" and then you'll know where you stand. I fell in love with my best friend 25 years ago and it's been a wonderful life so far. You do need to talk to him. Don't listen to those people who are telling you a bunch of negatives. You're both friends and you'll remain friends . Maybe you can be more, maybe not..but you'll never know unless you ask. A blessing on you both.
2006-09-05 14:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh God do I know how your feeling right now. I think you should just kiss him, and see where it leads. Just because he's bi does not mean he can't have a monogamous relationship with you if he wants to. Just be as honest as you possibly can with one another. I know it's easier said than done on the just kiss him thing, but it sure would be a great surprise.
2006-09-05 13:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about a romance. You will only get badly hurt. When a man says he is bi, he is really gay. Bi men are rare.
2006-09-05 13:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just to clear the air, yes, you should tell him how you feel. You can't really leave things as they are if you have these feelings for him. After you tell him, wait a few moments to see how he reacts and then if he feels the same way then "happy day!!" But if not just walk away being friends and tell yourself you tried.
2006-09-05 13:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lone Eagle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh no, not another f-ag-hag. Girl, you've's gots to leave them cowboys to their own Brokeback Mountain.
Come on, toss some water into your face (make sure you squeeze some lemon in it).
Even if you got a sex change, I doubt that he'd ever be interested in yah because I'm sure there's a ton of guys that are into him and evidently, he's into the attention he's receiving from them.
Let him go and if you want a straight guy like him, take a literature or poetry class at your local community college.
2006-09-05 13:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
god help u. when u cross the line of being Friends. u'll never get back what u had as Friends. and he's bi, what will u do if he meet's some one off his sex and decides he's no longer bi and wants to be with just men. good luck hon.
2006-09-05 13:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, most guys or girls that are gay didn't just turn that way. It inside them and there is very little you can do to change it. But I think you should let him know your feelings.
2006-09-05 13:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by VeeateU 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a possibility, but think 4 a second. if this guy is some one you are really close to, would it feel right to date him? i dont know cuz i aint never had a real boyfriend in my life
2006-09-05 13:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by model 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋