How do I clear my mind?

Question

My childhood was pretty bad. My parents married young and had children. Problem was they only did it because thats 'what ppl did'. They have never known how to bring us up and attention was a thing I had to scream for. Violence was there, but not all that offen. Mostly just shouting. I think until now i have just kept everything inside and never really spoke about it, not intentionally. i'm 21 now and recentley have been thinking alot about when i was young. I feel so angry towards them and it's really bringing me down. I haven't spoken to them because it would probably cause an argument. I have lost my boyfriend because of my mood swings, which i feel really bad about. I knew i was breaking us apart but couldnt help it. I feel like i have to release all the anger inside me. I going out of my mind and didn't know what to do???

Answer 1

The first thing you need to do is to get a professional therapist. If your anger and resentment are affecting your life that much, you need to take charge as soon as possible.

In addition, you need a positive outlet for your anger. Try taking self-defense classes in Tai Kwon Do, or some other violent martial art. The use of physical force will help channel your anger out of yourself.

Just remember, we always end up in life EXACTLY WHERE OUR CHOICES LEAD US. It doesn't matter who we want to blame for ruining our lives, ultimately every decision is our own. If you don't want to turn your life down a certain path, then don't. It doesn't matter what other people may want for us, or push us towards...we always decide to either "give in" or not, so that decision has to be owned up to and the consequences handled.

Instead of agonizing about past bad decisions, why don't you decide to look forward to your future good decisions? All experiences, whether good or bad, can be used for learning life's lessons. It is up to US to use those lessons without letting them embitter us.

Answer 2

Be mad.

Cause arguments and chaos.

Rant. Rave. Scream. Holler. Confess. Realize that you were mistreated and fuss. Howl. Complain. Forgive.

You will suffer with this problem forever and every relationship you have will be colored by this ugliness.

You are a young woman who knows where you have been and where you want to go.

If you cannot find a way to forgive them and realize that they did the best they could then you will suffer for the rest of your life. And that suffering won't be 'their' fault; it will be yours.

You had no choice in how you were raised. You do have a choice in how you will live.

It is essential to your mental health and spiritual well being to forgive. Forgiveness is not about the one who did you wrong; forgiveness is about freeing yourself from elements over which you had no control. Forgiveness is about freedom.

Bless you, little sister.

Go and get your life.

Answer 3

I have cousins that have gone through similar things and they are grown but still have the pain from their childhood. You were made to have a sound mind and to be stable. Talk about it and get it out. There is a peace waiting for you. Deliverance is available, you will be able to help someone else b/c of what you have gone through. Don't stay in the past and stop reminding yourself of it.........you will continue to feel bad if you don't. I am not sure how you feel about God, but He can help you and He want to help you. Just pray about it, get a relationship with God and He will ease the pain. I suggest also finding someone to confide in that can help you and pray with you.

Answer 4

you really need to talk to someone.i think maybe you should talk to a friend or join some kind of program for people who have had similar difficulties in life. then when most of your anger is released you should try talking to your parents and working things out. i hope this helps. good luck.