I am a 30 year old guy and am married for 3 years. My wife thinks that sex is dirty and therefore we have hardly had any sex in our married life. Recently a 39 year old divorcee lady moved into our neighbourhood. She has a son studying in XII std. in a boarding school. We both hit it off immediately and suddenly were longing for each other. While my wife was away for a month to her parents's place, I had wonderful sex nearly every night with this lady. Now I am in no position to forget her and same is the case with her. Even now after my wife has arrived, we both meet on some Saturday evenings in a hotel & have dinner & also sex. My wife has somehow come to know of our affair from other neighbours & has warned me not to meet this lady. What should I do? Should I follow my basic need of love & sex & marry this divorcee lady or should stay with my wife? Please advice.
2006-09-04 23:54:54 · 16 answers · asked by Mahesh K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe you should stay with your wife but that just me. the lady that is divorced is divorced for a reason.. sex is just a physical thing when you have a wife that loves you no matter what sex is just a small thiing.. but follow your heart and do what you feel is best good luck
2006-09-04 23:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~ Stormy Weather~*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only suggest you that not to marry another lady. She has a son who is not a kid. he can understand things very well... when the son comes to know that mom was like this... his relation as a son will diminish and there will be too many cracks in thier relation ... Don't ever spoil a mother - son family relation.. Atleast for the well being of the son U leave that lady... Lady is jus suffering from lust...
u better cut off the relation ship with that lady. its jus a lust.
Once u start having a physical relation with ur wife U might find that ur wife is much better..
May be U should let ur wife know that U r longing for the physical relation and let her educate about sex..
Better let her parents know about this if she is not ready to go for it....
Why don't you take an initiative ... its your life...
2006-09-08 03:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jacuti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must warn u that I am an old fashioned Christian girl, so I completely believe in manogamy. Yet there is the detail of your wife not enjoying your love-making. In all honesty she should not deny you her body. Since u are married each of your bodies belong to the other. Sex is a beautiful act shared between two people who love one another. Why does she think that sex is dirty? Maybe you two should see some sort of marriage counselor. Oh, and did you know her views on sex before u married? If u did then why did you marry her? If not, you should have asked. Please try to work it out.
2006-09-05 07:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife seems to be a mentallly retarted.
Please take her to a Psychiatric.
If she does not want to go voluntarily,
please go the doctor yourself and tell
him everything about your wife only.
He may give some medicines for
her.
Alternatively, talk to her parents
or brothers about her infidality
and they should persuade her
to have nice relationship with you.OR
Send her to her parents house
for about an year for treatment.
Is she of your age(wife)?, If she is
just 1/ 2 years younger to you, you will have
this problem.
In the mean time I think there is no
harm in meeting that lady and get
biological requirements for pleasure.
But don't leave your wife. Some may call
it cheating, but I don't think it is true.
You are brave to admit that you enjoy and she
enjoys too. You are not going to a brothel
and spend money on whores and unsafe sex.
You may not marry this divorced lady, but
have sexual relationship. You may tell her that.
2006-09-05 07:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by pianist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand do u want any certificate from general people 2 proove OK whatever u r doing?
Tell me if u would in the same position as yr wife is, what would yr wife do? Did u permit her 2 have sex relations with other man?
Answer of this question will be the answer of yr question. Be honest while giving answer of my question.
2006-09-05 07:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by SURESH KUMAR C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... is your wife really unwilling to fulfil your "basic need" even after finding out? the woman has a son.. have you thought of the implications of being another's dad? you can't be a faithful husband, can you be a faithful father to a grown up boy??
the child will have basic needs too, so will his mother. can you look beyond yourself and fulfil those? if yes, then go for it... if no, then do both women a favour and leave them both
go find a brothel and keep your basics very nicely fulfilled there
bottom line: the grass always looks greener on the other side!
2006-09-05 07:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be very stupid of you to marry this lady . she is having what she needed the most ( i don't know for how long) and in one month of sexual pleasure you have forgoten your married life of 3 years . come on man grow op i mean you don't know much about her she got what she wanted so her behaviour towards you is demanding and when the relation stands for some years and you realise that your previous wife would have helped you better in your life than think what will be your step , don't forget her son . in my veiw you should meet some counsellor or medical doctor to help you both to make this relation survive
2006-09-06 09:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in previous birth Karma or Curses due to Sin or in Virtues…. then you listen to what I say.
It would have been your previous birth Karma or sin for which you might have got a good wife but with lesser interest in sex life…here you have to accept with what God has granted to you and lead a peaceful life by controlling yourself…. if you cannot control your wish for sex and if you wish to go after some one else for mere sex…then you are again committing sin with your wife in this birth…
Please remember, in order to have just sex with that lady, what are all sin you are committing here…1) You are spoiling peace in your life …2) You are spoiling a life of a mother of a 12th standard student…3) You are creating tension to that 12th standard boy…4) You are committing very big sin to your wife and finally you are cheating yourself…
No, my dear, you don’t even think of falling in to a ditch …enjoy with what you have been granted by the God …PEACE is one thing which will not come to us so easily…don’t let it go away from your hand so easily…May God give you good thoughts!!
2006-09-05 07:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by NUPAKRY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not everything if i were in your shoes i would never cheat on my wife i dont know how could you do that ? do you like your wife to do this to you?you should have talked to your wife about sex and how important it is to you and you both shoud have decided what to do . if i werw in your wife shoes i would never forgive you . it may be too late but tell her the truth and ask her what to do .
2006-09-05 07:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by baran a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married. You should have never been looking for a new person in the 1st place. You wouldn't be having this problem if you obeyed your wedding vows.
2006-09-05 07:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋