Scared ....nervous....anyone else feel this way...what did you do?

Question

Ok so I'm 6 months and I know I still have awhile...but I got to thinking about the whole giving birth thing and I'm kinda scared...not sure what to expect...this is my first if you can't tell! Don't get me wrong I am excited about having my baby girl....but then again I am scared. Was anyone else scared with their first? Was it really that bad, alot of pain? How long did the pain last? I just need some advice or something to help me out here.....

Answer 1

well i was 17 when i had my baby girl and i was so scared didnt know what to expect but when i went into labor my back hurt so bad and when your about ready to push her out you feel like you have to **** dont thats all the press from the baby means your ready to push remember to breath with the pains and do what the doctors say there is alot of pain but when you start pushing it will be over within mins trust me.i pain comes and go just breath with it ok dont stop

Answer 2

Don't feel bad for being scared, you are starting out on a very grand adventure we call parenthood. Labor hurts, there is no way around that, but you have pain management options. There is nothing wrong with having an epidural. You would be awake for the birth and you can still feel the sensation of the contractions, just not the acute pain. You can still feel when you need to push and you are completely aware of what's going on in the delivery room. A lot of women feel that they shouldn't have pain medicine, but if you look at it objectively, it can really help you enjoy the experience of giving birth.

I am 32 weeks into my second pregnancy and I'm nervous about giving birth again. Feeling this way is perfectly normal. You can read about delivery in a book like "What to Expect While You're Expecting" and that might make you feel a little more in control of the situation and give you some idea what to expect.

Hang tough and enjoy this special time!

Answer 3

yes, i think most ppl are scared of labour! i know I was. i mean, everyone goes on about it being the worst pain that exists, like agony. I found it to be more like really bad period pains, Until I got to the last 2 centimetres and it was like a really intense squeezing feeling all around your uterus, kind of like a stitch but a lot worse.

I actually got up to 3 cm with just a few niggly cramps, didn't even think i was in labour. And then they stopped it (cos I was 35 weeks) and when I came back to the hospital at 38 weeks, I was 8cm dilated. But all that had happened over the past 3 weeks was I had a bad back ache, but I'd had no idea I was in labour. It wasn't until my waters broke that it got all squeezy. I had an epidural which only kicked in when I was about to push so I missed that part but i think that must be the painful part.

My advice: It's not as bad as they say, at least not until the 2nd half. If you need it, have an epidural, there's no shame in that! Investigate some positions beforehand to get into that will ease the pain, like leaning forwards holding onto something and rocking. if you can, get in the shower or bath. this all depends on if you're hooked up to a contraction or fetal heartbeat monitor.

Everyone's scared, it's just ppl talking it up so don't listen to the hype, you'll be alright. And it's not as much the pain, I don't think, as the endurance. It gets you down after a while. like, how much longer is this gonna last? Remember it's not a competition, have pain relief if you need to. Good Luck, and congratulations on your baby girl!!!

Answer 4

I think everyone gets scared on their first. Yes, it honestly can be a little painful. Have you thought of what kind of birth you are going to have? Like an epidural? I had one and it helped a whole lot! Here's the thing. Once the baby is here you won't even really remember any pain. You'll be so excited that you have your healthy beautiful baby girl and that will be the only thing that matters. Don't worry sweetie you will be fine! Good Luck! Let us know how it goes.

Answer 5

Your nervous and that is normal. I know I was. If you having an epidural (and I would STRONGLY suggest having the epidural) it won't be as bad as you think. My problem was that I never seen anyone have a real birth and I went by what I watched on TV, and not The Learning Channel. You can expect some discomfort don't get me wrong. But you will probably be pleasantly surprised. I know I was. But then again I had a difficult pregnancy. I was preeclemptic. But all the sickness and pain just goes away and you can't remeber it at all. So you may be sore but when you see your baby it will all be worth it.

Answer 6

FIrst of all take a deep breath and relax. Everything you are feeling is normal. However it isn"t necessary to be that worried. I had 3 and there was some pain but not what I imagined. Epidurals are wonderful and help alot not to mention helping you actually enjoy the experience. My daughter was c- section and the after was worse that the surgery. BUt I learned the faster I moved around the faster I felt better. Try concentrating on geting ready for your daughter instead of worrying about the pain. Because it is a very wonderful experience if you just relax and allow your self to enjoy it.God is giving you a wonderful gift so just let the love you have for her flow starting right now. THe good will out weigh the bad. I promise.

Answer 7

It is normal to be nervous with having children, even if it isn't your first. I am also 6 months pg with a little girl, also my first. I'm not that worried about the labor and pain. My concern is that everything will turn out well and the baby will be healthy. I try not to get to worried about it because I haven't had any problems thus far and your docs will keep a good eye on you to make sure that everything is okay. Pain can be controlled my medicine if necessary, I want to try to avoid using medication.I think I can handle it but you never know until it happens. Start writting up a birth plan. Research pain medications and decide what you want to recieve if you need it. Put that in the birth plan and also include any procedures you may encounter and how you want to go about dealing with them. Talk to you doc or midwife s/he can help you make your birth plan. I think you'll feel better after you make one.

Answer 8

I had a c-section with my daughter. I was only 18, and was scared to death. I shook so bad, but didn't feel a thing, until after wards, and was really sore from the incision.
I had an epidural with my son. My water broke early in the morning, I didn't start feeling the pain until 3pm, he was born at 6pm, so might as well say I was in labor for 3 hours. Lucky I guess, But it sure did hurt! What hurts is stomach and back pain, "down there" don't hurt, it just feels like you got to go p++ really bad!! The coaching nurse was a big help. They tell you how to breathe and when to push, (like going to the bathroom), and stare at someting that don't move, like the clock. It'll be worth it when you see your baby, you'll forget about the pain, seriously!

Answer 9

I had my son 3 years ago now and I remember the anxiety and it is to be expected and I am not going to lie to you...It will be like no other experience that you ever felt before, But the best part about this is how you feel when you have your precious child in your arms...I remember the pain before my water broke...but the pain after the water breaking is the clincher...I had an epidural because I was in labor for a total of 47 hours but I believe that the experience is what you make it...So right now mentally prepare for the best...and congrats! And have no worries because everything will be just fine!

Answer 10

I was nervous, but had already made up my mind that I was asking for an epidural. I knew that I could not do that much pain. With my first I started hurting right quick after my water broke. Talk about pain! With baby #2 it took a little while for the pain to kick in. When labor did really start it was all in my back. With baby#3 I was 4 cm before I even knew I was in labor. Once again LOTS of back labor. I had epidurals with all 3 kids. It worked great with 2 of them. I recommend them, but they are not for everyone. Depending on your pain tolerance you may be able to get away with very little pain meds (if anything).

Take a lamaze class. They are really cheesy, but offer a realistic look at labor.