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2006-09-05 06:14:35 · 13 answers · asked by Lee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may well be possible, that would depend on the two people involved. However, were I to start to date someone and then found out that they were living with their ex, even if it was totally platonic and nothing physical, I would feel very weird about it. If you have had a relationship with someone, especially if it got to the point that you married that person, I don't think it is possible to totally switch off your feelings for that person. If you are in a relationship with someone and every time they say "Good-Bye" to you they leave and go back home to be with the person they used to be in a relationship with, were maybe even in love with, I don't think that is healthy. I also could not divorce my wife and still have her in my life, much less in the same home as me. I love my wife. Even if we were to divorce I would still love her. I may not be "in love" with her but I would still love her. Therefore, I could not be around her and see her with other men. Being in a relationship with someone who is still involved with their ex on a daily basis, someone who wakes up and has breakfast with their, someone who co-habits with their ex, someone who watches TV and hangs out at home with their ex would be like having three people in the relationship when all you want is it to be you and your bf/gf/partner. Each to their own, and who knows, you may have a great relationship with someone who is still living with their ex or you may be the one living with your ex huband/wife and have a great dating relationship with someone else but I would not feel comfortable about it. It is also imperative that if you are in this situation that you tell your new bf/gf up-front and straight away. They have the right to know the situation.
2006-09-05 06:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by absolutely_fabulous_78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but not advisable in most cases. Former couples do it to save money, or so the kids have more time with both parents. But one would think that when it came to dating, that may possibly lead to some very uncomfortable situations.
2006-09-05 13:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 26 years, for the last 4 yrs. we have been living under the same roof but we know that it is over between us. I don't think that even thou all we share is a roof over our heads that it would be an easy thing for him if i were to see someone else. Of course i do have a life outside of the one i have at home, but what he doesn't know won't hurt him. If you really want to know the answer to that question, ask yourself if you can handle it when your ex brings home a piece of ***.
2006-09-05 13:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sis lived with her ex after their divorce & he still treated her the same way, even when he had his thing on the side.
Divorce in my opinion should be the end to a marriage, no friends w/ benefits/ no living in the same home.
2006-09-05 13:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an experience with it, it's not pretty, don't do it. The bottom line is that she might be done with you until another woman has you, and then the territorial, catty side comes out.....claws first!! If you're done, get out.......if you're friends, congratulations! But stay that way, and don't live together!!
2006-09-05 13:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to live together? I for one wouldn't date someone who still loved with their ex. It's a little wierd to me.
2006-09-05 13:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oooh, I don't think so. I think someone would end up getting mad over something and it would be a bad situation. I wouldn't do it if I were you.
2006-09-05 13:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup it happens all the time so ur situation is not unique.
2006-09-05 13:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really dont think so!! one of you might get jealous over each other dates!! or you may still have feelings for each other!!
2006-09-05 13:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by stylish295 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds crazy but i guess it can work for some people
2006-09-05 13:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋