So, my wife and I have been married for four months, living together for over five years. Upon returning from our honeymoon we haven't had sex since. As a matter of fact there really hasn't been any physical intimacy of any kind to be honest. We're both attractive people. She has admitted she finds sex unappealing because she feels no part of our relationship is intimate, but she isn't doing anything to make things better between us. I've tried many different things from romancing her, encouraging her, seducing her, iv'e been pissed at her, i've tried ignoring her, i've tried everything and nothing seems to work. How much longer should I put up with this? Any other men or women out there experience this problem. I need help.
2006-09-05 04:03:42 · 9 answers · asked by imagineus2night 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
should just give her time, then let her come to you when she wants to be intimate.
2006-09-05 04:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it like this before the marriage and if so why did you get married? If it wasn't what changed? You got married. It sounds like you both have some weird ideas regarding marriage. If she was sexual before the wedding but is not now either she does not like sex and was only humoring you until the hook went in OR she has no concept that sex is an integral component of a healthy marriage. That comes from her parent's example or her perception that her parents never had sex. In any case you guys need to eliminate the physical component with a doctor's exam and the get some counseling.
2006-09-05 11:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 2 months, lived together 2 years and my husband sounds like your wife. He's not affectionate and we don't have sex that often. I try to talk to him about it but nothing is changing so far. I feel like we have no passion. If this keeps up I will eventually have to leave because intimacy is very important to me. But for now I am just going to continue to talk to him about it, expressing my needs, my feelings and so forth. Also I will try to understand why he is this way and his feelings on the issue. Hopefully by working together we can fix this, but we both have to want the situation to change. I must remember that I can't change him, only how I react to what he does or doesn't do.
2006-09-05 11:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well the first sentence says something to me. Is she cheating on you. Cause when the sex gets boring she will go somewhere else. Promise you i know i have been with my hubby for almost 5 years married for 3 and i had an affair it happens i would watch out. But if that is not the case and i dont want you to go acusing her but maybe at some point in her life she was raped cause women will shut down after that. Maybe she has things that she hasnt told you yet i would really sit and talk to her cause if you just keep being angry it will just make her shut down more. Good luck and remeber dont get angry unless you really really need to.
2006-09-05 11:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean no offense by this but first Yahoo answers is not the place you should be looking for answers your wife is. Second women often lose their sex drive because they are not happy in their relationships. You all should go to a counselor ( marriage, religious or such) and find what the REAL issue is. One thing for sure reacting negatively to this problem and her only makes it worse.
2006-09-05 11:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an analment before its too late....
Take the signs and run, get out while you can with no harm done to your finances etc.
Or, get her pregnant, live years in misery and get a divorce, pay her alimony and child support for 18 years.
Your choice.
2006-09-05 11:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by dyno_bot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what the real truth to the problem is,she is not being fully honest with you,maybe she regrets getting married or she is intrested in someone else
2006-09-05 11:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to sit down and discuss this. If you can't find a resolution to your problem you may consider counseling.
2006-09-05 11:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until the COWS come home.
2006-09-05 11:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋