my husband was not helping me with money for bills about 2 weeks ago and he even kicked me out of my own home because he has a drug problem. i am living with my parents now. he wants me back and i don't think i should get back with him he has already hurt me to much and i don't think he deserves me. please i need advise on anything at this point.
2006-09-05 03:37:20 · 18 answers · asked by krazziekitty26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him.
2006-09-05 03:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Lothario 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you want to go back and live with a druggie, why????? What ARE you thinking, girl..... (no body's that good in bed!!!).....where is your self esteem, where are your plans for the future, where, in the hell is your brain?????? Run, don't walk to an attorney, and get a divorce, get your life together, get some more education and get a job that pays well. Your future with a druggie is no future at all -- you're looking at a life of misery, and you will leave anyway, or he will leave you, and leave you in debt. If you're a nice lady, get your act together go back to school, and find a nice guy..... and plan your life to include future financial security. This guy will spend all of your savings, and by the time you are 50, you'll be out on the streets poor, sick, and alone.
2006-09-05 10:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without a SERIOUS committment to in-patient drug treatment, I wouldn't even consider going back. And how in the heck does a man kick a woman out of her "OWN HOME"? He needs help...quicly, okay, Hun? Get him out of your house and take your life back! After he has gone through rehab, IF YOU are willing to try again, take things very slow. I don't think his moving back in right away is a very good idea. He has to be able to stand on his own two feet, first. He can't be the head of your home, if he can't even keep his own head above water, you know? Don't let him dictate how things in your relationship are going to go. You two have to find some common ground--a point of compromise, if this has any chance of working.
2006-09-05 11:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chell B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there children involved? Is this a new marraige?These are some questions to ask your self.Is your marraige worth trying to save?I think the both of you should sit in front of a marraige consouler and lay out your cards on the table.Air out your differences about what's going on.Marraige is a 50 /50 split .It's like a job where both parties share the responsibilities for the relationship.Both of you guys need to seriously talk.
2006-09-05 11:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, You dont need a scumbag like this. File for a divorce quick. Go to the police and file a pertition of pertection on yourself. That way, if he comes near you have him locked up.And press charges against him. He knows your with your family.Leave, Go to were he cant find you .Why hasent your father got envolved, and why dont you have him evicted from th house. I hope you want be stuped and go back to him.
2006-09-05 10:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He kicked you out of your house and you want to know if you should take him back. What does he have to do? Hurt you really bad before you can answer this question for yourself.
2006-09-05 10:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not worry about trying to help him until he wants to help himself. For someone who is on drugs they have to decide that they want to get help until then everything you do will be pointless. I would get a divorce and move on, but let him know that if he decides to go into treatment you will be there for him for support, but until then you have to move on because he has hurt you too much.
2006-09-05 16:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by JENNIFER W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many chances have you given him?
My suggestion is if you think the relationship is worth saving, tell him what you need in order for the relationship to work. If that means getting off drugs, then tell him. If he's not willing to understand your needs, he's not worth your time.
Respect yourself or no one will respect you!
2006-09-05 13:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by pinto6810 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE did you a favor by kicking you out the house and now the next step is to run far away from him.
Do not go back to him. file for divorce and get yyour house back and kick him out.
2006-09-05 10:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use your own good judgment. You know intellectually what you should do so just move forward. You should not consider reuniting with him until he successfully seeks help for his addictions, (in patient program). Until then you will not be able to trust him to be responsible or dependable.
2006-09-05 10:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you what you wanna do. If you decide to go back make sure he agrees to get help. However if it were me I'd be talkining to a divorce attorney.
2006-09-05 10:47:42 · answer #11 · answered by ducksixty8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋