I just recently broke up with a man that I have known and have loved for 10 years.We went from Friends, to Lovers to Friends/lovers at the same time, to Lovers again and now he doesn't even talk to me. during our Friend/lover period we were not comitted to eachother. I chose not to see anyone due to how i felt about him but he dated.He got a girl pregnant during this time and told me everything about the relationship. about her, about the sex and that he didn't want to be with her. I didn't handle it well, eventhough he told me to take a break, I couldn't. I was afraid of losing him again.So we started a comitted relationship. while she was pregnant. which was very stressful for me.We began argueing alot and alot more after the child was born.We broke up a 3 months now and He has stated to his family,my friends and others that it is over between us for good and that he has to do whats right for his son now.He is trying to work it out with the mother he didn't want.I dont believe it
2006-09-05 04:25:53 · 8 answers · asked by we r family? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do not want to be harsh - please don't take this the wrong way.
Please get over him, cut him out of your life - no contact no talking it is the best way to get over him.
being a man i can tell you that when you first broke up it was because he wanted to see other people and probably was already seeing someone else (how long was it before he announced that he had an other women - prob not long). And the Friends and Lovers stage was just a booty call. If a guy can have the best of both worlds he will, I mean he can hunt all he wants and still be able to call for a 'free meal' whenever he want to.
I think he is doing the right thing by being with his son.
If you think about hard you were a booty call and that's it. He was using you. Now that you want to be exclusive he wants no part of it - his free meal is gone. Your fights were because he did not want to be tied down to one person.
It would be best for you to move one and find someone that will treat you right. I think it is over and if he comes back to you, it is because he knows that he can treat you like $h!t and get away with it and you will always be there to take it.
Move on you will find someone who will treat you right and be deserving of you love.
2006-09-05 05:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by smartypantsmbcanada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's good for nothing. 10 years is a long time to wait for a committment. He is flip-flopping. I think that if, after 10 years, he still can't make up his mind, that he never will. You should move on with your life. Especially, since he humiliated you in front of your family. How will your family ever be able to love him and invite him into the family, when he has even told them that it is over between you. This is a man who left a 10 year relationship for another woman whom he got pregnant, and whom he has now dumped. Don't you see a pattern here? I don't think it's an issue of whether you should give up. Sounds like he gave up ages ago, or rather he never gave the two of you a real chance. Leave him and find a real man who will make the committment you want and treat you right.
2006-09-05 11:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty
i will move on
reason being is that he now has a family
and if u get involve with him
not only are u dealing with his problem but there s a baby involved or lets not forget the baby mama which i know for a fact will make ur life a living hell
u got off easily
let it go and find yourself someone without the issues i know it will be hard but atleast try
hey maybe years down the road u two will get back together but as of right now don t even bother
2006-09-05 11:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your own sake babe, forget him. It sounds like he was never very commited in the first place. Gather up your pride and dignity (I know it's hard - been there, done it, worn the tee shirt), but you'll just end up looking an idiot if you keep on. There's someone out there who deserves you and will love you, and you only. I wish you all the best. Sue xx
2006-09-05 11:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by mousepotato66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY YOU WAKE UP!
cause you must be dreaming. what don't you believe? He told you it's over and he's gonna try and work it out with this other chick, leave the man alone and let him do his thing. You get over it obviously it wasn't meant to be just a shame y'all wasted 10 years before y'all could figure that out.
2006-09-05 11:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is meant for you two to be together. If that is in God plan then it will happen. Don't worry and let God handle every thing. And if you don't have God find God, because he is the only one who can truely help you through trust me i know. I'm not claming to know everything but it something about God he will get you through any thing. You just have to work on you first.
2006-09-05 11:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by pb147852 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chose a any man who like you, love him assuming he is a man whom you loved before, stop thinking about past, just enjoy life
2006-09-05 11:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by pcbrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when babies get involved i would let him go. i know its hard but he's moved on and so you should too.
2006-09-05 12:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋