I am 23 male and have been engaged six months, and when i visited my mother in law house, she was very nice, cooked for me, and said nicer things etc. And she was like my real mother, caring.
Now i have always heard that you should be most careful of the mother in law, and they are very conniving, manipulating evil woman, but she seemed nice, so is it a charade or i have struck gold?
2006-09-05 01:48:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lots of females saying they got good mother in law and thank you for that, But any males agree?
2006-09-05 01:58:40 · update #1
My mother-in-law is in Poland. I never see her. I only get to talk to her once in a blue moon on the phone. PERFECT!!!!!
2006-09-05 01:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by gazzajjoo2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever told you this is nuts. My mother-in-law was just as crazy as my husband and I. She stood besides us when we were going through some tough times shortly after we got married, this was preventive cancer surgery on my husband, she let us live with her for two years after we were married, she was there for all three of her boys.
To this day I wish she was still alive but she past away in 1988 cause she could help me right now. I lost my husband to cancer in November of last year she like my mom were/are strong and I knew I could count on her or my mom.
My husband adored my mom cause she treated him just like one of her sons and my mom has 5 sons and 4 daughters.
The one memory I will cherish with my mother-in-law is when we went to Florida in 1987 and I was pushing her in the wheelchair this was her first trip outside the state we live in we were at Sea World and we were going down a little hill and I hopped onto the back of the chair and rode the hill with her sorry to say the only casuality was a trash can it jumped in our way but we laughed and laughed cause we were having a very good time and this was 1 year before she died of cancer and the other first for her that time was flying on a plane for the first time.
There are a lot of other memories that I have of her and they are all good memories nothing bad.
So you struck gold with this future mother-in-law.
Happy Memories and Congratulations on the upcoming nuptials.
2006-09-05 02:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by stubbornmom2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just a stereotype.There are good maother in laws around.I have a good mother in law she is a very sweet person that would do anything to help you if she could.Now she can be a little nosy but thats ok thats the way moms are sometimes.
2006-09-05 01:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes....my M-I-L is terrifice...even more genuine than my own mother...it just depends on your chemistry with her. Don't share things with her you don't want your wife to know, unless it's for a gift or surprise. Always be respectful and courteous, but stand your ground on your opinions. Remain neutral yet supportive when your wife complains or needs to vent about her. Remember that she is your wife's mother and that they will most likely always make up, and what you may say before might come back to bite you later.
2006-09-05 02:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there always nicer to the guy i have a pretty good mother in law you have to make a good relationship or else it will be bad shes good but when she doesnt like something the rude remarks come and you cant say nothing which i hate but there not all good
2006-09-05 02:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by terri l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I believe let their are some very loving, caring understanding mother-in-laws out there. I have a very great mother-in-law
2006-09-05 02:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by raven s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really ur lucky (Touchwood) u have struck gold to find such a lovely mother-in-law. I am sad about it, that I lost my mother-in-law even before getting married. I miss her.
2006-09-05 02:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy, my mother-in-law loves me to death. She knew I'd take care of her daughter (now ex) and that she didn't know how good she had it. I don't know if I could say the same thing about her though. Good luck!
2006-09-05 01:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers in law can be either way. Alot of it depends on their relationship with their daughter and their own self esteem. Women who do not live vicariously their their daughters tend to be more accepting of sons in law.
My own mother in law, who died way too early in life, was a gem. She supported us when we needed it, early in our marriage and when we had our twins. She squirreled away money for us and bought us things we could have never afforded, a tv, a microwave and diaper service. When she died, my father in law (a black hearted mean greedy old man) was furious because when he did the check book for the first time, he found out that she had been helping us. She loved our daughters and when one of my daughters got married this summer, it was her picture set at a table of honor, my father in law didn't bother to come.
I try to be a good mother in law, I love my son in law and I am very very glad my daughter choose him. I stay out of their business and try to encourage my daughter to understand what being a wife means. While her marriage won't be like mine, (that's ok, it shouldn't be), all I really want is for them to be happy.
So treat your new mother in law to be like a queen, like you do your own mother and count your blessings.
2006-09-05 01:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont believe all the stereo-types. I have had two wonderful mothers-in-law, if only their kids were so wonderful. But if you ever hurt my baby girl, watch out !!!
2006-09-05 01:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Ms understood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋