It has been 6 months since my husband was served, he said he is upset and wants my lawyer to change where it says i have 100% custody on the papers a nd put it saying 50/50%. He works grave yard and only visets my son 2 times a week if even that. And he says his hours change all the time and doesn't want the courts to tell him when he can see his son. He wants just us to work out a visetation thing. And i am okay with that, but will this make the devorce start all over again if the papers are wrong. I am confused ???
2006-09-05 06:04:40 · 10 answers · asked by Blondie2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex-husband & I have joint custody of our 2 daughters but I have physical custody... meaning they live with me. He has visitation every other weekend and on Wednesdays. If his work schedule doesn't jive with the visitation schedule we work it out between us. If he can't have them on a certain Wed. then they might go on Tues. or Thurs. If he can't have them on his weekend then I will switch weekends with him. Having joint custody is no big deal. You still have physical custody and that gives you the final say in just about everything. Try to work it all out for the kids' sake. All your lawyer has to do is change the wording in the papers it shouldn't go back to step one. My lawyer changed mine a dozen times and it didn't slow things down.
2006-09-05 12:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by froggie47469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot forbid him to see the kids. You and him and your respective laywers should have looked at this from the beginning. You have a choice. Give him the 50/50 that he wants or you are going to be in court every other day. Has anyone asked the kids (Innocent parties) what they would like. Surely they also have a say.
Think about that.
2006-09-05 07:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you BOTH agree on the papers and what is in them - you BOTH need to sign them. They can change anything. 50/50 is a great solution for kids. They can spend EQUAL time with both parents. This usually happens when they get a little older!
Your children need BOTH parents in their lives.
Take it from someone who knows - keep the courts out of your problems AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE!
2006-09-05 06:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to kiss his ash honey. Get a lawyer, get on the court docket and let the judge settle this.
Good luck
2006-09-05 06:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to talk to your lawyer again!!!! he has the correct answers : not the idiots online. only your lawyer knows the laws in the state where you live.!!! listen to your lawyer not your husband!!!
call your lawyer right now!!!
and too bad if your ex husband is upset with what your lawyer and you want him to have.
2006-09-05 06:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw the papers, do whats best for your kids. To have a relationship w/ their father. Dont be an obstacle to your children and father union, they'll resent you for it !!! for closing doors on what it belongs to them.
2006-09-05 06:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think is just fair for both parents to share the custody of the child
2006-09-05 06:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both o.k. with it, can't you just add an adendum to the papers?
2006-09-05 06:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your lawyer.
2006-09-05 06:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they will just change that one thing and he can sign.
2006-09-05 06:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋