how do i get my son over being spoiled?

Question

Im a first time mom, and i know alot of people probably go through this. He was born August 1st, and he hates to sleep in his crib or cradle. He loves to just be held. How can i get him not to be spoiled. Also if anyone has advice on switching his days and nights. Id love to get sleep at night.

Answer 1

Holding your baby does not spoil him. but there is a time to draw the line. When he throws a fit... let him work it out. Lay him down, if he crys, let him. you can tell it is just him wanting to be held. Be strong, he will cry himself to sleep. He will be fine, its not hurting him. (it will actually help his lungs get stronger.)

With him being a little over a month old, he wont be on your schedule, you are on his. If he is hungry in the middle of the night, or wet, he will need his attention. You might see a change in his habbits when you stop holding him whenever he wants it. he might stay awake longer periods of the day (and as he ages, he will need less sleep during the day)

He is still getting used to this big bright world. Just give him a little time... and learn to feed with your eyes closed. lol

Congrats on the new baby.

Answer 2

If he was born August 1st, then he's way too young to be sleeping on a day/night schedule anyway. That doesn't come for another few months. Making him lay in his crib or cradle and cry will do nothing but stress him out. At this age, he won't be sleeping through any nights when he wakes up hungry every two or three hours.

He's only a little over one month old. Right now he knows little more beyond the warmth and comfort of your arms. You don't need to worry about him being "spoiled" at such a young age. Just hold him, let him go to sleep in your arms, and then put him into his cradle. Get one of those baby slings if you need your hands free and keep him with you. You really don't need to worry about him being spoiled unless you keep it up until he's a one-year-old. Keep a cradle by your bed, too. Then you can help him get to sleep better. Just let him get a little more adjusted to the world before doing the whole stupid "let him cry" thing.

If you want to establish SOME normalcy in his sleeping routine (and good look with that on such a VERY YOUNG child), then you need a bedtime routine. This means you need to perform a set of rituals right before it's time for him to go to bed in the same order. First off, make sure that it's always bright around him when it's daytime and always dark around him when it's night. Do things like give him a bath, dress him in his jammies, feed him, rock him slowly, sing a certain song, and then put him down to sleep.

I cannot stress this enough... DO NOT DO THE "LET HIM CRY" METHOD! He's way too young, and it won't help at such a young age to put him through the stress of being left alone to wail. I would also reccomend seeing his doctor just in case he has an ear infection. It never hurts to be absolutely sure.

Answer 3

Well,

He is very young and is probably suffering from seperation anxiety when you are not around... He thinks he is still apart of you and finds comfort in your smell, voice and heartbeat.

It might be too early now (he is only a month old), but you will have to teach him to sleep on his own sooner or later...

So here is my advice for when that time comes...

Make sure you feed him, burp him, change his diaper and that he is feeling good (healthy- no fever)... Then put him in his crib for sleep. It is ok if he cries... he will just cry himself to sleep...

My mom use to say "Crying is good for a baby-- it makes their lungs strong." So, just get use to the noise and resist the urge to pick your son up just because he is crying.

My mom use to also say, "Worry when the baby stops crying". Meaning, when the baby stops crying, go check on baby and make sure the baby is ok... and is asleep properly (or in the proper position).

Sooner or later, your son will fall into a routine and know to go to sleep... you can also invest in some little wind up stuff animals that play music or pretty things to hang over the crib to keep you son occupied if he wakes up early.

Of course, you should always consult a doctor is you are really concerned just to rule out any medical problems...

:)
I hope this helps... good luck and rest well...
T.

Answer 4

There is a differece between letting him cry for a few mintues and letting him cry for 15 mins.........don't let him lay and cry for 15 mins. But take your time in picking him up. My child is 5 weeks old and I had the same problem. Mine was because he had a rough start because of constipation. He still has trouble with night and day.......and some babies will for a long time. But it does help if in the morning when he get's up take him with you as you walk around and open the curtins to the sunlight. Then in the evening take him with you to close the curtins in your home. Try a day time/ night time routine with bath at night and bottle following. Rock him to sleep, and lay him down in his crib. If he starts to root around, and then cry........don't pick him up right away. Let him cry for a few mins, then try rubbing his back. Babies love to be rubbed! If he doesn't settle....try rocking. This will take time. And don't discard any method you try until you give it a good trial run. I still don't get all the sleep I need, but that's how having a baby works. There will be more sleepless nights for the rest of your life. But it's alllllllllllllllllllll worth it.

Answer 5

It's natural for him to prefer being held over being alone in his crib, but probably not ideal for your rest. At 1 month, don't worry, he's not really spoiled. Try putting him in his crib when he's nearly asleep, so if he wakes up he won't be surprised at where he is. If he starts crying, check his diaper and feed him or whatever, then leave him to fall asleep again. If he continues crying, check on him intermittently. Hopefully he'll fall asleep fairly quickly. I've got 3 kids and the older two are really good sleepers; my 1 year old cries for a few minutes when we put her in the crib because she hates missing out on anything; then goes to sleep. Anyway, it may be rough at first, but check out these websites for more articles and bulletin boards. Good luck!

Answer 6

he is a little over a month old...i think you should just give him all the attention he needs but you need to get him accustomed to sleeping in his crib slowly...maybe you can gently beat on his torso creating a sort of heartbeat affect so he feels comforted and knows you are around, he will eventually get to sleep and then you can get some rest as well. However if you are just worried that he is spoiled then DON'T WORRY :) he is still an infant and seeing that you are worried already i am sure you wont let him become someone that isn't appreciative of what he gets,...but my suggestion is just love him and gradually get him used to sleeping in his cradle. im sure he'll cry in the beginning but let him realize that youre there and don't worry you'll get your freedom again (atleast when he is fast asleep!) ;) Hope it goes well!

Answer 7

I dont know if he's really spoiled because babies require love and a lot of attention.. which includes being held.

Maybe you could put him in a bouncer seat or a swing when he sleeps. Sometimes babies just need that security feeling of being held.

As for the day and night switch...this is what i did. when its daytime keep the lights on, keep the tv up..stuff like that. At night time...lights out! Don't be as active with the baby in fact just not talking to him at all is good. turn the tv volume down. sometimes you just have to train them. this worked for my son

good luck

Answer 8

You cannot spoil a baby there is no way they need all the tlc u can give. We also have a new baby in our household and swithing days from nights was the easiest part

1 At night swadle him and put him in sleepers not just onseies.
2 create a routine for instance songing to him, a walk, a bath, a breastfeeding session in a rocking chair
3 lay him down more to play in the day and cuddle him more at night

P.S have you tried putting his bssinet right nxt to your bed so you can put your hand in his crib and rub his back.... Or co sleeping (but you u have to be careful cause that is proven to raise the risk of sids)

Good luck and Congrats

Answer 9

1. Make sure he is clean and full
2. He is only month old so don't expect full night until he is about four to six months old
3. holding is a comfort and bonding experience, enjoy it now because they get older and don't want you to hold them and think they know everything.
4. swaddle him in a blanket lay him on his side and rub his back.
5. put him the crib and put a favorite toy in with him, try a soothing over the crib mobile to entertain him and lull him to sleep.
6. buy a set of ear plugs.Let him cry, but check on him every five minutes. If it's more than 30 min pick him up and comfort him. Most likely he will fall asleep in about 10 to 15 min. Please check on him every five min.
PLEASE GET SOME ONE TO WATCH HIM FOR A DAY WHILE YOU GO HOME TO NAP. THIS WILL HELP!!!
Mother of three.

Answer 10

August 1st? So the baby is a mere month old? First off... Congrats on the baby! They are indeed a blessing *smile*
It isn't that the baby hates the crib... he doesn't know it! What he does know is you, the feeling of warmth, your voice, the gentle swaying... he's missing all that. What my people do with their newborns is wrap the child good so their arms can't escaped from the baby blanket, then gently rock the baby to sleep (image to give you a picture what I mean... http://www.lapahie.com/Dondo_Papoose.cfm & http://www.thebabyhammock.com/swaddleme.htm) It also helps to have one of those alarm clocks that softly tick in the baby's blankets. It reminds the child of your heartbeat which he heard for months. *smile*
Best of luck to you!!