me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and a half and we have tried alot of things to keep the sex life sizzling.but now i have a feeling he is getting bored.i dont want to end up finding out he is cheating on me cause he is bored.do guys always cheat when they are bored with their partners?i hope not.but any ideas on how to spice it up?details would be nice.
2006-09-05 02:56:42 · 11 answers · asked by jenny p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
try talking to him, stop second guessing yourself and ask him directly. Communication is much better for your love life than a different position or a new set of batteries.
2006-09-05 03:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by robin_baker_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Ask him what he likes. You can't have a real relationship without communication, and if y'all aren't talking then it will fall apart. My husband loves it when I get aggressive. That is a huge turn-on for him. He does not want to initiate sex EVERY TIME and likes when I tell him what I like. None of us can read minds, and I have learned that guys don't take hints well. Be blunt with them. If you don't spell it out for them they ignore it. It's the way they are.
Guys are visual, so some slinky little teddy in his favorite color should help or a maid or nurses costume. Play some fantasy games. Wake him up with some carefully placed kisses...
I don't think guys really grow up so play games. Go get some adult toys or videos. Talk about what you want to see and try out. Respect each others limits in experimenting, though. Neither of you should be forced into something you are not comfortable doing.
Perhaps licking something off your finger in a most exaggerated way will spike his interest, or licking something off of his finger? Bend over in front of him in a short skirt, or in nothing at all. Strech suggestively on the bed with your rear in the air while giving him The Look. Tease him. Rub his feet when he comes in from work. (wash them first if necessary)
Being tied up is fun. Tie him down and blindfold him and tease him until he can't stand it. Talk dirty to him. Rent/buy adult videos on things you are interested in trying, and remember, none of those films have a chance in hell of winning an Oscar.
But girl, both of you have got to be able to communicate. If the only thing you have in common is sex then you don't have much. You should be friends as well as lovers and y'all should be aware of each others needs and care enough to make sure those needs are being met. Go splurge on a nice motel room and lock the world out for a weekend, even if you have to save up for it. Do things together that you both enjoy to build your relationship. Walk in the park or go to movies or races or rent video games. Have a date night set up once a week for you two to pay attention to each other. Go camping or fishing or hiking or skiing. Bake brownies, share a book, watch a cool show on Discovery channel or whatever. Just be together. Love each other.
2006-09-05 03:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by raptorsmoonrising 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch out!! Is it your sex life or you that he is bored with??
Most guys do look out for a change even if they are in a good relationship but they always come back to their lady love. If you trust that he is not cheating on you then you do not worry. Suspicion is the worst thing in a relationship so stop suspecting him. Talk to him about your feelings and expect the unexpected.
2006-09-05 03:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by jk s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex seems to be the thing which attracted both of you and it seems to be the thing which keeps you together.
If you rely solely on sex to hold your man, it will not last! True love is the only glue strong enough to hold a couple together over the long term.
So develop your relationship into a loving relationship, where both love each other. When there is true love, sex will be beautiful between the lovers.
2006-09-05 03:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared he will cheat... has he given you any reason to think this??? I wouldnt even bother with a guy I thought would actually cheat on me if our sex life was laggin. But if you really want to know.... My husband and I do some kinky things... Such as cuffs, threesomes, porno, try having him hold you down so you cant move & then struggle... its all about the fighting... Its fun.
2006-09-05 02:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its only been a year and a half n he is getting bored then there r other issues.
but u can try adding adult toys, games, role playing, sexy clothing, doing it in places that u have not done it before.....reading sexy stories 2 each other, its only limited by ur imagination
u have the whole web at ur disposal do some research.
2006-09-05 03:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop worrying and go shopping, find some sexy undies,,,, something you feel comfy in and make sure you feel sexy cause that shines through. massage him from behind, use an oil scented to get you going remember you must enjoy this too.
is he even pleasing you? anyway when he turns over massage him from the front, tease your way to his nipples, stroke them for a bit, them go slowly down to his manhood, and slowly massage while using oil, while masturbating him. then sit on him and have lots of sex. make sure you are pleased OK.
2006-09-05 03:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by hunny jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a 3 some
2006-09-05 02:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your lover what his fantasies are. Tell him to be as truthful as possible. Then tell him your fantasies. If they're not too outrageous give them a try! What woman can compete with a fantasy girl?
2006-09-05 03:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T HOLD A RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER WITH SEX, AND IF YOU BELEIVE THAT, YOU HAVE SOME ISSUES.
2006-09-05 03:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋