I'm 43, called attractive by most females, (not bragging, trying to be very honest) am very smart, have near to the most diverse knowledge base of anyone I've met, am extremely romantic, loving kind caring, have a very strong mind (have been through and am going through so many traumatic experiences, yet remain very positive about life and the beauty thereof and 99% of my days are fully enjoyed). I'm literally 99% independent, etc, etc.
Yet when I'm in a social setting, I don't catch woman looking at me, showing signs of desire to meet me etc.
So really; think as introspectively as you're able and try your best to tell me what zeros you in on a man upon first entering a social setting; not having met him yet...I don't believe it is ALL about appearance, or is it?
2006-09-05 01:12:53 · 9 answers · asked by Glenn 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Thank all of you! You are all being very kind and honest (I believe). So far, only a few minutes after posting the question; there are already a couple themes going on.
1.) Eyes
2.) Don't show desperation
3.) Be at ease, yourself, laugh when something is funny, etc. This issue is probably the one that I'm messing up the most on.
Utilizing my introspection-retrospection, I recall being self-conscious to the point whereby I pre-occupied, trying to say the "right" things; act the right way instead of - Being Myself.
This was written after 8 answers were given.
2006-09-05 01:56:47 · update #1
easy going charisma
approach them, be open, honest, but never pushy or sleazy or too smooth. Just be at ease, smile, laugh, talk about her about you, don't try it on too quick and read her signals, look into her eyes for a few seconds...what do you see?
2006-09-05 01:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First impressions are crucial. If you enter a social setting with the attitude about yourself that you have displayed here, it's no wonder no one looks twice. Show confidence, not arrogance. A woman's radar is set to pick up on genuine, not genius.
2006-09-05 01:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Shody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sense of humor is most important. When people see that you can easily laugh whether at jokes or even yourself, they will be more comfortable striking up a conversation and possibly more.
2006-09-05 01:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ms understood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his expressive eyes and hygienic. My suggestion - don't give women a sign that you are hitting on them or want to meet them because you might seem desperate. Secondly, if you wanna attract girls at the bar you should bring a girl with you! get it?
2006-09-05 01:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who primarily shows utter disinterest, verging on contempt, at my very existence. If he thinks he is so smart and superior, then let him try to fool me...it's reverse psychology at it's most extreme and I LOVE it...(but he has to, eventually, back it up with so much more...)
2006-09-05 01:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by CC...x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Body language and ease of being with others
2006-09-05 09:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by teamkimme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am attracted to a mans eyes and his smile, it is possible that women are looking at you they're just very sneaky about it and you don't catch them. :)
2006-09-05 01:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Cait 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good sense of humor....
2006-09-05 01:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by getrd2go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eyes never get old.
2006-09-05 01:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by asli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋