Do u think my partner should join the army?

Question

My partner is considering joining the army, im fine about it as we have discussed all issues. He was going to join a while back but then i fell pregnant so he didnt, but now the baby is a bit older he wants to join again. I think its a good idea as it is a good life when your in the army, as my sisiter's partner also is in the army. Also im a qualified nursery nurse so it will be easy to find jobs in the english army schools wherever we get posted. Me and my partner really feel its good career prospects. We have 2 children, 2 girls, aged 2 years and 6 months. Some people disagree with us, especially my partners mum, as she keeps saying what if you die or get posted to iraq, i feel she is trying to put him off and is being selfish, although i do understand she is his mum & is right to worry. But she should also be happy and proud of him shouldnt she? My partner has gone to see about it today and signup for his training. Do you think we are right to join? Please help.

Answer 1

join the coastguard. it's still serving your country. my g/f is british and her son joined up, he was told you'll get qualifications learn how to drive 40 foot lorries see the world learn languages meet intresting and friendly people. no sooner was he nearing the end of basic training the orders came through his regiment or whatever was on the next plane to iraq. he was able to sign himself out. i'm happy knowing my g/f son is alive and well and so is she. "what if" can never be discounted.

Answer 2

I think it depends on if he has a college degree or not. It sounds like you are expecting an instant oversea post where there is a school for you to teach. You should check that out carefully. Ask questions. I believe if he doesn't have college degree, he has to start out as being the lowest level and I don't believe he has much choice of where he will be. He could be stationed where you can't follow in the current situation. Are you going to be okay with that? In a long run, it will be a good career, but, consider all the possibilities.

Answer 3

I agree with your partners mum-joining the army is a mugs game-all you are is cannon fodder to the government. Just remember when you do a certain trade in the army-you are primerially a soldier and will be sent off to blow someones head off or worse still get your own blown off. At the end of the day it is your choice nobody on here can make your mind up for you-you have to live with the consequences.

Answer 4

Yes.. for all of those who disagree they should be ashmed! I hate people who fail to realize without soldiers they wouldn't have this free country they live in today!!! War doesn't always end in death although a lot do die... that is why it is called a sacrifice. My husband and I both were in the army and both went to Iraq. I was there for 15 straight months living in a tent with no ac/heater ... we lost one soldier and it was tough.. he was a very good friend of mine and was in my platoon. It was a tragedy....but this doesn;t make me hate the army.. it makes me hate the enemy!

As far as joining.. you got the right idea... you can get a job everywehre he goes.. not just the schools but you could also work in the TMC (Troop medical Clinic) or hospitals as well. They give you money for your house and food.... that is definetely a plus! Its job security as well.... and with the way our economy is today... bigger plus!!!

you can get child care from on post which charges by family income or go through a family child care provider also available on post if more convienent.

I just got out of the army to raise our first child while my husband still serves... my daughter is getting bigger now and i want to go back in, but i have yet to make the final decision.... it is harder for me as we are overseas in germany, but it is a great way to see many new things.. and yes there are deployments but it depends what his job is... some people dont ever deploy! some people deploy and never leave the home base....

And as for the people who disagree with you SHAME ON THEM!!! SHAME ON YOU AMERICA!!!

Answer 5

Noooooo!!!! Unfortunately, the wars these days are pointless and our great country bullying others. That's not what the army really should be getting in volved with. My brother was in the army posted to Iraq - did not end up going - was involved in an accident during training - almost fatal. I'm pround of him but it almost seems pointless him having to deal with the after effects including emotional trauma for a war as pointless as the Iraq war.

Answer 6

It is your choice at the end of the day, but the army lifestyle for children isn't very good - people are always going on about it (as far as I have heard). On the other hand, you also need to think about what you want in your life - sorry to say this, but you have to make your own decision. Make up a table of advantages and disadvantages, and whichever one outweighs the other, that would be the rational way to go. Best of luck.

Answer 7

Dont let him do it , WAKE UP before it is too late,his mum is being intelligent not selfish.
British army were involved when the Serbs were attempting to ethnic cleanse Albanians that was a good cause,world war 2 good cause.
Fighting and dying in Iraq for oil not a good cause,
purchase some copies of private Eye read facts about what we the western countries are really up to,eg selling weapons to dictaters etc sending our troops to die from weapons of our making.
Why not train to be a plumber/driving instructer or something ,make excellant money ,then again if your thinking of it maybe your to daft too help

Answer 8

My son is a Captain in the USAF.
He has been to Iraq, Qatar, and all those others hot spots.....he is now in Korea.
He has a wonderful life. Good pay. Great benefits. I hope you and your partner are married BEFORE he joins. You want to be able to get all of the benefits too. Do that before he signs up.
It is a wonderful career move. Exciting, fun and lots of adventure.
Your children will love it too. I was a military 'brat'. My dad took us everywhere. I had a grand time growing up in different places. Learning different cultures. Go for it.

Answer 9

What is your / your partner’s ultimate aim? in accepting a job? (Let it be any job)
If you are “born” one day you must die. This may happen- any time -any where. 'Job' has nothing to do with it.
A soldier is authorized ( by his government )to KILL ‘some one else’ or the so called ‘ENEMY’ (another human being –from another family –relationship and or emotions remains common) and you justify this sort of killing . Correct. ? Think again, you will get the correct answer.

Answer 10

This question is really of personal choice, I just got back after 2 tours and it's not pretty. But to serve your country is something to be proud of. What ever the 2 of u decide good luck and god bless.
Go USA