The boy that I am deeply in love with is my first he treats me like crap we go out of and on but everytime we go out he cheats on me or acts like I'm nothing to him but a girl to have sex with?!?!?! Now that he has moved back to my town he wants to be with me things have started out okay but I see now it's going back to the way things were?!?!? He constantly tells me I should be lucky that he has changed and that if I keep tripping he will go back to the way he was?!?!?! Everytime I do get mad at him or let him know I don't want to be with him he says he does not care that it won't hurt him all at the same time though he tell me he loves me?!?!? Does he really love me if he does not care if I leave him or what is it that makes him treat me the way he does??? Should I stay with him or what?!?!?!?!
2006-09-05 05:10:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
HMMMM.....HOPEFULLY MY ADVICE WILL BE GOOD. OKAY SO I'VE DEFINITELY BEEN IN THE SAME SITUATION AS YOU. I KNOW YOU LIKE HIM ALOT AND YOU DEFINITELY CARE ABOUT HIM. I THINK THAT DEEP DOWN INSIDE HE DOES CARE ABOUT YOU TO A CERTAIN EXTENT, HOWEVER IT DOESN'T MAKE IT OKAY FOR HIM TO TREAT YOU THE WAY HE DOES. I'M ALMOST SURE YOUR NICE TO HIM AND HE TREATS YOU BAD SO LET ME TELL YOU, YOU DON'T DESERVE WHATEVER HE DISHES OUT. NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS I THINK YOU SHOULD LET GO OF HIM, TRUST ME I LET THIS GUY GO EVEN THOUGH I CARED ABOUT HIM SO MUCH AND WANTED IT TO WORK OUT AND NOW I FEEL GREAT ABOUT MYSELF. JUST REMEMBER THERE'S ALWAYS SOMEONE BETTER OUT THERE FOR YOU THAT WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE TREATED IF YOU DON'T THINK YOU CAN LET GO DO IT SLOWLY AND YOU'LL SEE HE'LL COME BACK BUT ONCE HE MESSES UP AGAIN YOU'LL SEE IT'S NOT MEANT TO BE AND IT WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER TO LET GO.
2006-09-05 05:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by irok418 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does that because he knows he can. You don't have to be treated like crap. Why would you want to? There's way too much out there to settle. You know what you want in a guy. Would you put on your list of qualities/traits " a guy who treats me like crap", or "a guy who is faithful for the most part, but if he cheats every now and then, it's cool"? It clearly doesn't matter if he was your first love. What's important is that he's not your current nor your last. I've been where you are and THANK GOD I moved on. It was painful, but it was worth it. Listen honey, your Mr. Right is out there, but he can't get to you if you keep this fool in his path. Clear your path, take a breath and get the man you deserve!! Good Luck!!
2006-09-05 12:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that is NOT love that is ABUSE! You dont deserve that and dont have to put up with it. Stand up for ur self and get rid of him and find a new man that actually knows how to treat a lady. He needs help and needs to be single until he learns to respect women! If you stay with him that is not a smart choice! You need to leave him, you can do much much better. Anyone who treats you like that cant possibly love you. That is NOT love!
2006-09-05 12:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is about him taking care of you. Cheating is a legit reason for a divorce --- you're only dating. There are better guys out there. I found my hubby (who is everything a girl could ever want) in Idaho-- there's defiantly more out there! Leave him in the dust and chalk up sleeping with him to a bad judgment call -- (and maybe be more careful next time) ;-)
2006-09-05 12:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question. If your boyfriend is treating you badly, you're better off without him. Tell him if he's serious about a relationship with you, he needs to quit going around with other girls or else he's not getting any.
Make sure you protect yourself and use condoms. If he's sleeping around he might have caught an STD, which you don't want to catch.
2006-09-05 12:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not stay with him. He is taking advantage of the fact that he was your first so therefore he thinks he can do what he wants to you... girl get out of there and if he does prove he can change then give him another chance
2006-09-05 12:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't love you or he wouldn't treat you like that. He treats you like that because he has no respect for you and you're letting him. You should tell him to get lost and find someone who will treat you better.
2006-09-05 12:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby he's changed and he loves you, sometimes the game is like that but you have to know how to play it. Believe me, you have to recpect him, talk to him as a boyfriend, can't you see that the man has changed, he does not mean what he told you. You have to make sure, if you love him you don't make mistakes or you will lose him. That's a clue and I am a man, believe me.
2006-09-05 12:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Just because he was your first doesn't mean you have to stay with him and be treated badly like this. You made a mistake, forgive YOURSELF and move on.
2006-09-05 12:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't put up with his crap. Sounds to me like he cares nothing about you. I know it will probably be hard to end the relationship, but if you care about yourself, you will end it.
2006-09-05 12:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by rach 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋