Ever since I was a little girl, I've been attracted to women. However, I've always dated men. During the time I've dated men, I never felt attracted to them or felt emotionally attatched to them. I never dated women, but some women that were close friends of mine, I felt all that emotional stuff and attraction. Anyway, I know it's wrong to be a homosexual because it says so in the Bible, but I can't stop thinking about women. I really want God to help me sort out my feelings. I would like to get married and have a family, but I also want to feel emotinally connected and attracted to my husband. It's not fair for him to feel it for me and I don't love him hypothetically speaking. Perhaps I need to have more faith and belief in God in helping me find a man to love and be attracted to. I'm 28 years old by the way. What do you think? Do you think I should seek counseling for this? I know most people would say "be gay, it's ok," but I want a honest opinion. Thank you!
2006-09-05 04:29:56 · 26 answers · asked by sugarbear 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do you think by people telling me to be myself, it's Satan's way of having control of the Earth and justifying homosexuality to make it seem ok?
2006-09-05 04:30:49 · update #1
Thank you Faith M
2006-09-05 04:35:59 · update #2
Seek counsil to help come to terms with who you are. There is nothing wrong with being gay. Just be a decent,kind person your sexual orientation shouldn't matter.
2006-09-05 04:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by lsehomeint 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... now thats deep. I really don't think that counseling is the answer. I mean I may not be going on 30 or anything but I do know that counseling isn't the answer. I don't know what to say about the whole religious part. I mean I have been torn for years. I am not going to tell you to "be gay, it's ok." Because you're already gay whether you want to accept it or not. Being gay isn't an act or anything. Its bigger and deeper than that. I am going to say that this is something that you should most definitely continue to pray about this. God is love correct? So God will love you no matter what. If indeed he is who he says he is. I honestly think that the bible constantly controdicts itself dealing with Homosexuality and other topics. So the bible isn't really the best resource to use. But you should definitely pray and seek advice from others and not from a shrink or theropist. Just someone that you have a good repore with. :) I hope that helped but if it didn't than I am sorry I've rambled way too much
2006-09-05 04:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Leelee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think Satan even exists, say nothing has power over people, or manipulates events on earth like a puppet-master. I understand that is a hard concept to wrap your mind around. I was an evangelical when I was your age, and I certainly had difficulty when a minister from a mainstream church (thankfully) explained it to me.
As for seeking counseling, the only counseling that you could find that would tell you that what you desire is wrong is from counselours who are completely out of step with science, research, and observed results. Another words, you would be consulting quacks, or, alternatively, you would be being told that you are fine as you are.
The best thing that you can do for yourself and others is to free yourself of the extreme religious views that you hold and find a more accepting version of your core faith. (presuming that you are Christian may I suggest United Church of Christ, most Episcopalians, Morelight Presbyterians, most United Methodists, and on and on) -- and live a normal life.
Hating yourself will not help.
Kind regards,
Reynolds Jones
http://www.rebuff.org
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-09-05 05:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most religons are made up of man made rules. I was brought up in the Catholic Church and out of a 45 minute service only 5 minutes were actually devoted to the bible. The other 35 minutes were ritual and 5 minutes devoted to social goings on. Then when reading the bible I saw where God said , when asked how to pray to Him, do not use rituals or something to that effect. He also said "let no man call himself Father for I am the only one." So what do the priests call themselves? I really believe that God is more concerned with true love and compassion then He is with sex acts and who they are between. He destroyed that city not because of the gay activity but the fact that there werepromiscuous sex and not sex concerning love between the people involved. Do you understand? I found that gays can love the same sex with as much passion and deep feelings of love as any straight couple can. Don't force it. When the right one comes along, be it man or woman and you fall in love, you will know what to do. Your instincts will kick in bigtime! Listen to them.
2006-09-05 05:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very possible. A woman could be with men her whole life, and then out of the blue feel an attraction to women, and realize that she's bi the same way some women doen't realize that they are gay until later in life. Sexuality is a hard thing to pinpoint. And Discovering what your sexuality is happens at different stages in life for each person. I also believe that a straight person can fall in love with a women without being gay. Love is love no matter who you fall in love with.
2016-03-17 08:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person of faith, I do believe in my heart that God made me gay. I believe that I have truly been blessed for living honestly. Since coming out and living an honest life, I have found I have a wonderfully supportive family, a happier son and a loving partner with whom I can love with my whole heart.
If your religious background is sending you conflicting messages, I suggest you try doing a little reading on what the Bible really says about homosexuality:
http://www.whosoever.org/bible/index.html
Know that you are still one of God's children and you are loved.
Yes, you should have faith that God will help you find someone you are attracted to, but don't be suprised if that person happens to be someone of the same gender.
http://www.godmademegay.com/
http://www.christiangays.com/products/euro/bk-1.shtml
http://www.whosoever.org/v6i5/truluck.html
Just remember; "There are 6 admonisments to gays in the bible, but 356 to heterosexuals. It doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals, it just means they need more supervision." (Lynn Lavner)
Also; and all kidding aside, the main message of the Bible is LOVE and Forgiveness. Not hate or descrimination.
2006-09-05 05:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were looking for reasons to deny your sexuality, you came to the wrong place. You said you wanted an honest opinion, guess what sugar? You're in the LGBT section-"It's okay to be gay" IS our honest opinion.
If you want validation for your religious beliefs, go to the Religion and Spirituality section. The only validation you'll get from here is from the bashers and bigots-and that may be what you're looking for. However, we don't want to give them something to praise about, so it's best kept in a different section.
I don't see what the problem is, honestly. Damn what the bible says, the bible was written by men, and more men who translated and interpreted it over and over again over a period of some thousands of years. Who is to say who got it right or wrong? You can believe whatever you want, as is your right, but MY belief is that God made us, each and every one of us, exactly the way we are. If he didn't want you or I to be gay, he wouldn't have made us that way. Why give us a life filled with turmoil and guilt and inner hatred because of who we are?
Doesn't make much sense, does it?
Don't know what god you follow, but the one I follow is not one who would put me through such misery. I can't help who I am, and for those who say they are 'ex-gay' are either lying to themselves now, or they never really were gay in the first place.
Be at peace and accept yourself for who you are, or live in denial and be miserable. Remember if you lie to yourself about who you are, that is also a sin.
2006-09-05 12:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are having a difficult time with this. You've been raised a Christian, but you've had drummed into your head that being gay is wrong. God created and loved us all! If He didn't create homosexuals, there wouldn't be any! You can be both homosexual AND Christian, as I am, and as all my gay/lesbian friends. there are Christians, and there are those who hide behind the Bible to justify their hatred.
denying who you are and living a lie will only be harder emotionally the longer you suppress you're true feelings. you CAN have a family with another woman, you know! I have many gay/lesbian friends who are parents. you shouldn't marry someone you are not emotionally/physically connected to just because society says that's what you're supposed to do.
I think you need counseling to help you accept who you are, and not live a lie by denying/suppressing it.
I wish you the best!
2006-09-05 05:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ....IF..... homosexuality is a sin, Jesus died for all mankind's sin's. If you believe God to be omnipotent he knew what your feeling's were before you were born and even before you knew your own feeling's , and still choose to sacrifice his son for YOU.
Second, I would suggest you speak to a pastor at a GLBT church, such as Metropolitan community Church. If you are near a big city, you should look into a GLBT community center, that could steer you in the right direction, weather you are Catholic, Jewish, or other denomination.
2006-09-05 05:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do what is socially right, you'll be unhappy inside and that's your own fault for not being who you are, if in fact you really are attracted to women and are gay or bi. It's not easy....find someone who is openly gay or bi and ask them how easy it was for them. Then after that...ask them how happy they are now compared to then....there's a difference. You're going to do what you want, but for some random advice that you're asking for....you already know the answer....god loves you..god loves all...he will not condemn you for who you fall in LOVE with....what sense does that make?
I can't believe some of these hipocritical religious jerks.....I call them jerks...because they have their own sins and then throw this one up all the time! What a crutch.
Anyways....I just want to add that some of you need to stop speaking as if you are God.....he has his own voice and he talks to us all, so do not spill all of your crap onto some people and tell them how to live their damn lives. P.S. Almost everything in the bible cannot be proven (Yes, I am a believer...)...but, that is just a fact. Bottom line, stop speaking for God, you are not him.
2006-09-05 04:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by Bailey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From a Christian Stand pint you need to realize God made you. God made us all. He makes no mistakes and he loves all his creation, ALL! The problem is you are stuck on what man has to say and judge. God reads hearts. He knows if your good or not, just by reading your heart. no human can do this. This is why god is reserved all rights to judgement and we are not, though we tend to do it so often. Jesus accepted EVERYONE at times when his peers where straight up against it. He spoke and dinesd with WHores, Tax Colectors, and even sumarians whom jews werent allowed to talk to. Dont let anyone tell you who or how to love. If you are lying to yourself and staying with men this is a sin as well. Lying is a sin. DO not marry or be with someone you dont love. The whole reason marriage was institutionalized between a couple under Gods eyes was because God wanted to people to love one another. God is love to know love is to know God according to 1st John! So dont fake the funk because people tell you homoesexuality is wrong. This is an ongoing battle between Gays and Conservative straight religions folk. The Religious Conservatives beleive it is an abomination in itself. Not the homosexual but the acts of homosexulaity. but what choice do homosexuals actually have? God wants all his children to be happy! ALl his children to be Happy and Loving one another! This is what you have to focus on. I falways found it Odd Jesus never had anything negaive to say about homosexuality nor was it mentioned at all in any of his accounts. Only pre Jesus and after Jesus did you hear about homosexuality. This is something you must meditate on and pray on. God wont change you he makes no mistakes. To change you would mean he made a mistake with you. he made you as you are and in the beauty of his image. Live your life, be yourself and Praise the one who created you! Please conatact me if you ever need to talk or be spiritually uplifted!
2006-09-05 06:13:07 · answer #11 · answered by david s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋