Okay, Me and boyfriend have known each other for 8 years.. At first he was in love with me and i didnt want nothing to so with him I never knew if he was serious or not... It took me years to figure out that he really did love me and its been like a year we have been togther.just last month everything is goign down hill (very slowly)..It seems that when i didnt care for him at all he was always there for me , Call me for everything ..and know that im his girl Its like theres barly time for me..He could go days with out calling me if i dont call him i have to ask him wheres hes at.. I leave him messages and nothign .. He wanted a kid BADLY so we decided to try to have one .. I still dont know yet if i am or not .. We have talked SO MANY TIMES about the same subject he SWARES on everyhting that he didnt change, says he still loves me .. but i know there is something wrong and im tired of goign to sleep asking my self is it me ? or if i have made a mistake?
2006-09-05 03:00:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you actually made a mistake.so,don't make another mistake to make the first one right.he just wants to have sex with you,now he's done with you that's why he's ignoring you..ignore him too,try not to be around,he'll probably look for you,he'll be puzzled in your silence.if you're really important to him after what happened,he'll still be there for you.
2006-09-05 03:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Luisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have said you have known each other for 8 years, your question put forth makes one believe you still dont know him because you are still struggling and having issues of trusting. it also makes me wonder what you understand by love? Do you want him to around you 24/7? that can be boring. whats wrong in giving some space in relationship? he is an individual and has a life,
The next thing that comes in my mind is if you feel left out for any reason it is important that it is addressed. Improving communication can be one of the goals in improving relationship. It is normal what you have expressed, you start doubting the love you depend on when there is no communication. Tell your boyfriend how you feel when he does not call, men in particular do not work on relationships its the women job, men know to work on jobs, because of their basic hunter instincts! Only a women teaches a man love and care. Ask your self what he should do to make you feel loved and then let him know about this, If there is love, care and honesty coupled with communication then everything can change. Try working on this formula!
2006-09-05 10:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying Good-by is terribly hard. It is hard sometimes even after a relationship ends. This reminds me of Patty Griffin's great song:
Goodbye
(patty griffin)
Occurred to me the other day
You been gone now a couple years
Well I guess it takes a while
For someone to really disappear
And I remember where I was
When the word came about you
It was a day much like today
The sky was bright and wide and blue
And I wonder where you are
And if the pains ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say good-bye
Today my heart is big and sore
It’s trying to put right through my skin
Won’t see you anymore
I guess that’s finally sinking in
Cause you can’t make somebody see
With the simple words you say
All their beauty from within
Sometimes they just look away
And I wonder where you are
And if the pains ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say good-bye
2006-09-05 10:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be confuzed if you love him or not. since you didnt care for him when he was there for you.. You should first see if your pregnant.. and rekindle your guys hopes and dreams about one another.. and make sure the choice you to made was out of love and nothing else. because you two wanted a child together and that so beautiful but Show more appreciation torwards him and let him know that you love him. you didnt make a mistake your confuzed and you dont want to have any regrets holding onto you. if he cant see that he changed then you need to talk to him about how he changed and point it out to him. and tell him your likes and dislikes.., and be sweet to one another.. and show your love. dont let the fire arise and then just like that die down..to complete ashes.
2006-09-05 10:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_poetic_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are not ready to have a baby....don't just do it to make him happy....because men can feed you the world and tell you they will change and if you have a kid that they swear they will change mama that is bullshit aight....the way they are that's the way they will stay and just because you have a kid by them doesn't mean anything okay....they will be the same....no kid will make a difference....if anything they try to take advantage of you more because they figure they got you already and you won't go anywhere because you have a kid by them....just think about it and if it is worth worrying over and stressing yourself over it....good luck
2006-09-05 10:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... Dont have a kid till you are married. There are too many unwed mothers out there... Secondly... All men do this. ONCE they have you, they start to (not mistreat you) but treat you differently. There no longer is a chase... There is no reason to pursue as he did before. He already has you... So why go the extra mile... Unfortuneatly... all men do this. (except for on tv) But yea... even my husband doesnt do all the same little sweet things he did to make me fall for him... But its normal for those things to fade away. Hope this helps.
2006-09-05 10:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds a lot like my situation. I fell in love with this guy and he said he was in love with me too. We seemed very compatible. However, his work takes him out of town and he can't even find time to call me but once a week or so. He was gone for 16 days and called once. I think some guys think that once they "have" you, you should accept anything.
2006-09-05 10:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much drama -- not worth the effort for you!
give yourself a break and just keep away from him for a few weeks. Don't take his calls, don't be around. STOP TRYING TO GET PREGNANT.
Go do your own thing. See how you feel in a few weeks without the hassle of him dragging you down.
Relationships shouldn't be this hard! If they are, move on to a healthier, happier one!
2006-09-05 10:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some basic truths.
If you are not sure about a baby - don't not fair to you to the child.
JUST SAY NOT NOT NOW
What is important to us we find time for in most situations.
COMMUNICATE YOU NEED MORE OF HIS TIME AND MAKE APPOINMENTS IF YOU CAN
There are exceptions but it is a good bet you should modify this relationship if you can.
Best Wishes
2006-09-05 10:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by dayakaur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to sit down and have a serious conversation about your relationship and your future together and you need to do it soon. Getting pregnant is not the answer it will only complicate things and will be extremely unfair to the baby.
2006-09-05 10:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Admiral 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dammm girl u r hot and this dud does not call u. if i was going out with u i would be calling u evrey day. I say try to work things out with him if things dont work out between u 2 then brake up with him. how old r u? dont have kids at a yong age it will miss up your life what untell you finshed with school and colleg.
2006-09-05 10:14:52 · answer #11 · answered by JZ103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋