She has not left some of her guys whom she met while in Bar. she still meet them, when I came to know about her past I was shocked and hurt but she promised to leave all. As I love her, I am unable to leave her even she continued meeting some of her other friends from past. and always express her love to me.
I get hurt ...! what to do?
2006-09-05 02:31:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dump her she is using you as her back up plan... she knows you love her and she is secure that you will be there for her... so she can party and screw anyone she wants to and when they have used her all up she will have you to take care of her... NO WAY!
YOU deserve better that her...
2006-09-05 02:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have all made mistakes in the past and isn't love all about loving somebody inspite of mistakes? Well if she truly loves you and you love her, then you have answered your own question. Would you be able to love a girl who was not a bar dancer but she's doens't love you like your current girlfriend? Probably not. All that matters is that you love each other. As for her other friends, you can't expect her to ditch them and why do you "get hurt"? just because she's friends with them? or because the time she spends with them takes away from you and you miss her? well either way tell her. If you think she is going to fall back into that then again express your concerns to her and DO NOT BE JUDGEMENTAL do it with love, talk to her gently. I am sure you guys can work it out. If not then time to move on.
2006-09-05 11:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Missy chandrasekar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me start by saying their is nothing wrong with being a bar dancer, if you men didn't desire it so much there wouldn't be a need for them and it pays the bills. Secondly when you say she still meets up with friends from her past, so what. Unless your implying she was a hooker and a dancer. If they are just friends get over it, she says she loves you, and everyone has a past good or bad deal with it. If you love her like you say you do, then none of her past should bother you nor should her meeting with friends. If it does then you need to figure out the meaning of the word love, cause you haven't found it yet.
2006-09-05 09:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with this girl in spite of the fact that she worked as a bar dancer in the past. So what prevents you from accepting her friends from those days as your friends, unless they happen to be unsavoury characters?
It is very difficult to forget friends and companions from ones earlier life or job (even a so called inferior one). Specially if they have been real good ones. It isn't surprising that your fiance meets some of them occasionally. Try to find out why she meets them.
Both of you profess love for each other. And she has also promised to part with her old companions. So wait before jumping to conclusions. If she fails to live upto her promise, you may talk with her, try to convince her and then decide. But always try to remember that you love a woman who hails from a very different social and professional background. She may take time to adjust to what you perceive as normal ways. Hold on till then. And congrats anyway for having taken a bold decision. Just have the courage to stick to it.
2006-09-05 13:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you cannot tell someone else who they can & cannot hang around with. Her past is her past, lot's of people have a past, sometimes the ones you love don't know about your past. unless you are sure that she is meeting other men and cheating on you? It's hard but you just have to take her as a "package deal" try to learn to trust her. The worst thing you can do is tell her to give it all up for you. If she is not introducing you to her old friends I'd be a bit concerned, if she has nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about.
2006-09-05 09:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really a tough question ...on one site is your love n other side it's tht she was a bar dancer if you r willing to stay with her forever then better think abt ur reputation n respect..whether ppl will b able to understand ur guys feelings or not .....but if u reli luve her then go ahead but i'm sure u will face difficulties with her in life but if ure willing not to b weak then dear guy u r sweet to save someone from dancin in the bar as many gurls dun want to dance as well but they r forced due to financial problems ..if you r strong enough to support her then may God bless u ... and do try to ask why she decided to b a bar dancer like wht made her n do try to ask if she's virgin or not i dunno for u but many guys mind if their lover isnt virgin ..n do try to ask if she had any other bf in the past n make sure she tells the truth..n do try to know her backgroud..... n finally im sorry if i hav said anything wrongly .....hope u didnt mind for wht i suggested...Take Care
2006-09-05 09:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by gurl_typical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust her and you are sure she will leave her ex-friends and would not betray you there's no point thinking about the past. Everyone should have a chance to change and maybe that's her chance. You should understand that starting new life is not easy and help her with it (i mean show her that you are trying to understand), but you ought to insist that she do it immediately.
2006-09-05 09:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by konrad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about your concerns . Ask her what she wants you or them . My daughter danced ,until she met someone she fell in love with . She got away from that kind of life { thank GOD } married him , has 2 great kids , is well rounded and productive ,and their life is good and " normal " . There is always hope ! If you both feel the same way .
2006-09-05 10:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
entertaining men in the bar is part of her job and you must understand that. be mature enought,if you dont like that kind of job for her why dont you stop her to work at the bar and support her or going back to school or another might she want if you can afford and if she's willing to stop working at the bar,its just depends the two of you,tell your feelings about her job for you that you are not comfortable about it. or just find someone else that not working at the bar....is she your girlfriend? or just a friend ?
2006-09-05 09:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by confusegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be getting champion lap dances at home!! Why are you upset if she hasnt done anything wrong? Go home, get a private show, and have some freaky sex! Just enjoy it for what it is and stop creating something to worry about.
2006-09-05 09:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arre Maamu...if u love her u wil accept her...watever she mit be....n the biggest problem in ur relationship is the lack of proper communication.....if u hav a problem wit smthing or if smthing hurts u then u gotta tel her "honey that hurts me"...if she loves u she wil change herself for u....
2006-09-06 05:28:25 · answer #11 · answered by prince 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋