OK my husband has a brother and back in november my husband let his brother borrow $7000 so he could pay for final cost of his house that him and his fiance bought. So then my husbands brother ended up getting married, going to mexico, going to Las vegas, bought season tickets to some football games, and then goes out and buys a new car and THEN BRINGS IT OVER TO RUB IT IN!!!..OH another thing my brother in law and his new wife are trying to have a baby together and they just got married 3 months ago.. But what am i supposed to do b.c i feel that his brother is just taking advantage of him. Someone help me should i say something to his brother or what?
2006-09-05 03:24:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Another thing when i kinda said something to my husband he was like its not affecting you .. cuz we can pay our bills and still have the money so we arent living pay check to pay check. But i think something needs to be said to his brother
2006-09-05 03:38:06 · update #1
Wow, been there! I would never loan money again, I have learned the hardway and totally empathize most people after they get it figure if you've got it to loan then you probably don't need it. There is no quicker way to cause problems with family or friends than bring money into it. I would at this point tell your husband that you want to both make a pact not to loan money again to anyone, that way you don't have problems like the current one. I would then tell your husband he should handle it! You would feel better if he could atleast get a date when the loan will be repaid. Expect this date will pass, what your going to show your husband though is that it is better not to do this again! I hope for your sake you get things resolved. Try and be on your husband side as he may blame you rather than show his anger at his brother. I would let him know though that if the brother comes around without giving the money back there will the chance that you will say something! Let your husband know that you are eachothers first obligation and you are having a hard time seeing him get the lack of respect and appreciate he should be getting. Good luck I really hope you get the money back!
2006-09-05 03:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would, That is a hunk of cash and if your bro in law has the extra money to buy a car, season tickets, going to mexico, las vegas, and trying to have a baby then I think he has the money to pay you back. I would bring up some suggestions to your hubby and tell him the if he don't say something to his brother than his brother will try and take advantage of you guys forever. Good Luck!
2006-09-05 10:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kasie Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has to ask for the money back. Give your hubby some ideas of a time table to help with the repayment. Was the money just his? or from a joint account? Next time your bro in law stops by say " great I see you are on your feet, when can we expect some repayment of the money we LOANED you"...sometimes shame is the only choice you have.
2006-09-05 10:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband was an idiot to not get something drawn up in writing before lending him the money 7000.00 is alot of money to depend on repayment of with out it in writing, they should of came to a formal agreement of paying it back monthly .. but its his brother and only he can decide how to handle this problem.. and although its irritating to know that his brother is to immature to pay it back.. and dont ever lend him money again..
2006-09-05 10:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say something to him. No need to go through your husband. Say you need the loan repaid.
2006-09-05 12:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he does this affects you to..you need to have a serious discussion with your husband.
2006-09-05 10:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by malanina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋