Ok, here goes - it's a bit long. I had a 3 year relationship with this guy when we were teens. We'd known each other for years. We lost our innocence together. We split up because he couldn't commit. Anyway, he looked up my name on an internet site for reuniting school friends, which I joined recently. Since then, we've been flirting shamlessly via email. He's single, never married. Sometimes I wonder if he's been hanging on in the hope he'd find me again (I don't mean to sound big headed with that), or maybe that's just fantasy. I'm seperated, and I've been upfront about having kids. He really wants me to go over to where he lives and meet up. I think we all know where that will lead! I am tempted. Should I? Or should I leave the past where it is? It's been 9 years since we broke up, we're both in our late twentys. I need outside advice on this one.
2006-09-04 23:49:21 · 13 answers · asked by ziggy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry, bozo the clown you picked me up wrong. I already have kids, not I want to have kids. I've been upfront about being a mum now, that's what I meant
2006-09-05 00:01:48 · update #1
If he knows about your children and is willing to accept the fact your a package deal now ..there is no reason not to meet up with him and see if that little piece of the past can be rekindled ..
My sister in law was in your shoes .. after her late passed away she met up with her first love by accident while travelling through the town where he was living .. turned out he never married and loved her very much ... in the end ..she was never sorry that she met up with him .. they had many years together before he passed away
2006-09-04 23:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think there is something there, go visit him, but do not let anything happen. If he has grown up a little he will wait, if he expects you to hit the sack right away, you know he is only looking for one thing. Of course, if your ok with that, that's your call. But, if you want something more and think it will work with him, go visit with him somewhere public and see how things feel, but keep him waiting for anything else, otherwise you have no chance at a relationship.
2006-09-05 06:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Babbles my dear what make you think that this egocentric male would have changed and and that he will be willing to commit now the only thing he is after is your body, the one he remembered from your teen days. The fact that he wants you to come over to his place is in the hope that you will not bring the children along so that he can make out with you that is why he will not come over to your place. Leave him be he is canned heartache and you are going to regret it
2006-09-05 07:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to get ****** up once again then you can always get back to him..'Coz from the male point of view I can assure you that guys are not much interested to get settled with their EXs..rather , they want to have some fun once more only to leave it in its very place.. So, move ahead.. Do not look back.. Give yourself a fresh lease of life..
2006-09-05 06:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by kallol163 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know the answer to that. I think you guys are older and wiser. I think you should give it another chance. Good Luck.
2006-09-05 06:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this?could it turn out 2 be something good with u 2? serious? if u think its gonna just be sex and thats all then i would leave it alone.
2006-09-05 07:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by bullit_77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi if you are separated what do you have to lose
even if its just a fling thing go for it mabey a new light will be seen in both of your eyes. go for it girl .
2006-09-05 06:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by forevertrue14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must agree with Shanota's suggestion . Good luck .
2006-09-05 07:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what u want and what his intentions are. Just talk with him and ask what his expectations are. If they allign with yours then meet with him. If not, then it isn't meant to be. Good luck to u, Hon! :)
2006-09-05 06:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go for it. It might just be the best thing you ever do.
2006-09-05 06:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by shanota 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋