OKAY....so the baby's concieved, are there any websites or books to read that help the man from going CRAZY!!!

Question

I mean I'm pulling my hair out all ready and she's only a 2 1/2 months. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MOODY, CRAZY, JEALOUS STRICKING, SNEAKY, UNSENSITIVE, PARANOID, and it's "All My Fault" WTF I thought this is what we wanted....

Answer 1

What to Expect When You are Expecting, and parenthood books by Penelope Leach. Congrats, Daddy. You think pregnancy is hard, wait until the baby is a teenager!

Answer 2

check out paternityangel.com. They have info geared toward men about pregnancy. You may find help there and answers to you questions. She is probably going to have a lot of mood swings. Right now she's probably realizing that being pg means everything changes. You have to really take care of yourself. She may also be having doubts about her ability to be a good mother. Reassure her from time to time. Help her out around the house, offer to cook meals for her, ask her if she would like a massage or some other relaxing treat. I know in the beginning of my pregnancy I was exhausted and sore all the time. I was constantly nauseated and I had several food aversions. One day I couldn't eat meat, the next day it was bread and milk and all I could eat was meat. So before you prepare a meal ask her what she would rather not eat. My man did and it helped me feel better knowing that he was there and would compromise to make me more comfortable. In the second trimester she will feel a lot better physically and mentally. Hang in there, she doesn't always mean what she says.

Answer 3

Some hospitals offer parenting classes for dads specifically to help them deal with the unexpecteds of pregnancy and to help get you prepared for life with baby.

The Dad's Guide to Pregnancy by J. Bird

and


"Due Dads: The Man's Survival Guide to Pregnancy"
by Troy Lanier, Brad Powell (III), and Clay Nichols
is on DVD and both are available at Amazon.com. Good Luck!

Try a little compassion and understanding if this is your first. She is going through about 100 emotions all at the same time and one of the most prevalent will probably be fear, anxiety, and worry. Plus her body is changing and she doesn't know what to expect. Don't be surprised if she starts crying for no reason... just give her a shoulder to cry on and remember that she is linked to the baby and she feels things that you won't.

Answer 4

I'd like to know what the issues are as well. And there are tons of reading material. Almost all the books have sections for the fathers to be. And there is the "What to expect when she's expecting" The what to expect take for the guys. No matter how crazy its making you, think of how she's feeling. Especially if this is her first...Her mind, body and soul are going through so many changes. No matter how crazy you feel its nothing compared to the craziness going on inside her. Possibly, mood swings, fears, joys, excitement, sore breasts, mood swings, swelling abdomen, twinges of pain from the expansion, mood swings, nausea, sore muscles, the peeing, the hunger, the sadness, mood swings. You are here to comfort her. Though none of this will matter in the long run. It will be a funny memory.
My father to be loves to comfort me when I'm crying...he's says its the sweetest thing because he knows I'm not like that normally, and hate to cry. So it gives him a chance to comfort me and hold me and be a part of the pregnancy.

And trust me, she really can't help it. I'm usually compared to one of the guys. But I'm like a huge cry baby now. Or worse when I snap someones head off then tearfully apologize. And snapping isn't one of my normal characteristics.

Answer 5

Your Pregnancy Week-By-Week for the Father-To-Be is a GREAT resource. I got it for my husband and he follows along with the weeks and can see what I'm going through. There are also a lot of tips for Dads in there. Your partner would probably benefit from Your Pregnanct Week-By-Week. It shows the stage that she and the baby are at each week, as well as common concerns and questions along the way. I have found it very helpful. I am not a huge fan of "What to Expect...." - its information overload and gives a lot of "worst case scenarios" - I am glad I have it on hand but don't read it weekly or monthly and use it as more of a reference so as not to scare myself. Good luck!

Answer 6

you have to be patient (more) and try to understand her (altough i dont think that is going to happen) She's like that because of the hormonal change going on in her body, you can really blame her, and the first trimester is the worst, so hopefully this will pass soon. I'm on my 2nd tri (5 months pg) and I was like that on my 1st tri, my husband was going nuts, but now we're back to normal, so just try to read some books that have suggested you and that way you will get involved (or understand) a bit more.
Good luck

Answer 7

Its the hormones luv, dont blame her she cant help it seriously, but it will pass after a few months, (if your lucky lol)
Bit like PMT times a hundred
LOts of good books if you go browsing ur local book store, maybe if she sees u reading some it might sooth her
Also a great book is babywatching by Desmond Morris, one of the great anthropologists of our time, its great fun reading and gives u an insight into what ur child is processing mentally when he/she finally arrives but is too young to talk.

Answer 8

theres a wonderful website that i looked into just yesterday. it has everything that there is to expect when expecting and how-to's, doctor's notes, personal stories, and an AWESOME week-by-week guide to pregnancy. it's a more expanded pregnancy-what-for unlike the usual explanation which is usually only cut down into trimesters. it has a family planning section, it gives articles on breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding, sex during pregnancy, the dos and don'ts during pregnancy, symptoms, and even links to babynames and cool online shops for maternity clothes and baby gear. I RECOMMEND at least checking out the weekly guide to pregnancy on the site because it goes by week and tells you what to expect in symptoms and in wieght, size, and what you may feel like or even feel, and even for those have multiples! :) it also rocks because for daddy's they have "ideas for dad" and it gets in the shoes of fathers and gives you ways to deal with your nervousness or your spouse's crazy pregnancy hormones that are making her not herself. it also throws you hints of what you may want to do just to be a good guy or because they are really warning you that you may not be able to sleep next week...SO TAKE ADVANTAGE. i loved it and it made me want to be a mom more and more! congradulations!

Answer 9

reading any sites on the internet under pregnancy will help you understand exactly what it is like to be pregant and what goes on in there, best thing you can do is talk to each other she can explain whats going on in her head and you can talk through your concerns, besides everything you and her does now effects all of you as your about to become a family and a best family is a family that is solid and happy. goodluck and its not always as bad as you think there will be many happy times to look forward too.

Answer 10

Get the book - "What to Expect When You Are Expecting". It was like my husband's bible when I was pregnant. It give you an idea what symptoms she's having or will go through. It's a good book!