hey. i had a best male friend, and we were really close for about two years. he had a girlfriend at the beginning of our friendship, but they broke up a few months later. more than a year passed, and then we kissed, a kiss he initiated! hmm it was like a mini makeout session=), short but definitely making out. i was sort of attracted to him, and thought perhaps since we kissed we would make a go of a relationship. but then, after the makeout, he tells me he wants to be just friends. but...two weeks later, he kisses me again! i don't have much experience in relationships, so you can imagine how confused i was. he had been my best friend for over a year when he kissed me. soon after the second kiss, he drifted away from me, and now we no longer even speak to each other. how do i interpret this situation?
2006-09-05 05:14:38 · 11 answers · asked by abstract 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this happened a few months back. i have moved on...but you know, you always wonder why? what was he thinking? and i did confront him about it. he went all silent. i thought perhaps he was embarassed.
2006-09-05 05:23:10 · update #1
There's no such thing as an "accidental" kiss.
I think he was testing the waters as much as you were. You did indicate that you were "sort of attracted to him" but not that he was hot or that you couldn't live without him. It's hard when you've been friends with someone for a long time and then you have no contact. I've been there--I haven't talked to my one-time friend since 1992 and we were very close for almost 10 years! We tried a "go" at a relationship and it didn't work for various reasons; I did move on with my life but there is that regret that still lingers. I still dream about him sometimes so I don't think I've completely resolved the issue in my mind.
Have you tried contacting him to set up a lunch at a quiet place, somewhere the two of you can chat (not a bar or somewhere there might be a lot of distractions). You need to let him know how you feel, that it's been hurting you that you were left confused. Don't blame him, of course. And don't pressure him to make a commitment. You simply want to clear up things. Compliment him on his upfront nature that he only wants to be friends but that you were confused by the second kiss. Maybe you confused him and don't know it. You need to resolve this or you'll never have any peace with the issue. Hopefully he will meet you to discuss it.
Good luck!
2006-09-05 05:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the rule is never ever drop an old dear friendship for a love relationship that'll not work am sorry what happened now is in the past never allow him to kiss you again even if your feeling are a bit different now cause in a short time everything will go back to normal.but I would suggest if you call him and try to clear things up especially if you want to keep him as a dear friend each of us has his weaknesses so don't worry even he really care about your he'll be back but don't mention what has happened just keep thing within the friendship circle.Good luck
2006-09-05 05:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by celine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't any need for interpretation. He has issues. And if he wanted you anyother way than a friend, he would have said so. Also, I think he feels bad about maybe leading you on by the two kisses and that's why he no longer speaks to you. My suggestion, let it be and move on. You probably don't want to get involved wit soemone this confusing.
2006-09-05 05:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not take it personally. I believe that he is attracted to you on some level. I also think that he was a bit freaked out. I would confront him about it. Tell him that it sucks how he kissed you twice (he initiated the kiss) and then pulled away. Maybe it is simply not ever going to be the same, or maybe nothing at all. I would move on.
2006-09-05 05:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont move on these are the best moments in your life. Call him as soon as you can and tell him that your still wondering about it. If your wondering about it in the 1st place that means that your not over it.
2006-09-05 07:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds sexy . . those are the best kisses. Just brush your hand on his junk the next time you see him . . he will be so aroused that he cant contain his man mean in his pants. . . it will explode (carefull or you will be facialed) with excitement... ooolh la la it should be good times!
2006-09-05 05:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and share ur feeling with him,
dont tell him that u love him just let him understand that,
in other way he wants to have sex with u, so try to stay away from him
2006-09-05 05:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by madeniggaz83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's not sure, and neither are you! why don't you two just arrange a dinner or lunch to examine your relationship and talk about your feelings....
good luck!
2006-09-05 05:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
O_o THE WAY ii SEE iiT MOST GUYS DONT KNOW WHAT THEY WANT! SO iiTS FUNNiiE DONT LET HiiM GET TO YOU YOUR BETTER THEN THAT YOU DONT NEED YOUR MiiND MESSED AROUND WiiTH!
2006-09-05 05:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by ♥JENN♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his not sure what his feelings are for you and neither are you. talk to him straight this things up. you don't want to lose his friendship do you.
2006-09-05 05:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by AngelCakes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋