Do Muslims let their parents choose a husband or wife for them? Where do Muslims find a husband or wife?

Answer 1

it depends.. some let their parents choose for them (thats more frequent with the low social standard) and others choose for themselves..
i have a boyfriend and we're planning to get married (someday!) so u see, I'M choosing for myself ;)

Answer 2

Muslims parents do not choose a husband or wife for themThey jus help them to choose the right person by sharing their experiences with their children. There is belief that those people who have the same religion they will have same way of thinking and they will have a happy life as a result. Muslim girls and boys meet each other at schools, universities, family gatherings ....
but they dont date the way westerns do.There is engagement period before marriage in which the newly engaged people get to know each other well.
PS: premaritial sex is abandoned according to Islamic trainings and those who commit that are seriously punnished.

Answer 3

Hi,, i just want to add to what the other person said....
I work in Saudi Arabia,, and have contact daily with men of that part of the world...
It seems that in some countries they have a "Matchmaker" that when the man sees a certain young lady he is attracted to, he communicates thru the Matchmaker his desire...
The Matchmaker then, as I like to say,,, Opens the Market,,, with the bid to the girls Father,,,
Then there are several steps of the Engagement Procedure.. in which the prospective Groom,, and His Father,, go and meet the Bride to bes' Father,, and from there it is , a series of negotiations that ultimately decide if there is going to be a wedding or not,,,,,
In the middle of this,,, at any time,, negotiations can break down and the whole thing put to a Halt.....
I saw this happen to one guy that I worked with, and he explained it to me... One day,, his phone would be ringing all day every day,, from the prospective bride,,,, and when the "deal was not agreed upon",,, the phone calls stopped,,,,, never to talk again.... just like that,,,,,
The Father ,, has more to say about who marries who,, it seems to me.....

hope this helps .....

good luck

Answer 4

In some Islamic countries, arranged marriages are still the rule or very common. Examples: Saudi Arabia, Pakistan, Bangledesh.
But in others, it's uncommon: Examples: Lebanon, most of the North African Islamic countries, Indonesia.
Arranged marriage tend to be more common in countries or those parts of countries that are more "traditional", and these are often the parts that are less modern and less advanced in education.
"There is a perception that in Muslim countries women have no rights in marriage, that they are forced into a marriage with an unwanted man, and the cause of this is Islam's segregation of women. The truth of the matter is that in Islam, a woman has the right to choose her partner or decline a proposal for marriage. This right was given to Muslim woman fourteen centuries ago at a time when women generally had no marriage rights in the most of the world.

The reader must make the distinction between forced marriages and arranged marriages. The freely given consent of both, the future husband and wife, is essential in Islam. The Prophet Muhammad stated, "… The woman shall not be married until her consent is obtained." Another statement attributed to the Prophet is, "… When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be renounced …" He also declared a marriage as invalid when the bride complained to him that her father forced her into marriage. Clearly, forced marriages are outlawed in Islam.

Nevertheless, in some Muslim countries, as in some non-Muslim countries, the father or a male relative of a woman may force her to get married to a man that she does not want. The parties that force a woman into marriage obviously are not following the teachings of Islam. This might be simply because of their lack of religious practice and knowledge. Surely, the failure of some Muslims to follow their religion's injunctions cannot be attributed to Islam.

Arranged marriages are not part of Islam nor does Islam strictly require it. There is no reference in the Qur'an or in the practice of the Prophet Muhammad that instructs Muslims to arrange a marriage. Just as in many other cultures, arranged marriages arise out of the practical need to facilitate the meeting of a couple for the purpose of marriage. Since Islam does not sanction the Western custom of dating and courtship, it is common for future spouses to be introduced by parents or friends. This introduction may occur in a myriad of ways and is by no means binding on the couple. They can break up at anytime in the process of getting to know one another. The only requirements of Islam are that the couple should not be alone either in private or any public place and the purpose of the meetings should be for the intention of marriage.

Dating did not exist in the Western world a hundred years ago. Matchmaking and dating services in the contemporary Western culture are a way of returning to the old arranged culture with a modern twist. Although it is not endorsed in Islam, some people are comfortable with arranged marriages and latest studies show that arranged marriages are more successful than other methods. The divorce rates as high as 50% in the United States show that dating does not guarantee success in a marriage. Divorce rates in Western countries have actually been on the increase since the sexual revolution of the sixties. It is increasingly alarming that people who decide to co-habitate before marriage seem to be more susceptible to divorce after marriage. Therefore the notion that through dating one will find the most suitable partner in life is not entirely supported by available social evidence."


Although a lot of what the writer says above is factual, it's disingenuous to think that many "arranged" marriages are not also "forced" marriages.

Answer 5

family arranged marraig in general is the most beter and less divorced.
usually the man can see the girl who he intened to marry from, after that he would recieve acceptance or refusal, if he receive reusing what he asked, then nothing he can do......
when acceptance is happen then the family take most information about the man and they check asking about his beheavour and how he live, with his character... if the image was good for the family of the girl, and the girl accepting to marry this man then no problem every thing go as it is, no harm to be supervised by the family. at least family can tell if this man is good to be responsible of a family or not, ready to manage his own home and family or not, this way is big difference and far from forecing girl /boy to marry from a specific person, i think this happen all over the world and it is out of question,
in our society the patronage of the family and strogn chain of life makes life much easier inspite of the poor economically or not,
for example if one of the couple was bad and beheaved wrong during the family life( after marriage) then his/her father and family going to stand for him/her and tell where is the wrong was.

i am sorry for the bad language i hope the idae could be understood

regards

Answer 6

only very few of them you know the world has changed and the muslim young people like others want to marry with a person they love but they want their parents too to help them to know that if that guy is a good boy and most of them these days especially in my country iran find a husband or wife in universities because they may can sth in common with. good luck!

Answer 7

some of them do some not , but it s rare now where muslim parents choose the futur husband or wife totheir children ,i m muslim girl and dad told me that i have to choose my futur husband , and he wont never refuse my choice coz it s my life , but u have to know thats in our eligion we are not obliged to marry by this way ( parents who choose ) in islam girl or boy have the right to decide who would be their partner for life , and islam never forbidd love , but this love has to be pure .that s all.

Answer 8

Arranged marriages are getting less every year, Muslim young men and women prefer to meet and date their partner for a while, it is acceptable in many Muslim countries, but villages still believe that a man should marry his cousin and they are named for each other even when they were babies, because they believe that the family's money will remain for the family when he marries his cousin, and many young men in the villages still are shy to propose for a girl till she meets his mom and the introduction comes through her.

Answer 9

Bukhari (seventy two:715): Aisha (RA) meant that the believing (Muslim) women human beings purely obey Allah, decrease their gaze and stay via Islam, which skill it is the way Allah needs us to be, and Allah exams those women human beings to develop their capability. The unbelieving women human beings do not go through as lots using fact they don't obey Allah, and stay via their very own policies etc. I had a suited clarification until eventually I by twist of fate have been given off this website... besides i've got defined it. The Qur'an mentions beating your spouse with a feather.. Ouch. IT would not SAY eco-friendly branch, IT SAYS "skinny GRASS": "And take on your hand a equipment of thin grass and strike therewith (your spouse), and wreck not your oath." As i mentioned.. in the previous you post Hadiths and/or verses, initially attempt and understand what they're asserting. Bukhari seventy two:715 is honestly asserting that a woman grew to become into married to Rifa'a, have been given divorced, remarried, and did not like her new husband. She got here to Aisha and advised her of it and Aisha approached the Prophet (pbuh) and advised him of the bruise. while her new husband heard that she went to the prophet, he went to the Prophet along with his 2 sons to make sparkling the placement and take care of himself, asserting that she wanted to pass back to her ex-husband. finally, the prophet confirmed the female a fashion out, telling her of the criminal concerns in touch for her to remarry her old husband. I only found out a consumer below already gave the comparable answer. anyhow, you have have been given adequate clarification for this one now questioner. the different issues you like us to sparkling up for you?

Answer 10

in some countries they r but for example in LEBANON they dont and some other countries