He asked to a nude picture of myself. I told him I would humor him. He has made other comments and advnaces. When he does so and I display a little discomfort he calls me a homophob. How do I tell him that I do not like his advances without being a homophob?
2006-09-05 05:58:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I do not "hang out" with him. He has my email address.
2006-09-05 06:28:43 · update #1
He could be joking with you and in most cases, he probably does have a crush on you. He can't get what he can't have! He knows that you are okay with his sexuality and it put's a question to his mind that, he thinks you could be a potential. Just tell him you are kidding and you are straight.
2006-09-05 06:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by justincausejustintime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good one - here's what I would do!
First, I would explained how flattered I am with his interest, however, that I am not a homophobe, but just merely wanting the respect you would want in return.
Go onto to explain, you respect his desires for the same sex, however, unfortunately you are into just the opposite sex. Create a joke out of it, to ease his pain (even though he's causing you some) Say things like, "thanks, but wrong plumbing bud!" He should catch what you are trying to say.
As for the ex-girlfriend, have you cautioned her on this matter (is it private between you and he, or does she know as well?) If she knows, perhaps ask her to liaise on your behalf to tell her friend that his actions are a bit overwhelming. Explain how it bothers you, and that you cannot tolerate or will not tolerate his behaviour. Why not, it's your right - and still NO this does not make you a homophobe.
Dude, gay people wanting respect, should honestly respect others they are wanting the respect from.
Being gay myself, it's fun to play around and flirt, however, when it becomes uncomfortable for the other party, well, I've learned how to respect.
Bottom line - respect those who you want respect from.
Cheers,
2006-09-05 13:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by bga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you feel. He is calling you a homophobe to justify his own lust for you and his attempts to seduce you. Tell him to knock it off if he wants to keep your friendship, and if he calls you a homophobe again ask him "then why I am hanging out with a flaming queen like you"? That should shut him up. If it doesn't, then maybe he's not really your friend and you should move on.
2006-09-05 13:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling someone you don't want them making advances toward you does not make you a homophobe. So just tell him. If you're not man enough to do that block his email. If he has your phone number don't answer his phone calls.
2006-09-05 16:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok all you do is tell him you don't like guys. If he calls you a homophob tell him "Nah I don't mind gay men who don't make advances on me and call me things like you do." If he don't stop just delete him from your life expecially if he is in your phone tell him you are deleting his number and that thats the end of him talking to you.. It will hurt him but he will get the point if he really is gay.
2006-09-05 13:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by krisd342005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its kind of funny..... Your not a homophob and he needs to respect you... So tell him I need you to respect the fact that I'm straight just as well as I respect the fact that you are gay.... So please stop making comments that are inappropriate... And why do you hang out with your ex-girlfriends gay friend anyway?
2006-09-05 13:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out that you are very flattered, but are not gay and do not have any interest. You are supportive of him in hoping he can find somebody some day
2006-09-05 13:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him directly you aren't interested. If he ontinues with the Homophobe talk tell him it isn't gays you don't like it's him personally.
2006-09-05 13:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is a sick morron and then knock that crap out of him. He'll leave ya alone.
Tell your girlfriend that you do not want to be around him. If she loves you then she'll try to avoid him for you.
Just maybe she is into two guys at once. That's sick. lol
2006-09-05 13:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Here's your answer or questi 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
tell him I don't what to F** you I just what to stay away from you
2006-09-05 13:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by The Champ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋