2006-09-05 04:30:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes if it's not with your spouse. Flirting creates a temptation that will only bring heartache to your spouse. Remember that marriage is a commitment to put your spouse first over your own needs.
2006-09-05 09:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Joey V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it only puts out distrust to the marriage, why put such stress on a marriage, it is childish and shows signs of imaturity. Flirting can really hurt your spouses feelings! Trust means a lot in a marriage by doing this it only makes your partner questions your motives and actions and why put a buch of questionable incidents out there in it to begin with it is hard enough without adding acts of this nature! It doesn't show much respect for your spouse either and it will also make them wonder what is wrong with them and make them feel insecure all the way around about everything!
Unless only both are doing it in a respectfull manner and it is agreed on and allowed, that is the only time it is o.k. Why would you want to flirt with someone else anyway if you're married? You have motives you are unaware of... Flirting can and will lead to things that could really be hurtful to a marriage! - Don't play games be up front, honest and respectful to your spouse! Especially if you want it to last...
2006-09-05 11:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a flirt, it's just his nature and he can't help it. He flirts with everyone in a very sweet and totally non-sexual way. I've been told I'm a bit of a flirt myself. Before we got married, we had a long talk about what was appropriate and what was unacceptable and for 26 years, we've never had a problem sticking to it and are about the happiest must unified couple I know.
There are some people who are extremely insecure and see a spouse flirting innocently as a gateway to cheating. If that's the case, you both have to work out some ground rules.
There are some people who are flirting "with intent" and that's a very good way to end a marriage. If you flirt, you have to be aware that it can be taken the wrong way and you have to know how to deal with it properly.
My husband's outgoing nature was the exact thing that attracted me to him (that and his soccer players butt) so I can't see squashing his personality.
2006-09-05 11:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! YES!! YES!!
If you want to flirt then you should have stayed single... For one thing you should only have eyes for your husband/wife. I'm not saying you walk around blind, sure you notice other people and may find some of them attractive, but you don't act on it. Flirting is wrong. It shows a lack of respect to your spouse. I am married and I would never flirt with another woman. I would not flirt because I have absolutely no desire to. Sure there are attractive people in the world but I only have eyes for my Wife. If I did have the desire to flirt with other, while I certainly wouldn't at upon it out of respect for my wife, I would be worried at the very fact that I had the desire to flirt. Similarly, should my spouse flirt with other men I think it would be the beginning-of-the-end for us. Even if she never took it any further than just flirting, the fact that she was thinking about other men in anything other than a purely platonic way would, in my mind, mean we had reached the point-of-no-return. I couldn't see a way back from that and I'm not sure if I would really want to... In my mind Flirting is Cheating!
2006-09-05 15:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by absolutely_fabulous_78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how your spouse would feel if they knew... or maybe they do know. If they are okay with it, then I don't see the initial harm. Although, that is how many affairs begin, casual talking and flirting that has no intention of going further, but it progresses into the "danger zone" anyway lmao
Why do you need to flirt with others when you can flirt with your spouse? If you were my husband, I'd be so turned off that you needed all that attention from people other than me. You should take the time and energy you spend flirting with others, and put that back into your marriage, making your spouse feel special, instead of strangers... your spouse should come first.
2006-09-05 11:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by AXeBaBe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's get-through-the-day flirting - the no big deal kind, just trying to be funny - then no problem. Everybody needs a good tease every now and then. If it's giving out your phone number and seriously wanting to bang someone flirting, then NO that's WRONG.
In general, don't flirt. It just makes things so much easier!!!
2006-09-05 11:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, as long as you don't take it to the next level - i did it while i was married & i think the reason was that i just was not that happy with my husband - i don't think i would flirt, if i was happy - but then again i love to flirt, so who knows?
2006-09-05 12:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting can go wrong. Everyone has their limits. You need to cut it off before you get near your limit.
2006-09-05 12:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think a lil flirting will harm so long as it doesn;t go any further than that and its true ur only married not dead
2006-09-05 11:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by medusar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with innocent flirting if you are married, as long as it doesn't go any further.
2006-09-05 13:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by jacemo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋