the girl that came between me and my husband b4 we were married has started calling him again. they work for the same company but have no business together, abs no reason for her to call, what should i do? asked him vaguely about it and he acted like the only time he might ever see or talk to her is at work but i saw his call record on his phone and know that she's calling him after work. we have 9 month old twins and i dont need the added stress. please help
2006-09-05 04:30:46 · 11 answers · asked by jwpsgirls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Calmly tell your husband that you know he's been talking to the girl, how you know, and how it makes you feel. Tell him that, in order to make things right between you, you both need to sit down, right now, and he needs to call her. When she answers, he has to tell her not ever to call him about subjects that are are not work related, and even then only during work hours. If she means nothing to him, as he seems to claim, he should have no problem doing this. How he reacts to this simple and reasonable proposed course of action will tell you a great deal about he he feels about his relationship with you.
2006-09-05 04:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. We have 4 kids together. He is in couselling and met a few girls in his group. I found numbers and he did not deny them he said they were just in the same boat as him. So ok fine. But the girls called alittle too much like on father's day and stuff. So anyway I found out he was "INto" this one particular girl and he never told me about her. He hid her number at work in his locker etc. He lied about so much. Finally i had to get a phone recorder to find out what was going on. I got mine from Ebay. you just hook it up to you jack and it recordes all the incoming and outgoing phone conversations. I was shocked at all the stuff that I heard. I mean we were together for 10 years and NEVER had I suspected it. He is lying to you for a reason. He will of coarse deny it until he is comfortable enough. Guys need back up plans. and she is that. he wants his cake and to eat it too. She is getting off fromt he fact that he is lying to you for her. This is not right. The more oyu confront him the more he will deny it. Since she is calling his cell phone it will be harder to trace. You already know he is being decietful by lying to you. It is just a matter of time. If he dis resects you like this then that is not the love that you deserve. I know from having 4 kids all 5 and under that it is stressful and you feel like he made those babies and now should deal with the stress with you and I totally agree...I wish you all the best...just DOn't confront him he will get sneaker...be your own detective. If she is calling him after work that is a BAD sign...
2006-09-05 11:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell your husband exactly what you just wrote. See where that goes. If it gets down to playing dirty with this former girl then you can complain to her work. But you better be aware that this could come back and bite your husband.
Good luck
2006-09-05 11:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront this whore.
There is NO room in a marriage for a third party. She has SOME nerve coming around when I am SURE she KNOWS their are twin babies here now.
Key her car and beat the crap out of her.....damn, I usually do not give such "evil answers" but it REALLY BOILS MY OIL reading how some women are such insecure whores they have to go after another woman's man. We women KNOW how devastating it is to be cheated on, why the hell would we wish it on someone else?????????
2006-09-05 11:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get him a new phone number.....then if her number still is logged on there you know he's up to something.
Otherwise, call her....tell her you don't appreciate her calling your husband and to find someone of her own.
2006-09-05 12:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be vague, be direct. Ask him to stop having contact with her. If you can't trust him to do that when asked, there might be some deeper problems in your relationship that need to be addressed a.s.a.p. Perhaps counseling could help.
2006-09-05 12:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her and him and let them know that if they are gonna keep this up behind your back then they can have each other. Don't let this man stress you out for nothing. Just have proof before you do anything, like leaving.
2006-09-05 12:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by lmkpink911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is something rotten going on tell him you looked at his phone records and seen she is calling after hours why is this if you get no answer that you are satisfied with call her and ask her what is going on between them
2006-09-05 11:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out why she is calling first and if the answer is not satisfactory to you then tell him if he still wants you has a wife then he needs to tell her stop calling and if he doesn't do it you will.
2006-09-05 11:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to deal with this. He should tell her to stay out of his life.
2006-09-05 11:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋