what would you react when your husband confessed that he had an ora1 s3x and s3x with a prostitute? then he says he felt guilty thats why he confessed and realized he loves you more and wants a second chance..
2006-09-04 23:51:22 · 25 answers · asked by addiee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well id have to let him know how pissed off i was at him but at least he felt bad and told you ,as he didnt have to tell you id have a nice long talk with him find out why he felt the need to do this or is he just week,but it depends a lot on how you are together ,if you are normally happy then id have to give him another chance as we all make misstakes and he may never ever do this again,
he must have his reasons ,and these will need to be sorted ,as he must know how much this has hurt you,
be open minded as he could still turn out to be the best partner ever ,and he must love you to be able to tell you this ,other wise he wouldnt have felt guilty,why would he if you ment nothing to him ,give him a hug and tell him that you two from now on will talk more openly and be there more for each other no matter what happens ,i truly think you have a good man there and hes just gone of the rails and only ypu can get him back on ,
i wish you both well,
2006-09-05 00:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs help. He violated a number of man rules and deserves significant punishment. Married guys should not pay for it. Guys have to know that infidelity can lead to the end of your life as you know it. If you do something stupid keep your big mouth shut. If you can't handle the guilt don't do the deed. This info does not help you much but illustrates how stupid he's been about this.
Now that he's figured out how guilty he is he then went and pushed his guilt onto you. His confession was just another cop out. He did not need a second chance if he knew when to be quiet. You need to take a close look at his motives for telling you this. Its more likely some kind of message.
2006-09-05 07:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's really important to be honest with your spouse in all things, but he should've been honest BEFORE he cheated on you, so that's past and neither of you can change that. I've heard that when a mistake, a concious mistake like this has been made that he should just repent and not tell you and never ever ever ever do it again or even think about it, and if he does, then he should tell you and either you guys divorce or.... heck, I don't know.
But he's done this only once, right? And just with a prostitute, not a girlfriend, right?
It's taking a chance, but, I might give him one more chance. I know people personally who've been through similar circumstances. One couple lasted forever after that, the other three couples did not because their spouses cheated on them again, so, I guess you have a 1 out of 3 chances of it working out. But the only way to know if you will be the one chance of it working is to stick with him and forgive him. Forgiving doens't mean forgetting. You don't have to trust him. You don't have to be super sweet to him or accept what he's done. You can just stay with him and wait for him to prove himself to you all over again. Take as long as you need with this process.
Honey, I'm soooo sorry for what you must be going through inside! Pray for strength and guidance on the best thing... and pray for your husband to repent and heal!!
2006-09-05 06:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave his dirty a$s before you catch something... A leopard never changes it's spots... He says he'll never do it again, but that's a load of bull$hit... He did it once didn't he? So whats stopping him from doing it again when he gets 'bored' at home?
I don't know you but you deserve so much better Chicky...
And as for having an excuse for cheating, pfft that's a load of $hit, there is no excuse for committing adultery... I'm annoyed that so many people answered the question by telling you he deserves another chance because quite frankly HE DON'T! He has betrayed you and then gloated about it in a suck-up way to your face... Nah, that's so not right...
2006-09-05 07:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband confessed AFTER he was caught then I would think twice about giving him a second chance. If you decide to do so, I would force him to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. It doesn't matter if it was just oral sex (you only have his word that's all it was... he lied to you 3 times before what makes you think he will tell you the truth about that?) I would also make it perfectly clear that if I found out he done it again that would be it without any discussion.
2006-09-05 07:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if my husband ever had anything to do with a prostitute i wouldnt give him a chance not even if he begged or cried or romanced me i wouldn't be able to trust him again it will always be in the back of my mind so i would for sure dump him leave him
ur husband betrayed u and vows and especially if he went with a prostitute no chance there i would leave
2006-09-05 07:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much do you trust him to never do this again? That's the question. If you honestly believe that it will never happen and you truly love him then I would make him get a check for disease at the doctors and then try to start again. If you think he will do it again, that's when you start to talk separation, then most likely divorce, but that is just me.
2006-09-05 06:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by freyed2000 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He didn't love you when he was cheating on you. Sorry, but I don't need a husband who can turn their feelings for me on and off.
If my husband did that, I'd leave him....no question about it.....and I wouldn't be back. I respect myself too much to stay in a situation like that.
2006-09-05 07:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after he did this why the hell he told you?to hurt you or what?
i don't understeand mans hwo get married and than they realise they want other relationship with some one they don't know anything about.why they are getting married?if one man wants more than one woman i think he should never get married.it's verry sad for you but i hope you will find a way to go on but if he did one time he will do allways
2006-09-05 07:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first husband was a cheater and a liar.10 years later we divorced.My regret,I should of divorced him when it happened and saved 10 years of my life.The key word here is (Love),if you love someone you wont cheat!
2006-09-05 07:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋