I know people would say its being the 'bigger person' but it just annoys me. I guess i could not just comply but in the long run, it diffuses the argument
2006-09-05 04:05:36 · 18 answers · asked by Quiet Storm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No it's not 'being the bigger person'. If you think you are in the right, you should not apologise. One should only apologise if they believe they require forgiveness.
If you don't want to be in an argument any more, it's just as easy to walk away and far more honest. 'Sorry' is for when you believe you are wrong. Don't misuse it or your integrity will be left in tatters.
2006-09-05 04:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strongly believing you are right doesn't make it so. And yes it is sometimes worth it to give into an argument then to keep it going because some people are that bull headed and it's just not worth it. Besides (except for me lol) no one knows everything and theirs nothing wrong with being wrong you just say well then i guess i learned something new today. GL
2006-09-05 04:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i understand; as i quite rightly agree with you. i've met people in the past who think they are always right and that nobody has a right to question or argue about it. bullshit. i'm sick of always having to feel sorry for myself and that i have to accept it, as it implies that i am always secondary to them and they are bigger than me. when you do something that you know isn't going to rub people up the other way, and you don't notice this-and yet when they pick up on this and start bragging on and on about it, you just want to set the record straight and make them listen to you. or to be more precise, 'shut up' whatever it is. and making you apologise for it just sucks.
when you know you're right and that your actions or comments merit some kind of worth or truth, even both, you just know the last thing you'd want to do is offend that other person. at the same time, however, you are so annoyed with them that you've had just about enough of making yourself the scapegoat in everything.
therefore, we should ask: when its not our fault, when we know deep down that this problem-whatever that may be- arose as a result of someone else's idiocy or comments and not ours, why should we be made to say sorry and apologise? because i certainly shouldn't and neither should you mate.
2006-09-05 04:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never accept being forced doing or accepting things you don't approve. If you genuinely feel your principles and opinions are the best, then always stick to them unless you get the proof that you are really wrong. Always do and accept whatever is acceptable to your heart and mind. Never go against your wishes because in doing so you will never be happy!
2006-09-05 04:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I once had to apologise to a client and send her flowers when she had been absolutely vile to me. It took me ages to get over that. Sometimes it's easier to say sorry to a loved one just to smoothe things over though.
2006-09-05 04:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by helen p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HATE that!!!!
I had a fight with my brothers gf. I am totally in the right, but she made me say something I maybe shouldn't have. I am not apologising because although I shouldn't have said it, it is true!!
I am putting my foot down on this one.
NO, I WILL NOT APOLOGISE YOU *****!!!!!!
2006-09-05 04:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be forced to apologise for strongly held views?
Tough if people don't agree with you.
Stand by your convictions and let them go F... themselves!
2006-09-05 04:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - So i don't - If you believe your right and have a good enough explanation stick by your guns.
2006-09-05 04:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lucasm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes we do but you look like the better person when you just throw your hands up and say it, even though you are right.
2006-09-05 04:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! I hate doing that. It's like pulling teeth for me.
2006-09-05 04:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by smashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋