Face to two men that I really love (husband and lover). What should I do?

Answer 1

don't lisen to the haters of the world.

There are alot of ppl in your place,, it's a easy place to find yourself and when they grow up and live real lives they will understand. Both men give you something you need but probally competely different from each other,, ( my husband gives me stablity but my lover gives me excitment,, ect ect) do the two know about each other? are they asking you to make a choice? If not can you keep up with both of them? or are you having guilt problems,, if you are feeling guilty then that's a good que that you need to make a choice and life 100% full on,, no what if's or shoulda's. Follow your heart,, there's enough heartach in the world,, find love and hold on tight.

Answer 2

Keep it going as long as you can. It's only your own minset instilled by society that's causing it to be a problem in the first place. Choose not to make it a big moral dilemma. Trust me, the romantic visions of the 'lover' will dissapear if you try to make him the permanent partner. Keep him as a lover, and only that...

ok, listen to all these people getting moral - the guys are getting scared that their wives won't be handing them sandwiches all day cause she's out having a good time.

I'm not saying screw everybody you see - but lets face it - there are people out there that we just have to meet up with without any clothes on - and they're not our spouses. Ditto for them. Now if you're both mature enough to make it an open relationship then great. but if not, no ned to confuse love and sex. The lover may be a great guy but chances are you've been with your husband a long time - think of all the wonderful things you've done together. The lover? Probably great in the sac and comes across as a god partner too -- but you'd be surprised... once the husband is gone those lovers can turn heeby-jeeby on you.

Wow, sounds like most of the people in here would rather see you jump off a bridge then really be happy... see how screwed up they all are?

Answer 3

I don't think you can really be in love with two men at the same time. Maybe you love your husband because he's dependable or you've given birth to his children but are you in love? As with a lover they can make you feel alive again if the relationship has gotten boring but is it just a phase or are you in love? I guess you need to make a checklist. And ask yourself who you would be willing to let go of or hurt if their are feelings from both men.

Answer 4

You lover and your husband is suppose to be the same person. In your case forget about the lover. If you love your husband you should not have a lover.

Answer 5

You problem now. You are now labeled a cheater and so goes the saying
Once a cheater always a cheater. Unless your husband is a good husband, he may take you back but he'll always remember and the lover, well why buy the cow when he already gets the milk.

Answer 6

If you yet have no kids, then you should remove yourself from your present commitment w/ your husband. If you do have them, then you must rid of your lover, if you have no problems w/ your husband directly to have you looking for a lover.

Answer 7

if you have a husband, why do you need another?
what should you do? dont have the affair, since you already did:
time to get a divorce, the marriage trust is gone. and you try living alone and figure out who you are and what kind of marriage you want.
then you talk to the person and tell him EXACTLY what you expect from a relationship and a marriage. be straight forward and very honest and truthful.!!!

Answer 8

If you love your husband, what do you want more?

Answer 9

seeing that u r not committed to neither one of them, why not do them both a favor & just stay out of both of their lives.

Answer 10

do your poor husband a favor and leave him you skank