I have just found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant. It was unplanned and I have only been with my new boyfriend for 2 months. I am 22 and have got a good job etc but I really don't know what to do! Advice please!!
2006-09-05 04:44:07 · 32 answers · asked by Mizzie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My boyfriend does know and has said he will support me either way. Adoption isn't an option for personal reasons.
2006-09-05 04:50:31 · update #1
Boy have I been in your shoes!!!! I went through the same thing except we had been together only 3 months, of course 4 years later we are now married and are expecting our 2 child any day now....
The one thing that you should understand the most is..... listen to your heart. Don't get married just because you think it is the right thing to do....now a days, it definitley isn't the best thing to do! If you don't think that you are ready to have a child yet....there are a lot of options, just make sure that you seriously consider all of them.
Take care and good luck....it is probably a rough time for you.
2006-09-05 04:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by samanthasevart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do, but I can share what I know you should not do. Don't have an abortion! I let a boyfriend of three years convince me that I should not have our baby and now I live with the regret every day of my life.
Now I am married to a different man and after 4 years of trying to conceive I have found out that we can not. My husband has a condition that doesn't allow us.
Keep your beautiful baby that needs you now more than ever. Your baby doesn't have a voice. You are his/her voice and you need to advocate on his/her behalf.
Choices Made
By el
Regret filled nights
A child with wings
A haunting memory
Oh how it sings
A forever melody
on my mind
Where have you gone
sweet child of mine
Thoughts just pondered
Choices made
A journey beginning
As it's future fades
The power my mind had over me
You were never a reality
Your sweet voice was never heard
Now I hear your every word
You speak to me
From my deepest being
I can't escape you
I do not want to
I long to hold you
If only to explain
I never thought about the pain
How could I rob you of your life?
Full of splendor - Your soul so tender
The agony surrounds me
You are all around me
Do you hear me?
I beg you - Forgive me?
11-03-1999
2006-09-05 04:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need is to sit down with someone who can give you some unemotional detached information about your options. Planned Parenthood may have an office in your area and would be a good place to start. There might also be other women's agencies.
Whether to discuss this with your boyfriend is up to you, particularly if you plan to terminate the pregnancy. (I am advocating nothing here. So get back anti choice right wing extremist types.) Each person must make up their own mind given their life situation. My wife and I had genetic counseling before my son was born because her cousin died from cystic fibrosis. We later decided that we wouldn't want to terminate the pregnancy even if the doctors were 100% sure that the child would have CF. But that was our decision. I would never dream of making such a life affecting decision for someone else. It is your body and your life.
Certainly if you plan to keep the child or place it for adoption, it seems fair, even necessary to me to tell your boyfriend about it, particularly if you think you have a future with this man. I know that I would feel dreadful if my wife suddenly disclosed to me that she had placed a child I had sired (I think fathers raise children not just help conceive them.) up for adoption, I would feel disappointed and hurt.
Best of luck.
PS - Just read the info about your boyfriend. Sounds like a stand up guy.
2006-09-05 05:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the problem here? So it was unplanned but it's not the end of the world. Your 22 and your boyfriend is standing by you so keep the baby. You have a good job and I'm assuming your boyfiend does too so you can both provide for this baby.
2006-09-05 04:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by b97st 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel is right, having a baby is a huge commitment, and one that is the most precious rewarding experiences ever, but while some amazing avenues will open up to you it can an will limit your options in the short term. Do you and your boyfriend want to spend the rest of your lives together? would you want to spend your life with him if you were not pregnant? i would say marry your boyfriend and have the baby.. ( i was in a similar situation and 8 years on i am very happy with some great kids!!)
2006-09-05 04:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by besidetheseaside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take a deep breath. you have gotten over the two hardest stages, finding out you are pregnant and telling your boyfriend.
If adoption is not an option, and abortion should not be considered at all (except as a extreme last resort) then you and your partner should either arrange to speak to your local GP or family planning clinic. They are there to help you and give you every option that is out there.
Good Luck (and if you decide to keep baby it will all be wonderful, if promise)
2006-09-05 04:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seem that need to talk to your boyfriend. Are you sure it is his? There are alot of options nowdays, but killing a baby is not the way I would deal with this. Please if you are considering this as an option, go to the hospital and look at the babies in the nursery. This baby is at your mercies, there are couples the really would love to raise a child and can not have any. Then again, this child is a gift of God and there is many blessing in raising a child, many rewards. I had two girls after being told I couldnt, they gave me great purpose in life.
2006-09-05 05:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by sher7us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The options are:
1. Have an abortion.
2. Give birth to the baby and seek adoption.
3. Give birth to the baby and bring it up yourself, either with or without the father.
In order to decide between these, you need to talk to the father and with your family. You need to find out how much support you're going to get in each scenario. This decision is irreversible, and it is one you will have to live with for the rest of your life, so think it through carefully without rushing. Whatever you decide, you face difficulty, so prepare yourself for it.
2006-09-05 04:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get to know your boyfriend better. Youre parents now whether youre ready to be or not.
If he doesnt want to play nice then you can slap him with a child support law suit.
Tell your parents and get them behind you on it, so you can have some sort of support system. There are also support groups. Relax and enjoy your pregnancy, start saving up here and there for teh little things like a crib and clothes.
You'll be fine.
2006-09-05 04:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say talk to your boyfriend and figure out the options that you have...adoption, abortion, marriage, or just having the baby and supporting it yourself. It depends on your values and your boyfriends values. It's up to you to decide what to do. I know it's hard but you'll have to decide together what to do. the best thing is to stay honest and truthful with your boyfriend. Best of luck to you both!
2006-09-05 04:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋