She is totally turned off buy any sexual conduct. She is oy 41 years old.
2006-09-05 06:11:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you two could see a couples counselor or therapist to talk about it, then they can help you figure out if the problem is physical or due to other issues...but I would bring it up to her as a "we" problem, not "you never" etc. so that she doesn't feel that she is being put down or put on the spot, etc.
2006-09-05 06:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anne R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Let her know that sex is something that you are interested in.
First ask her if there is a problem. Ask her if there is something going on that is making her uninterested in sex. If she has no idea why it is happening then let her know how much you would appreciate it if she would speak to a doctor about it.
If she is willing to see someone about it then ask her if she would feel more comfortable making the appointment or if she would rather have you make it.
What would be the best day and time to make it.
Don't make it sound like an emergency, or a desire on your part. Make it sound like concern for her (which it should be anyway!). And do her the favor of suggesting the appointment be for next week or the week after so it will not be rushed, whichever is more comfortable for her.
2006-09-05 06:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by aiji.tenchijin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the marriage good? Do you have any other problems other than the sexual dessire thing? You and her should go to counseling. Tell her that you are too young to stop the sex thing. That you want to be intimate with her. Something has turned her off. Is she unhappy about anything? Unhappy with you? You have ot lay detective and look for the cause in her lack of interest.
CHeck out counseling. It can help you both.
Good luck
2006-09-05 06:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull up some articles on female libido, testosterone and thyroid levels will affect libido. Leave the articles laying about so she can look at them if she wants. Maybe her own curiosity will lead her to want to be tested. You could always ask" Honey ,please have your hormones tested" Tell her you miss the sexual woman she once was.
2006-09-05 06:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, what have you done to make her want you? At 41yrs. her sexuality is just beginning. Women get better with age. Trust me. You just need to get with it and spend more time getting her in the mood. Help her out at home, she may be too tired from working outside of home and then inside home. I know we are strong but come on, give the girl a chance to relax. You guys arouse easily, we need to be treated tenderly.
2006-09-05 06:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you already made the first mistake you are asking people you don't even know about something that private, that's wrong and it shows a little that you're not too good on the sensitive side
2006-09-05 06:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her over to me; she could just be turned off by you. I promise a 64-page inspection report.
2006-09-05 06:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is she stressed out a lot?
ask her if she wants to see a doc about it. they have meds specifically for women. but she has to want to.
2006-09-05 06:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by tomiyo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that is it hurting you and go talk to dr. to see if she van get some meds to help with it
2006-09-05 06:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by carolea_lamblin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋