How do i get unstuck?

Question

When I was younger I used to know exactly what i wanted. at least i thought i did.
now, i'm almost 30, and i don't know what i want for my life, all i know is that i'm very unsatisfied with how it is right now, and i don't see a new direction forming that looks inspiring. i look at my choices and don't see any good ones. i feel totally stuck. what can i do?

Answer 1

First of all, don't keep regretting your past choices, you made them, they seemed the best at the time being, so get over it and look at the choices you are going to make, instead.
Try to think of the things you are unsatisfied with. Why aren't you satisfied? What's wrong? Maybe it helps to gain a little distance from your life, for example by taking a holiday (go backpacking in India, or something like that). Is it your job that you don't like? Get a new one. Is it your girlfriend? Break up with her. Whatever it is, there is always a way of getting rid of it.
Don't feel obliged to make decisions that you will still agree with when you're 50. You don't have to, and you can't. Every decision, every choice depends on the circumstances, on the situation. Make choices that are right for you NOW. Your life is NOW, you gotta be happy NOW, do whatever makes you happy NOW.
Try to get an open mind. What do you like to do? What is it you don't like? Focus on the things you like. Don't be scared to change your life, you're not even 30, you're very young!

Answer 2

It's the early 30s syndrom. Don't panic! Many people are out there just like you. Just consider that you are still relatively young to do whatever you want. Re-examine your options and try to discover some points that you missed. Try using a mind-map to document all your thoughts, like a personal brainstorm (try using a mind-map software - check link above).

you can also change they way u feel about being "unsatisfied". List all the blessings you had so far, and make this list as big as u can, so u will see how happy you should be when you compare your situation with other's people. Don't get griddy, happyness comes from simple things.

Hope it helps!

Answer 3

If you keep doing what you're doing, you're going to keep getting what you are getting.
I think a lot of this advice is very good, make a list, vacation, think about your interests.
It is also true that you take your best friend and your worst enemy with you wherever you go. Make friends with yourself, don't beat yourself up for not having all the answers. People with all the answers are fanatics.
Relax and enjoy your life, little every day moments. Lots of your life-either as a famous pianist, an executive or a ditch-digger is made up of everyday moments. We all can ignore or enjoy flowers, sunsets, children laughing in a park, loved ones smiling, and good food. Don't let those precious seconds elude you. They are the stuff of life as much as what you want to be when you grow up, or death or getting a raise.
You may not see a direction forming--YOU may have to make one. Don't sit around waiting to be handed a life--go get what you think you want...along the way you will find your life.
Don't wait for your life to do you--do your life. Yes, it is scarey, yes, it requires taking responsibility for your choices, yes, you will screw up.
Welcome to adult life.
PS if this feeling lasts longer than a month-go see a doctor--you may be anemic or depressed, or not getting enough sleep--something a doctor can help you with.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Look inside.
We live in an age and society where wants are created for us. In more developed parts of the world people have not "needed" anything for nearly 100 years. In this setting your question is simply that of Alice in Wonderland -- "What to do? What to do?"

You have come to an interesting point in your life because external choices or goals seem to have vanished. What is missing? Direction? Do directions form of themselves? Are directions real? Are they yours? Where did they take you?
Everything you are considering is outside of yourself. Everything negative is inside!

Question for you now may be what is inside that you need to tap. You have five senses. Sight, hearing, taste, smell, touch. They put you in touch with the external world.

Let me suggest that you have a number of other senses that are not being used. One of those is the sense of adventure.

It is not so much that there is "nothing out there" but the things you have been doing have played out and your sense of adventure is idle. That is a big part of your stuck feeling.

Now none of us really know what we are doing. We think we do because it is playing on our sense of adventure

You also have the ability to communicate as you did by asking your question/ and I by answer. But! what is the sense. I think the best label is communion. So we have a sense of adventure, a sense of communion, a sense of what we should or should not be doing or a sense of true quality, and a sense that acquires our true target -- the ladies (and me too) call that intuition!

So look some of these things over in the days to come> Your sense of adventure, sense of true quality, sense of intuition, sense of communion.
Each one can be a life time of study and action.

Look at the sense of adventure. It runs the space program, it is the very thing that the Crocodile Man tapped in so many people, it drives science and lust and so many things.

In short you may find what you are looking for by turning to a little introspection of some of the positive things you have inside. The answers are always really there.

Oh, the companion to adventure is hope. That as the poet says - springs eternal in the human heart. Few, and I mean few, know; but hope is the very presence of God in all men. Hope is what God hides behind. Am I right or am I right? Hope this helps.

Answer 5

New directions don't always form on their own. When they don't, you need to create one. Take a short (or long) trip, start a new hobby, take a class, volunteer somewhere. Try different things until something moves you. Opportunities often come when you're not expecting them from PLACES you're not expecting. There's nothing wrong with being a little stuck. We all wind up there sometimes. Make life happen, dont' wait for it to happen to you.

Answer 6

i am over 30 years of age and had almost the same feeling as yours when near 30.

it is time you decide to prepare to set up a family and make some true friends who can give real and correct advices. of course nobody is perfect but if you ever came across true friends who are not just advisers but who really changed for the better, treasure them and give and take.

it is not too late at 30 to prepare to set up a family or at least at any age if you realised it is time to make a change to your life.

of course, there are still many things to learn in life besides preparing to set up a family.

for me, at 30 over nearing 40, and having no savings, i let things be as neutral as possible and if heaven really lets me to set up a family despite my schizophrenia and depression, i will accept it as it is. else, i just live day to day and try to help others through my life experiences and setbacks etc etc.

mercury of love

Answer 7

i think you should take time out like a mini break or a proper holiday and just sit back and really think about what you want sometimes you just need to be alone and ponder these things and your only 30 plenty of time good luck

Answer 8

Seems that u r a person never be satisfied with.
Be happy with what u get and what u are.
Wash off your confusions and Oscillations.

The road not taken may be the better one for you.
But it may be without Love and caressing.

Come out of your SHELL.
The world is for you.
It is full of Choices.
Jus pick one and be with it forever.

Answer 9

Get a paper and pen and list down your piorities in life. Set some goals and start achieving them. You can start with relationship goals or financial goals for a start.

Answer 10

Got ten years on you dude, and I still don't know what I want to do. Guess ya just gotta roll with it.

If you find an answer, let me know.