2006-09-05 04:20:23 · 22 answers · asked by Mena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first thing is to identify if there is a specific reason you don't want to make love as often as he wants. From there you need to talk to him and explain what is going on. Tell him why and how it makes you feel. If he loves you he will respect your feelings and the two of you should be able to come up with a better way of communicating when you both are up for some love making as well as when your not without hurting any ones feelings.
2006-09-05 04:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know this? If not, explain to him kindly, and be sure to tell him that it's just a matter of different sex drives, not anything he is doing wrong nor anything you're upset with him about. Tell him how often you want to have sex, find out how often he realistically wants sex, and see if you can both compromise somewhere in the middle. I also like some of the other ideas people have written here about quickies, handjobs, and letting him masturbate while you're naked; these are good compromise solutions that don't require much effort on your part but which will help keep your husband happy.
2006-09-05 11:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex can make or break a marriage. I am a divorced male from 3 years ago. If your husband has one hell of a libedo, than it might be risky for you to say no. He may venture out to find release with no control over his sex drive. Even if he is a faithful man, temptation at his low point may drive him into another womans arms or should I say (legs). This is just an example it has happened before to many marriages. If I were you I would ask him if a b j would do the trick if you don't feel up to sex. I would enjoy the b j just as much if not more, it just depends on my mood.
2006-09-05 12:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by cosmoestyle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the opposite situation, My husband doesn't want to make love as often as I do and it hurts my feelings. I don't understand why he feels this way. It makes feel like I am not attractive or that I don't do it for him. So my suggestion would be to help him understand why you feel this way so he does not take it personal.
2006-09-05 11:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason you don't want to? Is he asking for it too much? If his sex drive suddenly kicked up a big notch, you might want to find out why.
If it's just you not wanting to anymore or not as often, you need to ask yourself why.
The best thing to do is to talk to him about it, air out both your feelings on the situation, and come to some sort of resolution. You'll both be happier this way. Otherwise, it will cause friction and lead to other problems.
2006-09-05 12:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by pinto6810 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Submit. A man's number one need is sexual fufillment and a woman's number one need is affection.
I say, lay it on him better than you ever have and the next day when he can't walk strait mention you would be more in the mood if he was more affectionate and showed you more love. (men listen better after they have been taken care of properly both naturally and bibically speaking)
Marriage in my opinion is all about, you take care of me, I take care of you and in the end we are both taken care of.
The only way this is possible is thru lots of communication and truly being willing to focus on the other person and not yourself.
Easier said than done, but doable none the less...trust me.
2006-09-05 11:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I would want to figure out why. You both are not on the same page. Is he a wham bam guy and you are a more cuddle and foreplay gale.
You two need to talk and get connected correctly
2006-09-05 11:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to say no. It really sucks to be on the receiving end of that. Begging spawns resentment.
Tell him your not really in to mood so you are only going to give him so much time to bring you up to speed. Or tell him to make it quick.
Being always willing is a bigger plus in your column than you'll ever know.
2006-09-05 11:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common.With love in your heart and kindness in your voice talk to your husband. Come up with some common ground.
2006-09-05 11:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by archer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him find a way to make him happy, I'm telling you it isn't worth him feeling like your not interested in him anymore...give him a quickie on the kitchen counter here and there,really...it you love him it's worth it.
2006-09-05 11:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋