I have tried to tell him many times and in many ways. He doesn't want the divorce, but I definitely do. We have each started individual counseling and I am trying to find the strength to tell him and get him to accept it. The house is my parents. They recently sold it to us. Therefore, I am not leaving, but am having a hard time getting him to leave. Anyone have any suggestions? The only way I see it happening is to file and have him served without him knowing it's coming. This seems too cruel even for me.
2006-09-04 23:33:50 · 12 answers · asked by hljones1169 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF YOU HAVE TRIED ALL & IT IS NOT WORKING, WHAT YOU SUGGEST IS THE ONLY ALTERNATIVE.........
I PLAYED ALONG LIKE YOU ARE, HOPING MY PARTNER WOULD MOVE OUT.
GUESS HOW LONG WAS I STUCK IN THAT SO CALLED RELATION ---------------- FIVE YEARS.........
ACT FAST & GIVE HIM THE BOOT..........
& BE STRONG, THAT IS MOST IMPORTANT.
2006-09-04 23:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sarang 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just answered your own question:
The only way I see it happening is to file and have him served without him knowing it's coming.
As for him not leaving the house, once you have served papers, and are able to prove that you are the sole owner of the house, then you can have him evicted and removed by the courts.
But seeing as they sold the house to the both of you (which explains why he does not want to leave), cut your losses, sell the house and move away.
You sound a little vindictive and thus are letting your emotions get in the way of common sense. Time to cut the ties that bound you and think of the overall picture instead of the here and now.
2006-09-04 23:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Funny Frankie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probable is only the medicine. What are you able to do for now? you're able to have the skill to ask a nurse, well-being care expert or the well-being facility chaplain for suggestion or perhaps (maximum possibly the chaplain might try this) to talk to him approximately it privately in case you sense this is mandatory. i might say this is maximum possibly the medicine although, human beings say some loopy stuff while they're in discomfort and doped up, asking a physician or nurse approximately this could set your concepts comfortable using fact they cope with this on a daily basis and their handle it's going to be from a expert view.
2016-10-01 08:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by ehinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why U want to Divorce him,,, 1st of all u are not dared to express the divorce,,that means internally u still have some Likes for him,,so instead of thinking of divorce 1st try to stay with him,, even after if u feel difficult then u can say with point blank,,,
But i think u will have a nice life,,,coz internally u still love him
2006-09-04 23:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by joy_joy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's interesting that you call him "Hubby"... which is usually a term of endearment.
Look, if you've made the decision, THAT'S the hard part. Just execute the plan. Hire an attorney, file the papers, and tell him to "hit the road jack". Sounds like you've decided that it's no longer an "US"... but rather a ME.
So stop acting like you have to consult him.
2006-09-04 23:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
apparently, you have discussed divorce if you know he doesn;t want one .. have him served at work and either pack his personal stuff and/or move it into storage the same day .. a divorce is a stressful event and no amount of soft peddling is going to make it any easier ... it may seem harsh, but its a clean break and there is no doubt of your intentions ... its all done but the haggling over who gets what out of what you have jointly purchased ... btw, the lawyers usually get most of it ... good luck
2006-09-04 23:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
communicate... tell him straight forward, stating your reasons. Discuss the issue but clearly let him know that u are going ahead with the divorce.
2006-09-04 23:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya it seems cruel, I think you should talk to him and tell him on his face that you want divorce.
2006-09-04 23:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You want to keep the cake in your hand and want to eat it too. You can't do it. You decide in one direction and get rid of him for ever,
2006-09-04 23:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by a j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give him the house. He deserves it for putting up with you all those years when you were running around on him.
2006-09-04 23:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋