We got in a hue fight yesterday at his friends house and i had a friend come pick me up, he stayed and went riding on his friends boat on the beach and he filled up their tank for them. 75.00. knowing we are on a budget. how should i handle this without having another fight?
2006-09-05 02:19:44 · 19 answers · asked by becky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You get to spend $75.00 on yourself and he get the free pass?
2006-09-05 02:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by ??Dani??? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I admit,I also would be angry with my husband if he spent that much on someone else,especially just for a joyride on someone else's boat.But on the other hand,you have to try and see his side.You two had a fight,and you left with a friend without first resolving the fight. You both needed time away from each other to get over your anger. You decided to leave,and he decided to take a ride on a boat.What happened happened and it can't be changed now.If you were to reprimand him now for the money,it would just open a whole new can of worms,and you don't really want that now,do you?And taking $75 and spending it on something frivolous just to get back at him would just add fuel to the fire.Two wrongs don't make a right.The best thing to do is to let it go,but talk to him about whatever started the fight in the first place.That's the real issue,and it has to be addressed in order to get over any hostilities between the two of you.
2006-09-05 02:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being selfish and foolish. Do you know how much it costs to own and operate a boat? There is more than just the gas involved. There is maintenance, storage, wear, and tear on the boat. The truth is, you are probably more worried about not getting that mink stole you always wanted than you are about your husband helping with his part of the boat trip. You should be thankful that you have a husband who is thoughtful enough to contribute to his friends. It shows that he is generous. You are more likely to receive gifts from a generous man than you would be with some tightwad who won't pull his weight. Please grow up or you are going to end up either running your husband off, or ruining his life completely.
Love, Hope, Peace, and Christ be with you,
Cal-el & Swissy
2006-09-05 02:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Prodigal Son 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no one can tell you if you "should" be angry or not. The point is, you are - now what to do about it...
You two are clearly not on the same wave-length. He did something that made you angry. You got in a huff and left. He got in a huff and overspent. You're in a huff and writing to us, etc, blah blah blah.
What you really need to do is sit down with him and quietly, and in orderly fashion, discuss how it happened, what it meant, how likely is it to repeat, what your expectations of each other is, etc.
In other words, try to remove as much of this unnecessary "drama" from your relationship. If you cant, you're doomed to repeat it in another form.
2006-09-05 02:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He made a nice gesture for a friend, who took him out on his boat. You are on a budget, yes, but at least he wasn't loaning it to his buddy who needed singles for a night at the strip club. Just ask him to cut back on the spending money for the next couple weeks.
2006-09-05 02:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Karen? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His behaviour was unreasonable and you are right to be mad at him. Just take another 75 bucks from his wallet and spend it on something nice for yourself. Then tell him you deserve it!
If he picks a fight, dump him and take your share from everything.
2006-09-05 02:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would be angry, too if my boyfriend wasted that kind of money when we were on a budget. I think you have a right to be angry about this but be careful about your approach. You can't come at him with a critical and accusatory attitude.
2006-09-05 02:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
When you are both calm, try having a rational conversation with him. Maybe he offered to pay for gas, not realizing it was going to be $75.
2006-09-05 02:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be mad, but is it really worth having another fight over?
2006-09-05 02:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry about money. It's not worth getting in an argument about.
2006-09-05 02:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by scott_faith 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋