Ive been married for 3 years and me and my husband rarley even fight well now we have a child togeather and while I was pregnate he thinks that I didnt want to be and he even says I said to him I never wanted this child I am having it for him. I never said that and I love my child and I would do anything for him but my husband said that he hasnt been able to see me the same anymore and he is only still here because of the baby. I know that is not true I know he loves me what do I do.
2006-09-05 05:57:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OOPS WRONG SECTION :)
2006-09-05 10:07:20 · update #1
It isn't just the mothers that get their thinking wacked and screwy with a pregnancy. The attention he had is shared now and it hurts. The place of importance he had has been changed and it hurts. The center of the world has shifted from him to the kid, perhaps so drastically, that he feels he has no place.
I saw that with a friend. Instead of OUR kid, it was HER kid, there was no place for HIS kid, which was bad for HIM. I understand. You both need couselling. You both need help to give him his ownership, invest him in his child. Some women can't do that, which is the same story turned around, but it is a story that they control, so it won't be turned around.
It is normal. It won't get fixed in a day, anymore than it started in one. Patience.
2006-09-05 07:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what. If he told you he is only in the relationship because of the child than it's true. No one would say something like this to someone they were in love with. You can do him a favor and divorce him with shared custody, or you can just stay together for show, and live your own separate lives. It's up to you, but one day when he feels the child is old enough to handle it he will be ready to pack his bags and leave.
2006-09-05 06:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he cant forgive you, and if that is the case you will have a hard time getting through this. You need couple's counseling for both of you and the sake of the baby.... If you did have a baby right now because he wanted one now.... That is your mistake.. You shouldn't just do things for people unless you are ready.. .That would make you co-dependent... and resentful.... It takes two to tango...
2006-09-05 06:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmmmmmm let me think, ........i think that your husband has something on his mind, and if i were you, i would try and get to the bottom of it. Is he fed up with you really ?, or and i hate to say this, is there someone else in his life ? either way, find out what it is, I could be barking up the wrong tree, but better ask him before you crack up yourself, don't forget, a little one is involved here and if there is any friction, the baby can pick up on it.
2006-09-05 06:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by angelswings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 11:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by krok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple's Counseling is the way to go here. There are definite trust issues.
2006-09-05 07:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling sounds like your best bet.
2006-09-05 06:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling Darlin', you'll thank us all later.
Get couples counseling.
2006-09-05 06:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put this question in the wrong section...
2006-09-05 07:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yoohoo this is the GAY section.. not relate!
2006-09-05 06:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋